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Yes and women to for that matter . We all have personalities that are different and passions can run high . There are numerous incidents where both male and females have snapped with tragic consequences . However violence cannot be excused and apart from maybe very extreme circumstances can be...

No this was insensitive and silly your reaction is / was understandable. I was supporting a lady with DID and had to go away for respite she having 20 alters . I had a distressing message from the 2yr old alter whilst in Spain which distressed and ruined my holiday . Being afraid of a male...

It's easy to say but the best revenge on one's abuser is to get better . That's shows them that whatever control they think they had it's no more you are a survivor not a victim.

Wherever you live MH is the Cinderella service often its an unseen illness and misunderstood illness. Clearly your therapist means well and wants you to feel you can contact as the need is great. No apology needed . It may help if you have a discussion with your therapist about how you feel...

Yes i believe in becoming my own expert. I have known over many years there is a lack of money invested in MH and a lot more made out of it .

I hope my comments did not give the impression that a solution is simple it isn't and my own personal experiences from childhood were different to others. But we are all different and cope differently and there are varying experiences which created the PTSD however there is healing but the first...

A journey always starts with the first steps . As with many complex conditions there are complex questions and sometimes complex reactions to questions. I having worked with a DID sufferer know there are those who are disbelieving, dismissive, cynical which angers and frustrates but talking...

that would be a shame that's an amazing achievement . Keep going we are rooting for you

CPTSD usually means the traumatic events happened early in life the trauma was caused by a parent or carer the person experienced the trauma for a long time the person was alone during the trauma there is still contact with the person responsible for the trauma This saps your confidence and...

we do things for the right reasons not to be patronized . I am sure helping others comes natural to you and you have real empathy. Thats important because sympathy doesn't heal the same because empathy means you feel it and i know you do. I feel you have a talent to improve lives and the fact...

being raped by 3 different people is hard to deal with. You might feel and ask yourself does it say on my forehead abuse me. Being vulnerable and being seen as vulnerable doesn't help because predators sense it often from years of abusing. How can you protect yourself ? What were the situations...

You are what you are . Whoever or whatever may try to break you you won't bend. You are here that's the first most important thing . Difficulties are like waves you must face them head on . Turn your back on them they will drown you. You feel you have talent and skills because you do and in...

People get sexual gratification in many ways and what you relate I would confirm as grooming . Being made to feel special may be a part of it and whether on this occasion or in a future communication if it never actually ended in a sexual act is irrelevant. How it impacts on the individual...

I don't think you are weak being abused is not a weakness but you may perceive it to be. We experience bad things as we all do in varying degrees my bad experience started at 6yrs 11 months old and next between 9-11 yrs. I used to believe because i had a full head of blond hair that it was my...

I have supported a female with DID who eventually had 20 alters ranging from a teething baby to early and late teens and adults and both sexes. I chatted to the alters as they appeared and they shared their fears and worries. I was able to reassure and explain that their trauma was in the past...

There are many positives in your life employment being one of them . Today whilst in my local a former patient came up to me at the bar and introduced a rather distinguished looking gentleman to me as Bi-polar. I was then asked to tell this gentleman what i used to do. Knowing how vulnerable...

You mentioned talking therapies which I feel is less intrusive physically health wise. We are all different and often medication seems to be an option which is pursued given in this modern world people seem to have less time to spend on talking therapies. Environment also plays a part in...

Shame is something we feel because its our fault . It's the blame game with lot's of what if's involved. What if i hadn't walked home that way or what if i hadn't said hello . Shame and guilt walk hand in hand its all our fault. There is no shame in acknowledging what happened but it often takes...

It sounds like you have become very fond of your therapist and that's no bad thing as they are trained in boundaries and clearly she has been good for you. I feel it's important you contact as it's clearly important that you do. You are in a very emotional state at present which is...

Seems like you are in a mind maze you can't understand where you came in and now you want out. Try and focus on the fact there is a way out and that you will find it. Maybe this new year has an anniversary . Something you have forgotten in the cycle of time. Just remember your past can't hurt...

If I knew more I might be able to find a trigger. Changing a baby touching ,being intimate it's all normal unless it's not wanted or has other associations which are not love based but sexual. Some people say they make love when there is no love present they are just having sex. I know someone...

Dr. Phil’s Ten Life Laws | Dr. Phil How do you get it ? If we play the role of victim, or use past events to build excuses. It guarantees us no progress. With Mental health it is different and not easy. But we are still people with choices. We can seek out solutions or give up or accept that it...

Look up the 10 Life Laws. An insecure person or someone who feels challenged will often be defensive . Sometimes the best form of defense is attack. From what you write this lady may see you as an equal or even superior in intellect so she does not allow this to be revealed. When I was in...