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I e-mail my T in between sessions. Most of the time he doesn't reply, though lately he has replied more, probably because I'm not doing so much therapy type things in emails, but more updates of good news, questions, joking, or an article/book I think he'd like.

@Lucycat, you made me laugh!

forgiveness...for yourself, for your baby, for the rapist, for God....I don't know how one gets there...but know that God has forgiven you. I found this--it might be helpful: http://www.afterabortion.com/faq.html It's a neutral website.

because there are session limits working with a university counselor, the most I got to see him one semester was every week...and then most of the time it's 3-4 weeks in between sessions, sometimes longer. This time it's 5 weeks. And two summers I had to wait over 3 months because he was on a 9...

hun. I'm so sorry. I'm so sorry for your pain, your grief, your sorrow, your trauma, the guilt you bear. No one, absolutely no one, has any right to throw stones at you. Jesus does not condemn you, and nor should any person labeling himself or herself as a Christian. You've said you feel...

from what I heard, it's usually the T's job to advocate with insurance on your behalf. Leastways, that's how it worked with my friend.

I don't really believe in a "religion," per se, but I am in a relationship with Jesus. He's my Savior, friend, counselor, comforter, healer, rescuer, etc. I wouldn't be alive today without Him. But I run screaming from religiosity when it's extreme, shame-based, work-based, approval-based...

Same thing happens every time I go to the dentist. Hyperventilate, shake, feel like I'm gonna throw up, etc. Had a wisdom tooth out a week and a half ago...and gotta get cavity filled in a few weeks...scariest thing ever. Nothing abnormal about it.

Wow, this strikes close to home. Gizmo and others, I am so sorry for your experiences. :( It breaks my heart that spiritual abuse is so widespread. When I was 9, my parents took me from my lovely normal grace-filled church into a cult where I was silenced, abused, shamed, and many other...

I will, surprisingly, gladly give up hope for hugs to keep the T I have. It's just one year before I move to a larger area (possibly Seattle, San Francisco, Los Angeles, Boston, or Chicago) where there's a huge amount of T's to choose from, and I'm guessing one of them might offer hugs. But...

My T and I've had lots of ups and downs over the last few years (3.5 years), but I really like him, and we get along pretty darn well. But...he's applied for a different uni job, which if he gets it, means that we're done. For good. I'm terrified. I graduate next year (May 2015), and I really...

I so relate to this! I've been in therapy with my T for 3.5 years (though less than 20 sessions a year since he's a uni T). I've been so afraid to really be vulnerable, and I'm determined to just jump in head first next time we meet (June 9th)...unless he is leaving, because he might be going to...

That is such an adorable kitty!!!! I'm strongly considering getting a kitty myself, but I'm nervous about the litter stuff. haha.

Are you looking for people who are currently struggling with self harm/cutting or also people who may have thoughts about it but don't act on them?

Oh wow, you've had in-home sessions? That'd be so interesting! As a somewhat lazy college student, haha, I'd have to do a bunch of cleaning before I'd let my T inside! haha. But I do think he'd find it very interesting! Can you please bring me day old baby ducks to play with!?!

So, I've now gone 6 days in a row waking up having had a dream about my T. I forget the content in the time it takes to get up from my bedroom and go across the house, but I know they aren't horrible dreams, more so just normal happenings. But I've never dreamt about anyone or anything for 6...

@City Slicker, I SO agree with your comments about witnessing. I've always felt that with my T--that I want him to witness, and I want him to see me when I'm hurting, and watch to see how he responds and in so doing learn better what's appropriate to expect from others...and part of it is too...

Psychology Today has a listing for finding T's. It might be primarily a US service, though. I've had T's who gave me 20-30 min consultations for free to see if there was a good fit. It depends on each T, I guess. I'd also advocate for a trauma specialist. However, I also have a good T who...

hey, I'm just wondering if anyone brings in special items to show their T. I already asked my T if he'd be okay with me bringing stuff in, and he's looking forward to it. I'm planning on bringing in a special tree branch I found several years ago and showing him a music video that is totally...

thank you for this...it's helping me re-look at who I was when much of the abuse happened, as a child, really. Just a few hours ago I was tearing myself apart for what I didn't do and what I "let" happen to me. Seeing your post has really helped. Thank you!

Well, I think it went pretty well today. I made huge leaps in being assertive and telling him of the changes I'd like to see in the sessions and talking of my growth and everything. So, I think things are better, and we're on track to decrease to once a month sessions until I graduate. I...

Wow, that's not a small thing at all! I would totally freak out if that happened to me! as is, if someone even BRUSHES against my back, I hyperventilate and have to calm myself down for 30+ minutes usually, so I can't imagine if a DOCTOR grabbed me and didn't let me go when I asked! That's...

I definitely relate to this. I constantly feel like I'm in trouble with my T, and authority figures in general. I was raised in a cult, and I was constantly in trouble, so it's very hard to feel safe and like I'm okay. Thankfully I have amazing pastors who've helped me heal more on that front...

Sorry for the confusion of when I'm graduating. I was supposed to graduate next year in May 2015, but my uni just added a new major and being the nerd I am, I just have to take it. ;) This way I'll also be able to take 2 years of Chinese instead of one. And as far as trust...like...I trust...

I'd definitely be interested in that research; if it's not too long, you could also just message me with it. Either way, I'd love to read it.