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I'm feeling depressed and anxious. I'm feeling beaten down. I'm feeling angry that he doesn't seem to think that "we" are worth it. By that I mean getting into therapy. I feel helpless.

Crying is something that "he" doesn't like me to do. It makes him feel bad. He feels bad enough. I don't want to make him feel worse. Also growing up my mother always told me "why are you crying? There's nothing to cry about" - So I just hold it in. I still wish there is something I can...

I wish I knew of a helpline number I could call. I have to hold back from crying. And I keep telling myself I'm one poor excuse for a "supporter".

You were not harsh at all. You were telling it as it is. I respect that. Yes I know it is the right thing. I just wish it was me leaving because I would be gone already. But since it is my house he has to leave and it will be a few days more. And thanks for the kind thoughts for my dog...

He is suppose to be leaving Monday morning. Everything is happening to make it hard for him. No money, car issues, no place to go. Everything he tries to do something gets in the way. Yesterday he said he thought it was time to end it all. So today I wake up and I'm feeling really bad. I...

Ray of hope - I do think it is a way to manipulate me. And it works. But I know I can't continue to live this way. We are not kids. We are both 64 years old! I wish it could be different, but I know it never will be until he comes to terms with himself. In the meantime I am going to get...

That's my dilemma. He says it at least once a week. But now I told him we could not live together and he is moving 400 miles away with no where to go and very limited funds (like $1500). And he just said it again.

He is leaving on Monday. He is trying to secure an apartment in Vegas. Little (to me - major to him) things keep going wrong. Now he just said he thinks its time to put an end to it all. He said he would not do it here because I just cleaned, but he can do it in his car. One shot to his...

I feel very sad because we are splitting up I feel guilty because I couldn't "fix" him I feel guilty because I can't learn to just live with it. I feel very sad and afraid for him because he will be leaving with hardly any funds and no place to go. I feel sad for him because he has no friends...

Here I sit feeling guilty. WHY? Because he basically a good person. Except for the fact that he doesn't want to get help. He dangles getting help in front of me which I now realize is a way to control me. When we argue he always says he just wants to get the F___ out of here. Complains...

I have asked him to get help. He doesn't seem to want it. He actually HAD an appt set up at the VA a few weeks ago. We had an argument and he cancelled the appt. Almost like spiting me. All he says is he knows he won't follow through. And he says this is the way he is and that he should...

Quick history. My highschool boyfriend (we are now 64) and I moved in together last fall. Within a month I discovered he had terrible "breakdowns" where he would rant and rave. I came from a verbally and emotionally relationship so his breakdowns really affected me. After about 6 months he...

I'm angry at myself. I should have told him to stay in Vegas. But no...I let him come back. And is anything different? No, not a thing. I'm so tired of hearing "this is the way I am". And that is suppose to be his excuse for unacceptable behavior? I'm not buying it any more. Well, I...

Thank you - I do know that but it is so hard to watch someone self destruct. We will be going our separate ways soon and that will help me come to terms at lot easier, I think. Maybe him as well. Again Thank You. I am going to try to repeat to myself hourly "he is in charge of his life, not me"

Hi all. I'm back again. I thought today would be a better day but I woke up having anxiety. It didn't help that I adopted a rescue Scottish Terrier last nite that only has one eye and had been neglected for years. I thought maybe it would help to get my mind off my sufferer. Now I'm worried...

Yes is is also a VietNam vet. He says he was once diagnosed with PTSD but never followed thru. He has an appt at the VA this Friday for mental health (I assume for PTSD) but once we had our arguement he said he was not going. And will not go once he gets back to Vegas either. So that tells...

Thank you everyone. Yes, I know this is co-dependant behavior on my part. Funny how that creeps back in with feeling like it's my fault. But I do have a sane side of me that says "NO IT IS NOT YOUR FAULT". And I fight within myself to keep that thought. I took my dog (she gets affected...

I hope I don't wear out my welcome but I am having a hard time today. I am blaming myself for not being more "understanding". Does anyone else on here have a sufferer that "hates" everything? He see's people on the street and he finds fault with them. He watches the news and he finds fault...

We have not actually "parted" yet as he has to get some money together to move. So it's hard because we are still under the same roof. I have asked him over and over to stop with the negativity - he knows it really bothers me. So yes, I'm angry with him that he gives no thought to my...

I've been on here in the past. In a nutshell my boyfriend and I were living together (we are not young...64). He would have bad outbursts and when I finally could no longer deal with it we parted. He went back to Vegas. I live in Tucson. He was gone about 3 months and kept begging me to...

My boyfriend and I have been living apart. He has wanted terribly to come "home". I told him in order for that to happen he would have to seek treatment at the VA. (He has combat ptsd) He said he would. Then the time came that he was going to come home and he didn't. He made up an excuse...

Looking for someone to talk to in Tucson, Arizona. Anyone out here?

In reading this I had a realization. It's not that I'm letting him go. He's already gone. It's that I have to let go of the dreams of what could have been.

My boyfriend and I had been talking about him coming back to live with me. I had told him that for it to happen he would have to agree to going to the VA. He was all for it. One day. Then not. Then yes. Then he wanted to get married. Then he asked if he just showed up would I let him in...

I'm wondering - Do you have PTSD and that is why she can't deal with you anymore? Are you receiving any type of treatment? The reason for my questions is my boyfriend and I are living in different states. We were together but because of his untreated PTSD he moved out. He keeps saying he...