We all have our different boundaries. You have yours, she has hers, I have mine. We all have a right to set them and by setting them, we are not being mean or petty. I think it’s great that your learning to set boundaries. People don’t know our boundaries until we show them. If your neighbor is asking for sugar, milk, asking if you can be there for a Parcel drop or asking for your laundry card because the machine is down in the laundry room and you keep saying sure, no problem. She wouldn’t know she’s over stepping your boundaries. But in saying that, if she’s always asking to borrow stuff or not paying back money she borrowed in anyway. She is more then likely the type of person, you have to show your boundaries to loud and clear. Doesn’t mean she’s a bad person, unless she turns into a royal b**ch because your saying no. Then hey, you don’t need that sh*t in your life and your better off cutting the relationship off. If she calls all the time for sugar, milk, flour, it’s more then ok to say,” sorry I can’t this time. Like you said, the stores just down the street. She’s a big girl. If she asks if you can be there for a parcel drop off, you can say,” if I’m around sure or I can’t this time. Same with your laundry card. If she didn’t pay you back, when she use it. Just say, sorry I can’t I was left short last time. Or do what Sweetpea said, because that was good advice. Boundaries don’t make us a mean, petty, selfish person. They make us a happy, heathy person and your doing just that. Your seeing the boundaries you would like to set.? That’s awesome!
