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Hello everyone. I was wondering if any suffered had personal experience with abandoning their children? I am sure it is a difficult topic to discuss but I really need to hear from you. My ex left me and our 3.5 year old daughter 6 months ago. When he first left it was out of nowhere and it...

Hello Everyone, I've been away for a bit just trying to keep my head on straight with my new normal. I wanted to give an update on what's been going on in our lives and get some wisdom, opinions, etc.. First, I'll start with the changes I have made personally for the better. I started taking...

As hard as it was to file the child support paperwork, I got it done and tried to put it out of my mind. I knew the holiday was going to be difficult with his absence so I was prepping and felt as ready as I could be. Yesterday I get a text from his mother telling me that his aunt (he is...

I just need to vent this out because the past few days have been rough for me. I very well could have gone out of my mind woman crazy. We all know the kind of woman crazy I'm talking about. Hell hath no fury kind of thing. Last I posted I felt stronger and more at peace. I took a stand for...

I've been slowly coming out of the shock and awe of his leaving and am very slowly beginning to take steps to secure my daughter and I for a life that doesn't include him. It is so so hard. I still cry everyday but I'm moving. It took me 2 months to print the child support papers and another...

I get it... But I still don't get it. Why is he so damn mean and cold to ONLY me?!?! It's starting to make me believe that oh my god maybe it is me?!?! He's got everyone else convinced, why not join the parade of people who think I'm a lunatic. Ugh. We are in month 3 now operation family...

So in a nutshell I'm looking for sufferers and supporters to give me their insight and guidance on how to handle an upcoming situation. Short version long term relationship, have a 3 year old together. This is our 3rd "abandonment" episode. He is an Alcoholic, PTSD from childhood sexual...

Week 5, or maybe it's 6 since he left us. Not sure. It could be 7! Being a single mother is hard. Far more difficult than I anticipated and I certainly don't recall it seeming easy! The worst of the pain I believe has passed but who hell knows anymore. I've done all the right things...

He's been gone just about a month and I'm spinning my wheels in the grief cycle. Not much of a cycle these days. I'm stuck in anger. Anger that I did this to my daughter. What I mean when I say "I" is that hell yeah I did this to her. I didn't give him PTSD or make any of the decisions to...

Hey everyone. I'm really struggling here. If you read my backstory my situation is my sufferer now ex, has PTSD AND Alcoholism. I have been to a lawyer and was waiting for an intervention from his family before I made any kind of moves with how to manage visitation with my daughter. Well...

I'm raging mad. I assume since this is my only child and happens to be with a man with PTSD that many woman experience this even without PTSD being a factor but like I said I am raging pissed off. It's been 3 weeks since he woke up one morning and just decided he didn't love me and moved out...

Hello everyone, I have recently separated from my sufferer... Well he separated himself from us, you all know how it goes! Quick background is we have a 3 year old daughter and he is an alcoholic. He has been out of our home for two full weeks and I'm focused on my daughter and I. Very proud...

After walking on eggshells for about 3 months and trying to avoid what he said was coming, he left. Saturday morning he woke up, showered, walked down to the basement grabbed some boxes, packed kissed our 3 year old on the top of her head and left.. Just like that. I knew it was coming but...

Hello everyone, For a weeks my husband and I have been on the downside of our roller coaster and I'm looking for advice. My mind is blurred with thoughts on whether I am being protective of my daughter and I, or am I just trying to be passive aggressive/hold on as long as I can. First let me...

Well, here I am back again. It's been awhile since I've visited the site seeking wisdom and comfort but I suppose I always knew I would be back. Here is a little backround info but I'm sure you are all familiar with my story since you live it every day...

After a long haitus from this board, here I am again. Looking for support and advice or maybe even just to vent. Venting to family and friends is almost impossible these days since when I do, the advice I receive seems unrealistic. Maybe I'm just not ready to take the advice, I don't know. My...

Hey everyone. Last I posted you all gave me some very good advice on how to handle things with my sufferer and our little girl. I took your advice and was very firm with what was best for her and I. I didn't budge. I always give in when it comes to what I want for myself but when it came to...

So it's been awhile since I've posted and that is mainly because like many people who post I typically only post when I'm unhappy or have a problem. I have been happy. If you read some of my previous posts you will see that my sufferer had left me and our baby months ago and we have been...

I think the name of the thread speaks for itself but man am I frustrated. I need to vent. Obviously nobody wants to deal with alcoholism in their lives at any point but as many of you know when you grow up with this in your family you can often times become one of us lovely "codependents"...

Hi everyone. After a month separation my sufferer who has combat PTSD and PTSD from childhood sexual abuse came home to my daughter and I. Things were not bad and I felt like I was doing a much better job than I had ever done with dealing with PTSD. When he came home we discussed the ways I...

It's been a month since my boyfriend left my daughter and I. It has taken until Wednesday night for us to be able to have a conversation about his PTSD and our family. My mom had sat down with him earlier that day to go over information about PTSD because he wasn't educated about his own...

When you leave your spouce/relationships abruptly, what is really going on in your mind? What are your rationizations at that time for making such drastic decisions? Do you battle with yourself like good vs evil? If you start to change your mind does pride keep you from making it right? I...

A few days ago I posted that my boyfriend (father to my 6 month old baby) had left us. After many many crazed attempts at getting him to realize he was making a huge mistake and he needed to finally get help for his PTSD I made the huge mistake of using my daughter as a tool to try to get him...

Today I told my boyfriend (who left us last week) not to come near me or our 6 month old baby until he makes the decision to go back to therapy. Was this the wrong thing to do? I feel like I had no other choice but to show him I was serious about him getting help. I don't want my daughter to...

Hi everyone. I'm new here but I appreciate the warm welcome yesterday on the introductions board. I'm feeling so lost today. I have no idea what I am doing. I posted yesterday that about a week ago he left me and our 6 month old baby. I have no idea what to do next. I have let him know I...