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Tonight I've made a date to go for a dog walk with friends and then have them over for dinner :)

You know that you are harming him by enabling his drinking. You're doing it so you can get to know the "real" him. Umm....NO!!! That's selfish,needy & co-dependent. Yes alcohol can initially alleviate the anxieties but overall, in situations like this, it does way more harm than good. You...

5km walk with the dogs. Qayaq pool practice.

You deserve to get help. You deserve to have support. You are take a huge, brave step reaching out. Good for you!! :tup:

Hit the weights this morning. Squats, bench and bodyweight complex. Then went for 15 km x-c ski this afternoon.

Good for you!! :tup:

THAT!!! That is pure gold!!! It's not your job to make him comfortable and happy. It's his responsibility. He needs to take back his responsibility for his own comfort and happiness. Then he can regain control over his environment. Sometimes that means putting on some earplugs or headphones...

Good to hear it! I wish you all the best in addressing your anxiety challenges. It's a rough combination when also trying to balance being a PTSD supporter. I sometimes struggle to keep my anxieties at bay too. Just wanted to shout out to you and remind you that you're not alone :)

Yeah, I sometimes feel alone. That's why I got 2 dogs to cuddle :) However, I don't give a shit what others think about us. My main priority is to be there for my husband no matter what either of our family or friends think. if they're gonna judge us because we don't sleep in the same bed then...

How are you doing @Wastinglight ? Hope you're getting the supports and resources you need to help yourself work through your GAD. :hug:

Thank you @ptsdspouse2b :hug: Posting here has really helped me process some of this. I do have a lot of work to do. And if we want to move past this then yes, BOTH of us have a lot to do. Thank you everybody for all your support this past week. It has helped me immeasurably!! <3

@discarded - Thank you for sharing your experience. I'm sorry it brought up so many difficult feelings of you. :( Right now my main short-term priority is to get him out to proper medical treatment. I think once he's actually in proper treatment, I can spend some real time exploring all this...

I can't answer your question. Only your spouse answer that question. For me and my spouse, I do stuff without him all the time. I've always done stuff without him. We have lots of activities and hobbies that we do together. But there's other things that I know he's not into (like skiing, going...

I've been dealing with insomnia again since last weekend when I found out he'd been having an online affair and then made comments alluding to suicide. I didn't sleep at wink that night for fear that he would take his own life. I've been getting by (barely) on 3-4 hours a night this week. Even...

I cuddled my dogs :)

Hit the gym. Rocked the squats : 175lbs x 5 x 5 :) Gonna head out for some x-c skiing this afternoon. It's beautiful day. Housework??? What housework :p

On one hand I would encourage you to talk about it with and when you are comfortable with those you choose to share this with. I totally encourage this. At the same time, I would caution that you may not get the supportive response you are looking for from your family. I don't know you. I don't...

Take this as a opportunity for yourself to recharge and refresh and focus on YOU!

My work finally got a Employee Assistance Program which provides phone counselling for a wide range of issues. It's been a huge help. I was at first kinda weirded out about talking about what I'm going through as a supporter with a stranger. But it's been really helpful to have a place to...

Take care of YOU!!!! Have a great time :)

Supporter here. I can empathize with your frustration. Totally. It took me a while to accept that I was not going to have the relationship that I was used to having with my husband. I had to accept all the assumptions and expectations that I had in terms of intimacy and communication did not...

Hit the gym on Saturday and then 4 hours of volunteer work. Sunday is going to be skiing and goofing off with the dogs and then qayaq practice Sunday night at the pool. Might have some friends over afterwards. WOOHOO the weekend is nearly here!!

@anthony - Thank you so much!! I was just thinking about doing a mind map of what I'm feeling. That thread totally spoke to me. I guess I have some homework to do ;)

Thank you @ptsdspouse2b! I am SO relieved he is getting help. I so wish I could just be happy & relieved about this and not have to deal with this other crap.

Thank you @moonbeam for sharing your experience and kind words :)