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That’s what I’m starting to learn too! I used to be someone who loved celebrating anniversaries and birthdays, but now what matters most to me is the time spent with him. Thank you for all the advice!

A little update to everyone who gave me input... He let me call him today!!! He updated me on everything that's been going on... He finally is getting some help (seeing a therapist) after 8-9 years of suppressed memories, and I am so glad that he is doing so, despite him saying that he hates...

Thank you! My boyfriend and I don’t live together, so for me, it gets tough when he isolates and I don’t know how he’s doing. But I will tone it down on the heart felt messages. I figured that it’d lift him up... Not cause him more stress and I would hate to add more to what he’s going through...

Thank you for your input! I have been feeling like I’ve been doing that too much? But I appreciate your take on it. It definitely puts things into perspective for me.

To you and the sufferers out there, you are all so brave. I admire every single one of you. I never realized the severity of PTSD (not many people talk about it), but since being with my boyfriend and talking to you all on this site? I’m so glad I’m more aware of it now. Thanks for your input...

So, in my previous threads, my boyfriend has isolated himself and it only got worse after his appointment with the VA. This past weekend, he had texted me once a day and for that I was grateful. Today, it was a bad day for me (hormones and Mother Nature was the reason). I went to the beach...

Little by little, but he's getting there. Thank you so much!!!

That definitely is something I will start doing! We don’t live together, but every time I think about the future... I imagine him in it. He doesn’t usually respond to any of my texts... He just reads them and I think I’ve made progress on my end. Before, I would get so upset but now with him...

There’s a part of me that hurts when my boyfriend isolates, but there’s also a part of me... The part that knocks some ‘sense’ into me when I realize that it’s something that’s out of his control. My boyfriend, you, and other sufferers out there have it tougher and I wish that I could just...

Thank you for talking some sense into me. I just get so worried, you know? I do appreciate you and all the input you’ve offered to me!

Hi, all. My boyfriend was in the military and had done two tours. We haven't had much contact in a couple of days and I know that usually means I need to give him his space. Today, however, he told me that he "had a bad meeting." He had an appointment today with the VA. I'm not sure what that...

Just a bit of update for anyone that's wondering... My boyfriend texted me back today. Today was also his VA evaluation, and I don't necessarily know or understand what that means or what it entails. Anyway, he told me that he had a "bad meeting. it was bad." At this point, I just hope he's...

Yeah, every time he isolates, I am always trying to find ways to better myself for the next time this happens because I know there will always be a next time. I’m way better with dealing with it than when we first got together, but that doesn’t make it hurt any less.

I suppose it’s something I need to think about, but every time I sit down to think deeply about it... I just know that while I do get in my head (plenty of times), I am willing to wait for him and support him from a distance.

I know... I have talked to him about it and we never argue. I always try to understand his point of view. He ended up messaging me saying that he had a really bad meeting, but didn’t go into detail. I’m learning that I’ll be here when he’s ready. Thank you.

Thank you for that. I appreciate it. In that moment, I took it personal and I upset my other friend which resulted her in blocking me. But I will keep that in mind. Deep down, I know this... My mind just takes over.

That is asking a lot, you're right, and I'm starting to realize that I should be grateful and less worried that he's not completely shutting everyone out in his life, which could even cause more damage. I just took it very personal when I shouldn't have. I really appreciate you giving me advice...

It's something I definitely need to have a talk with my doctor. I've never had anxiety attacks until a few months ago and it's scary. But poor word choice on my end. It's something I need to cope with and learn how to live with it.

I've texted him only twice a day. Today was a rough day, though. I took it personal when my friend said my boyfriend replied to her and so she's angry at me now (blocked me on social media bc of it) and then I basically hounded my boyfriend. I feel so bad and so clingy when I know, deep down...

I have posted quite a few times already. It’s always the same thing: my boyfriend, I’m assuming is in a rut. He’s not responding to my messages and he’s simply just reading them. He has gone overseas twice. I know that PTSD is something that is not controllable, but what throws me off is that...

Been two days.

My boyfriend hasn’t replied to any of my messages and I’m only assuming that something is wrong and he’s isolating. But he replied to my other friend and I guess I’m taking it personal. I just feel so in the dark.

Thank you for your input. It's really put many things into perspective. Since getting together with my boyfriend, I have learned so much of myself and so much about him when he gets like this. He is definitely worth the fight and I have learned that by him reading my messages... It's more than...

When you say that you're so deep in that territory that you don't think you can let your supporters IRL know, do your supporters just assume that something is wrong? I think my boyfriend is similar in that sense. He puts me on read and usually, that's an indicator for me that he's not doing well...

Thank you. I know he has no control over what happens to him and what goes on in his mind. I’ve got to hand it to you and those who struggle with this... I wish I could just take it away. I always tell him that he’s so strong and he’s so brave. He doesn’t believe it. I just need to constantly...