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One way is science. There is actually a brain process that enables humans to 'get over crap'. . .to move on, etc. PTSD severely damages that process. The hippocampus is very important to the 'get over crap' process in our brains. . .and there is enough research out there that indicates damage...

I know I'm late to this, but this line made me tear up with laughter after a very angry day. You are the most excellent. :)

thought I would give you some attention. :) Just wanted to agree that the list of distorted cognitions is a pretty powerful tool. . .and not just for us, for everyone with a human brain. :) How many of our abusers may not have abused us if they had been aware of their own distortions? How...

The 'Bernie won't win' thing frustrates me. First, because the actual evidence has him running nearly neck-to-neck with Hillary (and with bigger leads than Hillary against any Repub). . .even with a whole lot of people saying they like him most, but aren't going to vote for him 'because he...

Some things to try during what sounds like a real crisis. If you have a t, call. If you have a crisis line available, call. Try this for a few minutes. Every phrase your brain spits out, add 'for now' at the end of it. Example: I'm so done. . .for now. I'm so tired of it all. . .for now...

My first reaction is that do you feel it is creepy or stalkerish? Are you uncomfortable with it? In a broader sense, do you set boundaries when his symptoms infringe on you? If you are OK with this, then that is what matters. If you become not-OK with it in the future, then you can set the...

My trauma was so tied up with religion, that there was absolutely no way for me to maintain religious beliefs and heal. One of the few strong memories I have was lying in bed when I was 14/15 and making the final decision that I would rather God kill me than stay alive under the conditions he...

How about another 'P'? Profane. . .finding the humor or absurdity in your abusive environment. My traumas were tightly tied with the religious community I was raised in. . .finding the Profane was a huge help in my survival.

That is beautiful. Thank You

I Coulda Been A Contender, I Coulda Been Somebody.

I haven't confronted him, but my siblings have. . .over the phone. I think they felt a little bit better, but not as much as they hoped. If you do want to confront, I would suggest a few things. 1. Check yourself to see if you are up for it. Then wait for a week to see if you are still up...

. . .when you think you have successfully 'been in the moment' because you spent the next two hours analyzing everything about the moment.

Appreciate your post and agree. My post was probably not accurate, but my brain does connect the two concepts in a way that lends itself to condemning self-compassion. . .so that is definitely worth further discussion if other people have the same thought patterns. Thank You

Just wanted to say you're not the only person dealing with this. I seem to need some sort of permission. . .like t specifically asking. . .before I can get my mouth to work. . .sometimes permission isn't even enough.

This is my initial reaction, too. But, I recognize, in myself at least, that this is all or nothing thinking. Self-compassion is probably on the same continuum as selfishness, so the trick is finding a good place where they balance. It sounds like we are both so far at one end of the sprectum...

You know you have Complex Trauma when your whole hometown scares you.

Let's not get too distracted with what IQ means. I scored 170+ on an 'official' test when I was 15 (yep, a real 170+. . .not too many of us out there:) ). I don't think a high intelligence makes PTSD more likely, in fact, it has helped me survive trauma that I may not have survived as well...

Did the religion contribute to the trauma? For me, very definitely. Every child in the religion would hear that old, 'spare the rod, spoil the child' line at least once a week. In fact, if a parent weren't using the rod literally, in the sense that any normal household weapon was considered...

Today, I am thankful for live blues music. Especially the old old old stuff.

Voted yes on all three. Reactions have been mixed, but mostly supportive. In fact, the main negative is that some people just don't know how to be supportive and their attempts at being supportive actually make symptoms worse. I can generally laugh about it a few hours later.

Ouch

Mind if I use this, Underdog? Been trying unsuccessfully to get my new DBT t to understand what I mean when I say I have to find someway to slow myself down. She seems to be taking my comments as avoidance rather than 'help me slow myself down so I don't end up in the hospital again from...

Welcome to the community, Kainita. I think you will find understanding and community here. There are quite a few of us that also haven't found a support system when we were in great need of one, but have found solace here. Hope you find the same.

Hey Digger, I'm a little drunk right now, so, if the shit I say isn't applicable, then ask me in the morning. :) From reading this thread, I think I can relate. . .so I will try. I have to manufacture reasons I want to live. Sounds to me like you are in a similar place. If your brain is...

His death is affecting me a lot, probably more than any death of people I know personally. I was really puzzled by this (I just used my trauma diary to try to figure out what the hell was going on with me.) All I really want to say is this. I think all of us who got something meaningful from...