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When I feel stuck (often) I let my t know. And she points out very specific areas I’ve grown in. I have this bad habit of keeping end goals in sight and they never look closer, so I don’t recognize that I’m doing better with eye contact or not dissociating every minute of every session, etc...

Somatic Mindfulness & Relational Psychotherapy by Somatic Perspectives on Apple Podcasts I just listened to this podcast with Janina Fisher over the weekend and it had a really great example of how she helped a client with a part. It made the process really clear and is a lot shorter than...

I don’t know if researching it has helped me a ton (and I read everything I can find on everything related to psychology pretty much). But knowing that I am an avoidant type and that my T wants me to have a secure attachment with her has helped a lot. I’m learning how my attachment style is the...

@barefoot i can’t remember if we’ve talked about this but have you read much about avoidant attachment?

I HATE sessions like that. :( but it was only one session, and those happen to all of us (I would imagine) from time to time. You are not shit. You’re trying to find a new mode of operating in session so you have to leave some margin for error, some margin for you to operate in ways you don’t...

It went well! She brought my email up and we went through it together. She said she was really glad I brought it up because if I hadn’t, the defensiveness I was feeling would’ve/could’ve continued to get in the way. She assured me that I wasn’t asking too much. Although in retrospect I don’t...

well done! That’s amazing. I’m so glad it went the way it did.

I *think* (and maybe others with more experience could chime in here) the urgency of that attachment, if worked with and through, becomes less with time. If you terminated in the middle, that may not be a good indication of the inevitability of being hurt by attachment again. I’m saying this as...

Thank you for sharing this. We sound so similar. I love what your T said. And I’m in the same place with mine. It’s terrifying. And I feel like I’m so bad at it too. You may feel like you’re not capable, but that’s because right now you may not be. That doesn’t mean you won’t be.

Thank you for asking, @barefoot! So, I saw her tue after she tried to reschedule again for what would be the first session after this incident, and the day she was trying to schedule me for, had snow in the forecast again. I lost it, but I didn’t tell her that. Just sent her the forecast. And...

I don’t even think you have to think in terms of parts, officially, any more than you would if you were trying to decide what to do on a day off: part of me wants to lay on the couch and Netflix binge but part of me knows I have to clean. It’s clear part of you needs to hear those things and...

I talk to my T about “the wall” and the things she occasionally does to make it go up, even though I don’t want it to. And we examine why that happens, to chip away at that defensiveness. In the first couple years of therapy I found it super difficult when she would be validating. It would make...

I lost my grandmother a few months ago and it was my first very close to me loss in adulthood- it has helped me see how effectively I compartmentalize. I told my t last session, in passing, that I can’t look at pictures of her and can’t talk about her- the instant she passes my mind I’m having...

We do, but we have had a child between us for ten years. My daughter until she was 2.5, my son until he was 5 and now my youngest son who is 2. I love sleeping next to my babies/toddlers. Cannot stand sleeping next to my husband so I’m slightly freaked out that my cosleeping with children days...

I found this thread through a search and wanted to resurrect it as it relates to a current question I have. I recently got some info via digging a little with family members (I also have no clue is my brain has “made up” the few flashbacks I’ve been struggling with for 20 years now) and the info...

Thank you both. Very helpful perspectives. @scout86 you’re so right that if I feel like I’ve been so obvious about my needs, they should be clear and I’m OBVIOUSLY freaking out. And all I said in reality was let me know if you have an opening. And @hithere you’re right- I am adult. And it’s not...

During these past two weeks I’ve had a family situation that prompted me to do some digging about my past (I don’t have memories from 0-10) And for the first time I reached out to a cousin to ask some questions about growing up around the family member I assume was the perpetrator of csa for me...

Yes. Although mine is often self harm urges vs suicide, or maybe suicide ideation for a short while after. I’ve talked to my T about this. The best reason I could come up with is that the parts of me that are in pain will cause backlash if I experience joy. Almost like they’re little kid parts...

I’m dealing with this now, and it’s hellish. The more I try to process the visual flashbacks, the worse the body sensations. It’s humiliating and painful and i cannot stop or start it. My T has been an amazing support as she has experienced the same and knows how disorienting and frustrating it...

I am noticing that the dissociation is improving in sessions, because a few sessions ago I was talking about some body memory stuff and I turned bright red. I’ve never done that, and could always sort of discuss stuff with no feeling. That showed me that I’m “in the room,” and the only way to...

Oh yes, ALL the time. My constant fear that I was being “needy” (which my T has assured me is nowhere close to needy) lead us to do some great work around my avoidant attachment style. Learning about that has helped me so much. It is so difficult to lower those walls, even inches. It feels...

I just told my T tonight.. 100% of me believes it’s true and 100% of me believes I’m making it up. Each side feels real and true to me. I have no idea who to believe. I wish it would get easier. I keep pushing forward but the denial makes self compassion really hard.

Thanks for resurrecting this thread. It has been a good reminder for me as I still struggle with this and imagine part of me always will. My T and I have just started looking at where I may have started believing I made things up (because this is not in my personality. Quite the opposite- I...

I just finished a book called Journey Through Trauma by Gretchen Shmelzer and I found it so helpful. It identifies various stages we cycle though in processing and healing (cycle through vs linear) and although she speaks in metaphor a ton and likens her book to a trail guide, I feel like it...

I’ve had long stretches of therapy with both types. My current T shares quite a lot. But it has always been helpful and made me feel more connected and understood. I feel safer in the relationship knowing her the way I do. And i feel more hope for my future knowing she’s been where i am in some...