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I have losts parts of myself from my past, that I know still affect me and I do not know what to do. Do I let it go now, I have been fighting with the currently counselor who I have been seeing for the past 3.5 years for the past 6 weeks, The counselling room turned int a room that I dreaded and...

I often used to feel like I was "Broken" and PTSD made my brain feel like scrambled eggs and skipping on a record. I now realise that I through counselling over 20+ years on and off have tried to piece together a puzzle as if it was my life - and the reality was it was their f*cked up life - I...

I am speechless, you are an amazing woman and I have the utmost respect for you. That you survived and you are willing to share is humbling and touching. I wish the best in life for you, I hope you have endless amounts of happiness, joy and menaingful connection by people who cherish and respect...

Fight back and allow yourself feelings but treat yourself with tenderness and have a plan... like movie or popcorn or have a bath with candles or something special to soothe afterwards...

Hope all is OK for you. Keep safe, be your own best friend where ever possible. Everyone has emotions, whether they recognize it or not. How it gets translated and communicated to you is what you need to notice, and understand what effect that has on you. Keep communicating and don't be afraid...

I am no relationship expert that's for sure. But one day I hope to date someone with whom I feel calm and confident in myself. The "crazy passionate " stuff does not mix well with my history. So I would prefer nothing until I have peace and I meet someone when I am ready, that compliments my...

Tears for your childhood :(. That's horrid!!! I felt outrage at your hideous non birthday experience and it made me feel small for ever thinking my life was the worst it could ever have been. I hope you find love and develop an "inner" loving parent, because you deserve to be loved and...

I used to feel so worthless that I didn't have a right even to feel angry or sad. After one series of the wrong kind of "help" I though if I "forgave" my father in a letter and apologised to him this would mean I could get well and all would be "forgiven". This man who is a pedophile, who...

It's very irritating when people do that... depending on if they are kind with it or critical. Emotion is a language that translates into many styles of communication. The body tells a whole different story than the words sometimes. 90% of communication is through body language, facial...

Be kind to yourself. I spent years literally rocking back and forth to nurture and soothe the traumatized parts / experiences that caused the shut downs. I have been through years where all I would feel was rage, or complete devastation and sob for hours every day. I had to pull myself out of...

I can relate to this. I find I have different "modes" ofer operating. when I am "working" mode I ignore emotional things and prefer to "manage" my language as I understand that it has an effect on my well being and triggers etc.. When I am trying to "get stuff out" and process trauma events...

I do now. not in the early days, as I shut them down but after 20 years on and off dealing with trauma therapy in some way or another I now feel them too much and too often and its bloomin distracting at times. but at least I feel more connected. trouble is because I feel so much I don't like...

wow good response. I think he's ok to feel his feelings which include rage towards her. I do not believe he has a right to act out on it or take her happiness in life away, but I understand his rage. I like him had a psycopathic father, and I once thought I had "forgiven" him as it was all just...

oh and yes I have walked out of jobs, in my early youth and I am so glad I did lol! I learnt I could walk away and I didn't have to put up with crap. Then when I got a bit older I learnt to tell people when I was unhappy (actually a counselor taught me that this was important for me to do so)...

give yourself a break, in technical roles things go west sometimes, you won't be the first or the last. Maybe its time to get a new role somewhere where you don't feel so trapped and overwhelmed? Think about your future and plan a pathway for yourself, its a job, not your life. You are more...

You've done the right thing... go get a better job! I foolishly didn't do this 3 years ago and then tried to make myself fit in with my boss's bullying tactics and "work through it", I went back to therapy and am still there only I ended up getting PTSD severly again due to the bullying and...

I am glad you are there for yourself in tthis argument. you deserved to be protected. the rage is understandable and its a process to work through... not sure if mine will ever comletely go. "forgiveness" in these situations is not black and white, and its not actuallly the issue.. the issue is...

I spent a decade trying to get a "real appology" from my mother.. not seeing her for years at a time, attepmting to challenge her view of the past (unsuccessfully). I know now she hasn't got the personality formed enough to know what my core existence even means. I am an accessory in her play...

scary. I don't want the side effects that come with meds... glad you found something that works for you though.

I feel you have no place to judge how betrayed someone might feel when they have not been protected against their life being threatened. ITs not your place to be a judge!

I hear you and I hope you find solice in your journey. be kind to yourself as often as you can. There's a feeling of unreality that I can't shake about my life. Like a broken puzzle. I have developed an ecosystem of parts to look after myself. There are so many broken links in my memory but...

wow. Your story really connected with me. It's unnerving the same feelings I have about my mothers unwillingness to protect me (The horrible self doubt, feelings of unreality and unworthiness that are left as a result) - I will say I am a bit jealous your mother would even entertain you asking...