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Thank you for helping me not feel so alone. I guess I know its not about me but its hard to not let it feel like it sometimes. I have been trying to stay positive for both of us, end up feeling like I'm out running a dark cloud and if I stop it will consume me.

I am struggling. I give him space and contacts me, makes plans with me then breaks plans the day of or day before. This has happened several times. He initiates it. I've told him that he doesn't have to do anything that is too much for him. I suppose he may not know until it comes down to it. He...

I always heard if you feel bad about yourself, help someone else. It really does turn your perspective around. Volunteer to help somewhere. If you're shy you don't have to do things that directly deal with people. I volunteered at a local shelter once. They had me stuffing envelopes. That wasn't...

I think both the letter & the card(s) are a great idea. You can get what you need by being crystal clear and he has solid direction to help him be a great support to you. Communication is what makes or breaks relationships of any kind.

Thanks. I am 100% eyes open on this. Its been a difficult growing process. But I have learned so much through loving him. I truly want what's best for him. I hope he flourishes. I am aware his happiness and success is not hinged on me. I have gained the strength & insight regarding that. This...

I Absolutely understand how you felt in this situation. I struggle daily with what I want versus what is best and what is right. I used to think so highly of myself that I believed what I wanted was best & right. In my current relationship, I have grown to know what's best may not equal what I...

I recently listened to a great sermon. Its pretty relevant to this. Its called Dominion and marriage by pastor Tony Evans. You can look it up online. Its for anybody in a relationship, you don't have to be married to learn from it. Its actually more beneficial to hear it before you're married...

I have a friend that I went to college with. He is approx 6'2" and is overweight. He is definitely not what someone would define as a looker. However. He has a beautiful wife. And if he were single it wouldn't be for long. His personality was so attractive. He was a gentleman and was funny. He...

" Theadvice to take care of yourself, go out, havemassages definitely does not work for me: all Iwant is to never go anywhere and never live my house, and preferable sleep through the whole rest of my life, but that would not be possible, because I cannot sleep either" You hit the nail on the...

And I just want to add to that If I may. Having been in a physically abusive relationship in the past, you have these moments & know things aren't right. Then he makes you feel like you're imagining things or blowing it out of proportion. So you accept it and things get worse. But please do not...

I'm so sorry to hear you've been dealing with this. It is so hard to care about someone and be treated like an after thought. I wish you happiness and healing

[Q"Mal Content, post: 986821, member: 33052"]It's not right that you're left feeling unsure and sad. You have the right to know where you stand.... I probably could but I would be going back on my word that I would give him that space. And honestly I have avoided direct questions like that...

Thank you. I wish you and your husband every bit of happiness

Thank you. Your positive support is appreciated more than you know

He's been distant & depressed before. It feels different this time. My heart is completely full of love for him. I am & will be here for him but silently I guess. I have been reading so much about ptsd, combat ptsd in particular. I have a friend who suffers as well but has gotten to a pretty...

I am 100% broken. However, I will respect his needs/ boundaries. I just need a little reassurance I guess

My vet has been distant. Yet he would text me everyday. His messages were brief but always there. Then if I responded or initiated conversation it was a high probability of no answer or hours later a one word answer. I have backed off quite a bit. Then he talked about me taking the same day off...

It sounds like he is having his cake and eating it too. You communicated your standards when you told him you expected monogomy if you were going to be together. And I suppose it was good that he was at least honest with you about sleeping with the other woman. However, he is keeping you both...

She may want your love and arms length attention without the stress and idiosyncracies that go into a full blown relationship. Its difficult to guage by what she says or doesn't say because often people with or without ptsd avoid hurting someone we care about and do not plainly say exactly what...

It sounds like you have changed, rearranged, and sacrificed for her. Then it does not bring peace. More demands, manipulation and control. None of those traits points to her loving and respecting you. And yes, she needs treatment. Having a condition cannot be something to hide behind and treat...

He probably does care about you. And he most likely appreciates feeling loved and cared for. But yes, people with ptsd do have tendencies to isolate, detach, become numb when overwhelmed (see cup illustration). Even though to the supporter it is easy to see only benefits tothe rrelationship. But...

She no doubt wanted love, its human nature to seek love. But sounds like something changed her mind whether it was too much, or if she didn't like something an out herself, you may never get that answer. And it sucks when you feel that you really click with someone and you start to have hope for...

If getting out for fresh air/walk is too much, start smaller. Commit to getting dressed every day no matter what into something that could not be mistaken for pajamas, and take time to fix your hair. Sounds silly but helps you feel like a part of society, purposeful and more confident. And next...

That sounds like an extremely frustrating situation. I honestly know you can't avoid every situation that may cause issues. I think its going to be more about not attending every argument you're invited to; and determining ways to release the stressors of the day. Maybe that's using a heavybag...

You probably already know what you should do. It sounds like you've been wrestling with it a while. Sometimes fears, doubts, worries prevent us from doing the right thing. And if we do the right thing does that mean everyone else will? No it does not ensure anything. You are only accountable for...