My Daughter Got Beat Up By Her Husband Last Night While She Was Asleep

[Bilby]

Oh Gizmo, I'm so so sorry to hear this! How awful!

I'm glad she has a Mum like you who is so understanding and supportive - she will need that today, tomorrow and every other day going forward for a while.

She is very brave to go to the police, and they should be able to assist her with the OOP that the others have mentioned - this is additional support for her and her children. I too agree that a women's refuge may be the best place for her and the children right now. Safety has to be top priority now.

Thinking of you all.

B x

 

[safenow]

The bad part about the protective order is that she will have to tell him where she is at all times. And besides, they don't stop bullets. Not to frighten you or anything. A good attorney will know best how to help. Please, let her know not to go back to him, no matter what. Since he did this once, it will happen again. And next time it could even be one of her children.

 

[Abstract]

Gizmo,
I am so sorry. As if there is not enough on all of your plates. I think it is an excellent sign that she went to the police though. And she is very lucky to have you.

I can only imagine what it must feel like to know ones daughter has been at the receiving end of something like this when one has ones own history of violence.

These situations can be be dealt with and I hope it is resolved soon.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

Thank you all for all of your kind and helpful support. She has a temporary protective order. The police took a report and took pictures of her face. She is all messed up.

He sent her a text and does not admit to doing anything. According to him, she is stirring up troubles for him, and he will not be there to pay the bills. He says he did not do anything. The police will search the house and remove all of the guns and they will arrest him at home or at work.

We will sort this out beginning tommorow. They are all in bed now. I am so glad she and the girls are safe. I am leaving the lights on tonight. I hear you about putting her in a shelter.

I am beginning to feel it now. This is so tough on the eldest granddaughter.She is afraid he will come here with a gun. What a thing for a little kid to worry about. It makes me so sick. She is going to go and file for divorce, probably tommorow. I do not know all that she has to do now.

I think the shelter is a good idea until they get him. They said they would call her once they have arrested him. I hate him. I hate cowards like him. I get so sick of their bullying ways. Luckily she is in therapy and on medication now. My husband was so sweet to her. He kissed her on the top of her head.

I am scared too. I hate being terrorized. He is trying to make out like she put the marks on her. She has a terrible black eye and a huge bruise on her jaw and chest. She ate and she had a couple of glasses of wine.

I will have to make some calls tommorow. We will get all of the help we can get. I am afraid to go to bed. I am afraid he is driving by us in the dark and is slashing our tires. I am so scared. He is such a jerk. Well he got caught this time. He has not called us. He knows better.

He was fighting with her and he went downstairs to sleep and came up when she was sleeping and started beating her up. What a nightmare. I am so glad she got out of there with the girls and came here. We will see if she will go to a shelter tommorow. They gave her a case number and a number for her to call. It is so scary. I cannot tell you all how much your support means to me. I so appreciate all of you and what you had to say. Thank you so much.

 

[Lucycat]

Gizmo,
I am so sorry for what you are all going through. What a nightmare. Stay strong. Take all the help you can get.

Hope you all find a feeling of safety soon.

 

[Queen Boudica]

What a truly despicable coward; to beat a woman up when she was sleeping. And he must have waited for her to go to sleep before going up; he calculated it. How terrifying for her to wake up to that. And then he makes the pathetic claim that she did it herself. No-one is ever going to believe him on that one. He has shown his true character.

That is good the police have taken it seriously and are removing his guns. Shame they don't treat him to a beating when he is asleep in the prison cell when they arrest him.

I suspect this guy is a real coward, he can only hide behind his guns and beating up a woman when she is sleeping. Hopefully he will stop at that.

Your daughter and you are the truely brave ones here. Your granddaughter has such a good example of strong women. Tell your granddaughter her mother has stood up to the bully and it will be alright. He has lost his power.

I hope they get him soon. I hope they keep him in jail for a long time.

 

[71nothing]

Gizmo, so sorry your family is going through this. You have so much on your plate. Hugs to you and your family.

 

[winterose]

I am so relieved to hear from you gizmo. What a piece of crap he is. Keep cell phones charged just in case. IF he does show up don't confront him or try to get him to leave. Call the police and wait. Anything he does at that point goes against him. Make sure 911 can hear any disturbances he might be doing outside because that is a recorded line and it will help your daughter in court against him.

I am glad she is feeling empowered to go see an attorney. I am so sorry for the kids. I agree with Lizio with letting your gran-daughter know they are safe and their mom is standing up to a bully.

Hugs to you gizmo.

 

[Ice_Fire]

(((((Gizmo and family)))))

Gosh, what an awful man. I'm glad your daughter and grandkids are now safe and with you. I'm also glad that the Police are taking it seriously and will be arresting him.

 

[discarded]

Oh Gizmo, what can I say other than you and your family are in my prayers. It is a frightening situation for all of you to be in. Make a list, write down everything that needs to be done here to ensure your safety and that of your daughter and grandchildren. Take on board every bit of help you are offered now. Your daughter is extremely lucky to have such a wonderful supportive mum. Let us here be your support too. ((((Hugs to all of you))))

 

[shell]

((Gizmo)), I hope your family stay safe, and that you are able to get some support for yourself as well. Hopefully he will get the punishment he deserves.

 

[intothelight]

Gizmo,

I am so sorry that your daughter and your family are going through this. Your daughter did the right thing by going to the police.

Make sure she keeps tabs on any texts, phone messages, or sightings as these can be violations of the protective order. Any violation, no matter how slight should be reported to the police. It is important that he knows she isn't mucking around.

Keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.

:hug: