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It freaking saved my life. I was introduced to it by a boyfriend who claimed it cured him of depression. I thought he was either not depressed or just ridiculous. But there is this magic that happens. You can't be worried or distracted or down you go. If you get fustrated or tired, you have to...

I for one wish that you could be a bit less harsh on yourself. If your goal at some point (and I am not saying that it was) happened to be that you needed to belong and feel wanted and the price that you were willing to pay for that feeling was to conform to someone else's idea of "good girl"...

Does anyone of you find yourself doubting the partner you chose for similar reasons, and what did u do about it? SG :) I have lived in Denmark for 40 years. I came as a 22 year old from NYC thinking then that I knew all there was to know about men and relationships. I also have a very latin...

Rage and angry outburst increase the risk of heart attack by a whooping five fold and stroke by three fold so learning to control it should be made a priority. I no longer meet my friend alone in private. We see each other where he works which is a second hand shop where we all know each other...

Why are they seen as bad people? Because people are not trained to separate behaviours/actions from the person doing harm. A child being hurt will think "It hurts. You are bad. I hate you." An adult being hurt will try to enforce some "socially accepted rules". Bad people break rules. A...

Krak do you care to elaborate on what you mean by my "reasons to pursue"?

Your feeling is real. Thing is we can never truly know what the other person is feeling. Have you ever considered that maybe you might not have to do anything special at all for someone to want to be with you? That feeling someone may have of 'wanting to be with you' is just as real. I will...

10 years ago, I did not think that change was possible. Today I realise that I am thrilled with the changes I have made with ADHD symptoms. It might not be as much as others may have expected or wanted but far more than I thought possible. In my case, no drugs just hard hard hard work. I have...

Constant cancellations and late arrivals is not a symptom of anything actually. It is a flaw in character that can happen with any individual that does not care enough to treat others with respect. You are saying “You are not important enough for me to free up whatever I have to do even though...

There are those real lucky people that have never experienced wanting and not wanting a relationship at the same time. Some of them are just too cowardly to admit that the conflicts exist and will pay any price to not create waves...the rest of us are not necessarily fvcked up. We are just...

I always say "Don't need to love me but I expect you to respect me". I just told my friend that we need to stop. It took him a split second to agree and hang up on me. I really felt relieved afterwards and defeated as I got pushed to give up on a relationship that I would have preferred not to...

Her message is not for the light of hearts. She says that in order to truly connect we need to go out of our comfort zone and go out on a limb and have courage to do the things we fear most. That applies to all of us. It means we need to love no matter how much we fear rejection. It means to...

google and watch, you wont regret. It says a lot and will make you laugh: The Power of Vulnerability | Brene Brown | TED Talks stop predicting and controlling and learn to live with vulnerability

From what you write, so do I. He just texted me to see him tommorrow. He called me, cancelled tommorrow and said Thursday and changed it to Friday afternoon. I had to reassure him 3-4 times that I understood his need for space. I must have a warped sense of humor cause I couldn't stop laughing...

Anger has kept me alive in my darkest suicidal years. I never ever dreamed I could be happy again and now that I am I don't need anger.

@lfs: cool that you are wordy so I feel less guilty about my lack of brevity. And you are equally awesome for sharing your time. LFS: Shrink talk is ANNOYING, don't shrink talk...just don't sound so clinical Me: I am super annoying. I do not hear myself talk like a shrink. A friend of mine once...

From what I have read, BPD is no picnic and some T's find it challenging to build up any trust as their intentions are constantly questioned. I will certainly see if I can get him the book in danish. I have been told that his diagnosis is no one's business and although I think that he may have...

Thanks all for your replies. LFS, your second post really hits home. If I tell my friend that I met my ex and that he lashed out at me, he will tell me "that is so unacceptable". When I then ask but don't you do that as well? He says "yes". But more often he says "Its just the way I talk. I am...

Some of us (and I certainly would never speak for all) need to have life become difficult in order to change. Some people view a personality disorder as if the illness or symptoms were a dysfunction that should not be tolerated by others. Friends that are too understanding are seen as enablers...

Poppy wishing you the courage and desire to fill your world with those more deserving of your time. Networks can be replaced with better ones.

If it makes you feel better not to think of it as as a symptom don't. Behaviours are called symptoms when they get in the way of functioning in a normal way. Take any symptom and we often find that symptoms to be a part of the human condition as in "we all push people away". Regarding...

Try saying this to your boss: "It is my job to do the best I possibly can and I never want to put you in the uncomfortable position of having to fire me.[or whatever else you are afraid of happening] " (Then put on your most confident grin and say) : "And I expect you to do your job and fire me...

hej Scandinavgirl, did you mean to add something? Just curious ;-)

Boy can I relate to this. And if you are both hardwired to "hear it " a lot much worse than it really is, things escalate quickly. We are going to try a new strategy. We have already been making process by saying "Thank-you" That is our code word for "switch topic or I leave". Its is very...

Is it possible for you to ignore how your boss reacts? Seriously his job is to get you to do more sales at any cost. You can't possibly know what is going thru his head. Your job is to take care of you. Keep smiling at him and don't let on that anything has you worried. What do you use to...