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Honestly though it would be cool if they were in the habit of reminding clients about this once in a while. If you've been conditioned to feel afraid of confronting concerns with someone, and you're not getting any signs from your therapist that things will be different with them, and the...

For me there are environmental changes that come and go with the seasons. It's not really about specific dates for me personally, but like right now where I live the Spring weather is coming in. It changes the way I feel and perceive for a while. And Spring weather here shows up pretty reliably...

I've tried some CBT exercises and I'm not sure I really understand how they're supposed to work. One exercise had me study a leaf for a while and notice all of the different things about the leaf. So after about 20 minutes I felt like I still didn't know or understand myself anymore, but I had...

Yes I have the stuff you posted saved for when I feel up to it. I appreciate you taking the time to post it all. I've just been feeling out of sorts lately. I know I will get to it eventually, though. Thank you.

I've tried some in the past, but the side effects were just too many and too intense. I was put on Zyprexa for a little while, and it actually did work well as far as helping me sleep normally and also cleared out all my terrible intrusive thoughts, also helped with the paranoia/hypervigilance...

I think most universal truths are pretty grim at best, if I'm being completely realistic. It can easily go down the path of nihilism, as it is just that bad. What is more important is YOUR truth. Which is whatever you choose for it to be. You can choose to be a light in the dark. My own...

I looked it up and yeah, that sounds about right. Says it is often related to dopamine. That might make sense for me, since I smoke a lot (nicotine) and have also read that people with dopamine imbalances smoke at very high rates due to nicotine's effects on domanine (basically self-medicating...

Trying to meditate gives me anxiety. I have no idea why.

I think you should be giving yourself the credit. All sorts of different types of bad things happen to all sorts of people. You made the choice to take your bad experiences in life and try to turn them into wisdom and strength. Some people just become the evil that hurt them, happens a lot...

Therapy can do more than reading things on the internet can. However, actually finding a good therapist is a bit like finding a four-leaf clover. So might as well go ahead and research self-help online while searching, because it might take a while.

Being introspective doesn't mean you're going to get all the answers and magically cure yourself right away. It's about having the desire and humility to look inwards in the first place, it's about giving a damn. A lot of people don't. That's why narcissism is so rampant. Being highly...

I'm about 90% convinced that I have Borderline Personality Disorder, or C-PTSD, they sound so similar when I read about them. I'm just not very outward-acting, like I don't go off on people or engage in destructive behaviors very often, but I identify heavily with the internal experience...

Well for one you are impressively introspective. That's been obvious to me and I've only seen 2 of your threads so far.

I didn't try to warn you so that I could come back and say "told you so" or any asshat thing like that. I tried to warn you so that if it took this sort of turn, you would have our voices (all the people here who were concerned) in your mind, having your back, encouraging you to trust your gut...

You guys/gals give good suggestions. I just have no desire to do anything. I don't have interests or desires or whatever. I don't have preferences. I eat whatever. I wear whatever is on my floor that doesn't smell bad. I feel indifferent to almost everyone I encounter during the occasional...

So there are various sorts of therapy techniques out there... CBT, DBT, EMDR, etc etc etc. Most therapy techniques seem to be about getting rid of unwanted things. Like anxiety, dysfunctional thoughts, repressed trauma, etc. Is there any type of therapy that is about building? Or rebuilding...

Well in my experience, I've had an easier time focusing on smaller things than bigger things, as far as emotionally reacting. So this could sometimes come across as being unreasonable, when I'm not able to figure out the connection (or may not even be aware that there is a connection). So not...

I don't really think in terms of "deserving" because it's way too messy and gets easily jacked up. If I want something, I try to determine these things: 1. Is it going to hurt anybody else if I try to get this? 2. Is it going to hurt me if I try to get this? 3. Is it unrealistic for me to try...

Not flashback specific, but I can become violent when triggered. The worst I have ever done was hit an ex-boyfriend in the head with a cereal bowl. If you are a very skilled MMA fighter then maybe warn your therapist, but otherwise you have nothing to worry about.

Not sure where you live, but here in the U.S. between media / entertainment industry, and then growing up in certain parts of the country, it can be very easy to form a subconscious fear of other races. I get it, too, I grew up around some racist adults and then the media did not give me a good...

It seems to me that emotional trauma has the potential to be so insanely devastating and intense, that other things in life can wind up paling in comparison. It's not that those other things are less bad than they normally would be, but more like if you just got shot in the chest, the cut on...

Some types of nightmares will leave me feeling messed up for days. I mostly just have to distract myself. Cold water on the face, couple cigarettes, loud music, watch a show, something. Keep my mind occupied. My nightmares are extremely vivid, and I experience actually feeling everything, etc...

I think in some cases it is better to be triggered than to be desensitized. For people who have triggers to things like types of abuse, forms of violence or cruelty, war, etc, I find such responses to be much more human and beneficial than most people's lack of reaction altogether. I think that...

I think the most messed up thing I have ever done was kill two mice. I was 17 and still had to visit my biological father every other weekend per the law, about 3 hours away from my mother's house. During one weekend visit, for whatever reason he bought me two pet mice. My father was the sort...

Even though it's still difficult, I find it easier to express that I need help, than to ask for help, for multiple reasons. So like instead of asking someone, "Will you help me with this?" I might just find a way to work in a casual announcement of, "I'm having a hard time with this." That...