My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

[nimkekaa]

I haven't been online much and just read about what happened to your daughter and you. I am so sorry your family has to go through this.

I am trying to remain calm for everyone

You did everything you needed to do to protect your family. I wish I had a mom like you. When things calm down then make sure you do some major self care. You deserve it and will need it.

Hugs

 

[winterose]

The problem is that she has animals and is very attached to them and worries about them. They will not allow animals into the shelter.

There is a PDF files for exactly this.
http://vachss.com/guest_dispatches/safe_havens.html it was done by Frank R. Ascione, Ph.D. It is a very helpful guide to open some communications with Domestic Violence, the police etc. Most police departments and DA's are aware that pet's can be harmed and might be able to help your daughter look for a no kill shelter willing to help her "foster" her pet until such time you can get him out of the home.

 

[safenow]

(((( Gizmo ))))) ((((( gizmo's daughter ))))) ((((( gizmo's grandchildren ))))).

 

[Loner]

I wish I had a mom like you.

Yea, me too.

 

[safenow]

Me three.

 

[Cufflinks]

He sent her a text and does not admit to doing anything. According to him, she is stirring up troubles for him, and he will not be there to pay the bills. He says he did not do anything.

Gizmo,
This is terrible. I'm so sorry.

This guy is dangerous. The fact he won't admit it, isn't showing any remorse and seems to think that it's all her fault is really worrying.

You have some great advice here that I completely agree with. The one thing I would add is to get an attorney. Quick. This guy needs restraining orders against him and anything else the attorney thinks necessary. A good family lawyer will have had experience of this type of thing before and it's important to get the facts over to them whilst it's still fresh.

As for paying the bills, I think the attorney will have something to tell him about that.

Take care. Thinking of you.

 

[pandora]

I am so sorry this has happened....

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you all for your continued support. I really need it alot. Thank you for the tips and advice. I will tell her about this. He did not come, he had a friend come by for him to pick up the vehicles and waited in a parking lot. She will come over at noon. I will try to get her a lawyer and get her phone on out account.

I am trying to remain calm. My husband does not have a fever. I will have to go out to get some cash, some more cigarettes and frappes for us. I will keep you guys updated if that is ok. I really need the support and you guys have been wonderful for me and are helping me so much. Thank you is not enough.

 

[JustBe]

((((Gizmo))) Hang in there;)

 

[winterose]

Gizmo, I so look foreword to your posts and sigh relief when you do. I admire you daughter very much for following through. And that idiot staying behind is a good sign. It means he knows the cops have him by the, well, you know the things he should have. I know it's far from over but small breaks to regenerate can help alot. You, Gizmo, are an awesome lady. You, Gizmo, raised a hell of a daughter, and that says sooooo much. Just a thought but is there something your hubby is particularly fond of like a certain music or a guy toy or something that he hasn't had in a longtime? Getting that might provide a distraction a bit for him and give you some down time too. Just a suggestion. HUgs to you all.

 

[Froggie]

(((((Hugs to all your family Gizmo))))) you are all in my prayers. You're doing everything that is needed to be done.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

We all did good today. My daughter sent the girls to school with a copy of the temporary restraing order. She is really on top of things.

She came over and we went to Verizon and got her a new phone with all her calls being forwarded to her new number. We will pay the bills for her. Now he has not yet cut her off her phone. He no longer can moniter her phone calls. He does not have any control over her phone and she has a phone to call out. It took about 2 hours to get it all done.

My husband did real good staying home by himself. I kept in touch with him by the cell phone.

He did not panick. He likes the news so I put it on for him. It is really depressing to me. But for some strange reason he can follow the news. He cannot follow movies. But he can follow the news.

I am beginning to feel better. I did all that I was supposed to do today and am now doing the wash. I will not have to do that tommorow.

Your support keeps me going. I so appreciate it. Your prayers mean so much to me. Your tips and advice are so valuable to me.

My brother and sister in law are making calls for me to find out what kind of home health services I am eligable for my husband. I will get home health care to come in and give me a break. I am so grateful to them for taking this on for me with everything that is going on.

I did not get to talk to her about the shelter yet. Her best friend will go to court with her when she has to file for a restraining order that is permanent. We are hoping that he will go back east with his parents.

A police officer was there and he sent a friend to pick up his vehicles. He is obeying the restraining order. She packed up some clothes for him and sent the two dogs with his friend because they are his dogs.

We did so good today. I have a good feeling about that. She will go and file for welfare and she will file for a divorce. She will do the divorce herself. She will call all of the companies that they have bills with and explain the situation to them. She said they will work with her and she has at least six months to live in the house before they foreclose.

I did everything today. I feel so much better. Knowing I am a possible target I keep the doors locked and the phone by me.

I will be talking to her several times a day. I am sleeping good and my anxiety is not as bad as it was. It is a process and this thing is far from being over. Your support is keeping me going. Thank you all so much. Mabe tommorow I will be able to respond personally to you. I feel bad that I have not been doing that.

I thanked my daughter for being my daughter and she thanked me for being her mom. The girl who helped us with the phone was so helpful getting us all of the discounts that she could.