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This happened a few days ago. It's been quiet since, other than a text message stating that he's denying it. My therapist believes me, she was just trying to get ME to trust myself. & I get that. I've got to be strong enough to not back down in that situation & not worry about who believes me or...

*update Family member shows up on my doorstep with another family member to gang up on me. Threatens to call the police if I don't talk (which didn't even occur to me in my state of panic...that wouldn't even be possible?!). So I looked her in the eye & went through every single detail. Again...

You are absolutely right...the more I think about it, the more I feel like the only reason I would be doing it is for her sake not for my own well-being. She has already been told my side of the story...& that isn't going to change. He knows the truth no matter what story he comes up with. I...

She's never given me a reason to think that she doesn't believe me...maybe she is just trying to make a point that it shouldn't matter to me whether or not she does. I wish she had just SAID "I do believe you, but it doesn't matter," being believed is very important to me I think at this point...

I think I'm more hurt at my t's response that it doesn't matter if she believes me. Why have I spent all of this time talking to her & learning to trust her if it didn't matter? I realize she has to be neutral in that situation, but I don't want to feel like my back is against the wall in a room...

That is awesome!!! So glad it worked for you!

She wants it. I can't imagine what she is going through right now, I'm sure she is torn & trying to make sense of things & my heart hurts for her. I would like to salvage things between her & i but at what cost? I feel sick thinking about sitting in a room with BOTH of them.

In a situation where the abuser is a family member, & the past is already out in the open & everyone knows, how important is it to face the abuser? In my situation it's a family member's husband. She knows my side of the story & I'm sure she has heard his. She is suggesting that we get together...

Yes!! I email my T a lot & we use the emails as a way to get started during sessions but it's still hard because many times I write the emails at a very vulnerable moment & then I feel embarrassed when she reads it out loud. She suggested once that we take a walk outside & talk...I'm thinking...

Thank you for updating! So glad it is working for you!!

Thank you for all of the responses. She did suggest I go to one of her group DBT sessions. I was a little hesitant about that but I gave it a try this morning & maybe there is a method to her madness. She isn't quite as clueless as I thought. It was a very very insightful morning & maybe it's...

Wow, @Friday , that article was really good. When I first began with this therapist, she compared her own "trauma" of being cheated on with mine. Maybe I should have run out the door then, but I was so new to all this therapy stuff & wanted to give her a chance. I really believe she cares & is...

I guess maybe I should make one more appointment & be a big girl & tell her how I feel. That's hard for me to do, but it could go one of two ways...we part ways & I find someone more suitable, or maybe it will open the door of communication a little better.

I'm not so sure it isn't HER. I've been able to open up to people in the past. Today I felt like I was being interrogated & I just shut down when that happens. :(. There were also a few things she said that didn't sit right with me.

She is a marriage & family counselor & does a lot of work with couples who are dealing with affairs. She does list trauma as one of her specialties & does EMDR, but I'm just not so sure she understands my complex traumas, or how to GET to me. & I don't even know how to tell her...isn't a...

One of my biggest problems is knowing when to walk away from people or things that aren't beneficial to me. Since I've never been in therapy I'm having a hard time deciding whether or not this is working, or if I'm the one doing something wrong. I've been seeing this T for almost a year (with...

I agree. Anyone can make things "fit" their own personalities. & I guess my attitude should be "so be it..." it's just hard when you suffer from so much pain &those who caused the suffering don't seem to be suffering a bit.

I HURT for everyone. My brother in law who raped me...I feel pain for my sister & my nephews. I can feel others' pain, just have trouble connecting & feeling my own. I'm getting there. It sucks. Just the fact that I am allowed to feel pain makes me cringe. I am allowed that though, & I need to...

Everyone else MATTERS to me. So much that I put my own needs aside. I think you are right @Ragdoll Circus ....it's OKAY to worry about me for now. I need to get in touch with myself & be okay with what I'm feeling. All of the pain & sympathy I am feeling for that innocent little girl is okay. &...

Always love your responses @Friday ! So real!

@EveHarrington l never set out to get my needs met, jus try & survive day to day & provide for my kid. My needs seem so unimportant...that's one of my biggest obstacles.

Narcissists & sociopaths/psychopaths can't recognize their faults....I could give you a list of mine...#1-#1000

I think I need to stop reading so much. Haha!

I think because I'm realizing how much narcissism I've been surrounded by my entire life, I'm so paranoid about being a narcissist myself. I've been reading about covert narcissism. Lately I am focused on myself & my healing, & I've made some selfish choices in the process & hurt people that I...

I'm jealous of people who have families who are close & supportive. I've always kept so many secrets. & now that my secrets are out, I've lost both of my big sisters who I have always adored. I lost my mom 10 years ago & have made the decision to put distance between my dad & I, because it...