Relationship In Need Of Support Myself

[hangingon]

[Q"Mal Content, post: 986821, member: 33052"]It's not right that you're left feeling unsure and sad. You have the right to know where you stand....[/QUOTE]
I probably could but I would be going back on my word that I would give him that space. And honestly I have avoided direct questions like that probably because I'm afraid of the answer if I'm being truthful.

 

[Recovery4Me]

You know, you have value too !!! Remember that and take your space from him not necessarily for him. Humph... supporters are not doormats, they have needs too. (((hugs))) *growls motherly ;)

 

[Sighs]

I wouldn't push him. I get where @Mal Content is coming from but pushing a PTSD sufferer to clarify their feelings - when half the time they aren't sure themselves - is a recipe for disaster.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

I am a sufferer, yet I have the mental capacity to know when I need space and when I no longer want to be in a relationship. AndiI have enough respect for my partner to be honest.

 

[Sighs]

How nice for you. Not all sufferers do.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

How nice for you. Not all sufferers do.

:tup:

 

[Milo's papa]

@hangingon, I am of the opinion that if your sufferer says they need space, you should honor that request. As hard as it is, they are going through much worse. It is ok to hope for the best, as long as you accept that that may not be the outcome.

I'm sorry for your pain. Please stay, hang out as long as you want/need. We are here for each other in good and bad times.:hug:

 

[Deleted member 17302]

As hard as it is, they are going through much worse.

That is if we are talking about truthful people saying it. There are a number of posts on this forum that seem to indicate that some sufferers take advantage of the PTSD and blame it on why they are doing what they are doing while others are actually having a truthfully hard time. There are many here that talk about boundaries as well and that you can't let PTSD be a reason to let the boundaries be gone over without some kind of negative reaction. It seems there needs to be better information on this all together.

 

[hangingon]

@hangingon, I am of the opinion that if your sufferer says they need space, you s...

Thanks.

I am 100% eyes open on this. Its been a difficult growing process. But I have learned so much through loving him. I truly want what's best for him. I hope he flourishes. I am aware his happiness and success is not hinged on me. I have gained the strength & insight regarding that.

This was the first time he actually said he needed space/to be alone. So in that way its good, he's communicating his needs. I honored that. He has since contacted me several times. I love him but I am not fooling myself. I will take each day, each interaction at face value only.

 

[Milo's papa]

@HangInThere, while I still encourage you to be on guard, don't let your caution turn your responses to him cold. It sounds to me he's giving all he can at this time. Accept that with joy in your heart and hopeful wishes for the future.

Yours in hoping for a great future with the ones we love.:hug: