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You sound angry with me. I'm sorry if I've caused any offense. They might not make sense but they are the worries and thoughts from my perspective. Don't get me wrong, I understand why she wants the divorce and do not blame her at all. However the reasons below help explain some of the...

I have very little recollection of some of my reactions to situations and have also shut a lot of the temper and arguments out completely. I have a meeting with Combat Stress at the beginning of March. My (ex-to be)wife is coming with with me to help as I just cannot answer manyof the questions...

Thank you for all your kind words and support. The saddest thing is that she's taken a man who worshiped the ground she walked on, who loved her without reservation, who supported her in anything she wanted to do, who has been a full hands-on Dad and tried to put her first even whilst suffering...

I could have written that myself!! It takes me at least 24 hours to react to anything at the moment. It took me 10 years to start showing signs of PTSD and 30 years for the roof to cave in. It's been like a snowball rolling down hill getting bigger and bigger. I also could never see a pattern...

Today I decided that I'm going to take up bread making when my wife leaves in a couple of weeks. I have found a fab book about Italian bread making and I think this will be good therapy and fun. It will also help me to eat again.

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Citizens Advice is brilliant at knowing who to contact and where to get help. They may even help you fill out the forms. Don't feel that you're not entitled. You might be surprised at how much help you are entitled to. The best way to contact Citizens Advice is to drop in to see them. Don't try...

Well, nothing I can say or do has helped. Over the past 2 months I've started therapy with the local Mental Health team, had help from the Veterans Agency, been visited by Combat Stress who I will be starting treatment with next month and been diagnosed. I've been through divorce mediation and...

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Welcome to the forum! We all have our ghosts, some will have similar to yours. All of us are just trying to help each other. The forum has been a great help to me and I hope it will be for you too.

Gizmo, This is terrible. I'm so sorry. This guy is dangerous. The fact he won't admit it, isn't showing any remorse and seems to think that it's all her fault is really worrying. You have some great advice here that I completely agree with. The one thing I would add is to get an attorney...

Today I'm feeling somewhat happy because I have an appointment with Combat Stress up at Audley Court. This is a major milestone for me. Thank God. I'm also feeling totally beaten. My wife is taking every symptom of PTSD as some kind of intentional evil-doing on my part. I can't do her anger at...

Still feeling totally sad and down. I'm numbing towards my wife and that makes me even sadder. I have tried and tried and tried with no success to make her change her mind. I have no other way to cope with this situation that I don't understand. I would have thought that after 15 years it was...

thanks safenow

Very sad today. Thinking of whats coming fills me with something I can't identify. Sadness, grief and wishing it wasn't so. Another part of me says that I need this so I can heal in peace.

Totally confused today. Everything appears to be under control. Where did that come from? Is this normal?

Well, I am in the strange position of being the sufferer but on the receiving end of the "I love you but.." thing. I have pushed and pushed over the past 13 years and my wife has finally had enough. She says that I'm still her best friend and that she'll always be there for me "on the end of a...

I lost my parents 12 years ago and a brother 30 years ago and I still have a tear in my eye when I think about them. They are all still there for me and I think of the happy times rather than the sad. That's the only thing that time can help with.

Frankie and all. I am a sufferer and my wife has been facing the same issues as you all. I've had my chances to get help but didn't take them. Now, unfortunately she has decided she has to move on. I don't blame her, I just wish it wasn't so. All your words have made me realize that she...

Feeling very tearful today. Obviously an overflow of stress but I'm not sure what exactly. It feels like I'm facing the Mongol Hoards sometimes. I just don't know where to start.

I'm thankful for the hope that one day this will pass.

Thanks Sailorgal, we always have been, that's part of what hurts so much but I appreciate your words. I know I face a long and difficult journey with this but I've got my boots on now and will just keep walking. If she wants to walk beside me then that would be just fine. If she doesn't then...

Today I had my first meeting with Combat Stress. A veterans charity which deals with Combat PTSD. I bared my soul and sobbed. Even my wife cried when she heard some of what has been going through my head with flashbacks and memories. The good news is that they're going to help me. That is such...

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Numb today (so far)