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Hey Godseeker, In the animal kingdom (cats and dogs and so forth).. prolonged eye contact is viewed as aggression. I think that may be where some of your emotions are kicking in. It's rude.. aka it's breaking rules put there for good reason. I like Tiger's reaction. It's useful AND fun...

Hi Bluethunder! It makes sense to me! Life is about growth. There is a bible verse that says "How can two people walk together unless they be agreed." If you are growing and she is resisting that, how can you 'walk together' .. how can you 'agree'? Healing is messy. Healing is hard...

HI Randy, I was thinking that maybe you might check the chat feature. On the lower left hand corners of the screen is a tiny blue box. If you hold your mouse over it, it will say "Chatrooms". It's possible maybe you might chat someone up while you are there by yourself. I keep checking...

Randy, I do believe in God. I have absolutely no problem accepting your story 'as-is'. I have goosebumps from reading it. I'm so very sorry that you are alone, struggling to be in so many ways. It's beautiful that you offer yourself as support too. You poured yourself out in great...

Hello Johnny! I'm new here too. I've had a very useful experience here so far. Searching the past posts and topics has opened alot of possibilities for me. If that's most of what you do here, I would think you would benefit. Welcome!

Hello Seaworthy, I was curious if you had read "Switching Time"? I found the book helpful.

WOw! And you came back and answered my post the same day :) Way cool! Thanks. I was just hoping against hope that you did go. I've got a smile on my face, even though the whole process probably pulled every ounce of emotional energy outa ya. ((((HUGS if ok)))) I hope that a hug is acceptable.

Hello Catjudo.. I thought of one more thing that I do that seems to help. Donations / Disposition : The simplification created when I am no longer responsible for something. I don't have to manage it, move it, clean it, fix it or answer questions about it. My home has become easier to manage...

Hello Kris, I'm hoipng you can let us know how today went when you are ready... I've been thinking about ya...

Heya C! Actually yes, your spelling and wording are great! You're welcome! I'm also hoping that you'll do some reading of the other posts and resources here. I feel like a big sponge. It's been such a relief to see the coordinated responses to so many of the issues that I thought were unique...

(((((TIGER))))) I understand the mood thing from watching the kids do it. *zipppp* I'm mad! :( .... *Schwooop!* I'm happy! :D..... You wouldn't throw me off with that. *bounce* I'm wired! *bounce* *bounce* Yup! I know all about that. You have a point about not being a different...

I like it! I know the graph doesn't exist, but I'd like to see one that illustrates "Normal Life Functioning" with "% of Dreck Handled". I think that would be motivating. Hey.. you can aspire to normal life MOST of the time... Like categories Acknowledges Diagnosis... (descriptive language)...

Ahhh, well at least I understand better. Tiger, I'm really glad you are resisting making a bigger mess. I have two girls who occassionally get into adolescent angst (not that this is anywhere near as intense).. it's similar in that they can't see what a future for them would be like...

Hello Tiger, I am a Carer. I'm just floating around looking at posts tonight. I saw yours. You asked "When a self destruct button is about to be pushed, how do you stop from pushing the button?" I"d like to think your future self was enough. I mean, you might live on and have a child or...

To Not Being Alone *Toast* Hello C, [Note to anyone else reading the discussion: Jump in, the water's warm!] :wink: Well, if you're shy, I'm extroverted. I'm sorry (not that I'm somehow responsible) that your wife was harsh. I certainly wondered why the phone calls came in at certain points...

WOW.. if you go and read from the front of the discussion to here, you should try it. You'll see your growth. It's a good thing. I agree that friends are the new family. Honestly, when you get married, you and your partner make a promise and from that vow of committment and support, a new...

2quilt, I agree with Marlene. I also want to mention that my therapist taught me to honor my coping skills. They got me to where I am today. I have a choice to choose something else to support my emotional health because I found SOMETHING, [anything] to hold onto. In your case, sugar...

*nod* *nod* It's a relief to say something useful. Anything useful. Well, C, I think you did something very productive with your phone call. I'm actually saying quite a lot of things that have happened to me in this discussion. I wanted to thank you for allowing me to do that and accepting...

You're more than welcome! The kids know what side of the bread is buttered. They know where the love comes from. If she's being difficult with you, she's being hard on them too. I got the girls some counseling and it really made a huge difference. Just having a safe place for them to talk...

Grainne, I am hoping that today has a little more light in it. I know we don't know each other yet, so I'm going to keep this message short. I'd like to get to know you, little by little, as we both are able. I care.

When you have small, mobile units.. aka children.. the game gets ever so much more interesting. Somehow, I'm responsible for what they do too. SInce they are presumably cleaning their room and therefore not paying attention, I shall tell a small tale on them. My oldest, now 11, decided to...

Erm, um... yeah! I've done this. It's unclear if hearing about someone else's awkward moments will improve yours, but hey! Nothing ventured, nothing gained. It seemed prudent of me to clean the area around his desk that had gotten six inches deep with receipts, old cigarette boxes, tiny...

Vulnerability is required and my life took a harsh turn last week. IT should have been fun. Going as a parent on my daughter's field trip sounded lovely. They were going to the Los Angeles Observatory to see the planetarium and do a lot of 'science stuff'. I used to work in a planetarium for ten...

Hello! Welcome to the forum... I'm new too. My welcome is a bit different than everyone else's. I've experienced rejection in real life in marriage. You've had it as well. I can gather from your post that you identified very strongly with your job because it's also your handle here. I'm...

It is similar in some ways and different in others. In my case, it was me with the children moving out to my parent's house twice. I'm very sad that you are missing your children. I'm so sorry about that! Just keep sending the love out... love is very powerful... The other thing is that I'm...