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@Justmehere it feels like alot of it at the moment is on his terms and i feel like im the sucker i did tell him that it was unacceptable to talk to me like that and that i would not call him...yes this is a rare thing his never said anything like this to me before but its better for me to leave...

He has not set any boundaries with me we just discussed space and that it was an open discussion and needed to be verbalised if needed. And both agreed on that.

We agreed that even though he needed alone time he would still communicate with me as much a he felt up too, He always keeps his promises and said he would contact me today before he left to take a plane for a month away and never did. I sent a text saying "whats the news. Im worried about the...

Its a two way street. I have never wanted anything of him. He set no boundaries with me...he just said he wanted to be alone..even with that for our relationship we had made agreements about communication with eachother even during alone time and when he was needing space to verbalise.... ive...

So. Im a little heartbroken even though he has not said its over or i have. He went away to help his brother...me being kind just trying to see if he got there okay and asking him to let me know what was happening and ...as his brother is number one priority...i get that....and out of the...

Hi all, So the mans going away for a week,or two or upto a month :(..family stuff happening with his brother...it may have come at a good time to get him out of this dark place his in? (Except not really wanting to be around anyone) I know when he has gone away before he comes back refreshed...

@Numbalina omg i do this except as a supporter to my man. I think its just when his not in the best mind frame at the time...such as..him-"do we have to talk about this again we spoke in depth about it last week ..i dont want to argue bring the same s$%t up but in different meaning"...me-"sorry...

@Sighs ...omg thats what i have been getting a kiss on a cheek ..and nothing more right now...i dont live with him so its hard when thats all im getting on the sundays when i see him :( but i dont want to push anything and i am asking permission for a cuddle most times.

I notice at times even from the beggining he just wasnt that affectionate and at other times he was all over me.....he hates it and trys to fight against it...even when it came to intimacy sometimes it felt like it was his first time then finally relaxed. Other times nothing was stopping him.;)

@Santa_Laurie (laurie)...i am enjoying the timeout also :) We are all supporters in one way or another....you just helped me alot and thats a great gift to me Hugs accepted

@Glara i think this may be for someone with a little more knowledge...im only a toddler so far to the forum...but im sending lots of hugs and thinking of you

@Numbalina... i feel that both the supporter and sufferer are fighting battles on both ends sufferer: ptsd symptoms supporter:feels of anxiety,loss,on edge aswell at times Very similar in some ways maybe? until the supporter can feel that acceptance and also the sufferer. :)

Thanks @Santa_Laurie ....Laurie i mean... very much appreciate the feedback.. i think i have been doing the permission thing lately anyway in the last few weeks....i wasnt before but have learnt alot...it is very very hard not to just grab him and hold him but i know i cant right now. I actually...

Hi, Question on combat ptsd maybe for supporters and sufferers. considering my partner is currently in avoidance,isolating etc and has mentioned that "he does not want to be touched right now" he is so on edge and jumps just with the slightest touch. I see him on sundays at the moment face to...

i dont know i just found it when i was researching on you tube another one is "A soldiers memoir" song by joe bachman :)

okay just got a little teary thats a beautiful saying @Over the rainbow.... a song to listen to that i can suggest that means so much to me is Julie leonard on youtube P.T.S.D you are not alone.... :)

As most of you will know already my partner has combat PTSD. We have been together for about a year, gets therapy twice a week but is non medicated, he teaches and prefers to keep it at a down low from the Airforce. (as much as i know) at the moment he is wanting to keep everything easy in his...

@shimmerz hammerhead i like lol

@shimmerz got any other words non triggery in ptsderzz ? Instead of i love you. I call him my boofhead when im in a good mood or my pain in the ass lol

@TreeHugger i dont mean any disrespect at all or arrogance so apologies

i think it would be good if everyone read @Glara first post which explained their story... people just seem to be going of the above thread only. glara can you copy the link where you explained the whole stroy from the beggining.... i dont think people understand the full situation and i tihnk...

@Sighs yes apologies it is more of an agreement ..boundaries are probably not the correct word for this scenario but was a very good agreement on both sides

@I love my veteran❤️ i know this is hard i'm understanding because i go through it too and i'm going through it right now mine may be a little different but it is important to sit down with the other and discuss boundaries.... i spent 8 days with no contact with mine as i initiated the space for...

@Glara ...There is something that i have learnt from everybody in here.....i've had a growing obsession over the last few weeks looking into every little little detail over my partner and whats happening i still ask questions but just to get perspective and understanding.... you actually sound...

@brightonguy ahh yes the on edge side very much familiar to me.... Boundaries was something that both of us set. I initiated some space so he could cool off abit following a very unsuccessful attendance to a friends wedding where i sent him home "he was so far away and just not himself" I...