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Tswevnz- thank you for that. I struggle a lot with my anger at him and my compassion for him. It's sometimes hard for supporters to know where conscious choice plays in some PTSD issues, especially isolation and avoidance. I know my anger is real, it is mine and it's valid. However, it doesn't...

Therapy can be very good for supporters. A breakup by avoidance is not like any other breakup, in my opinion. I'm now in therapy to deal with it all. You have to look after yourself. And a lot of us feel we can't talk about it, either becaue it isn't ours to tell or because it's so hard for...

I still fight with myself over if I had done better, given him more time, not tried so hard... But, at the end of the day, we do our best. Love can't make it better, sometimes it is just another stressor. It's not your fault. It's not his fault. I believe, a lot of the time, it's not a logical...

I'm always here if you ever need to talk.

As someone who has been through something similar after an almost 3 year relationship, I feel your pain. Even if they tell you isolating isn't about you, it hurts when the person you love suddenly cuts you out of their life. It hurts desperately. And some just can't explain or tell you they need...

PTSD does not, in my opinion, follow the same or similar instincts or patterns as non-PTSD issues. I believe I have fairly serious trust issues based on my past experiences. To a certain degree I can identify or recognize the fight or flight responce. But, I think, it's like comparing treading...

I am not a PTSD sufferer, but am in therapy and was a supporter and I believe it is different for everyone. I believe if you have serious issues or triggers involving the opposite sex, I would think a same sex therapist would be easier, but it will never be easy. I don't think anyone can find...

Please be careful going cold turkey with your meds. Stopping most SSRIs and SNRIs suddenly can lead to sever withdrawl. Please be careful. I wish you the best.

Most companies allow a total of 13 weeks, but most companies require that any accrued vac be used to cover pay. Otherwise, FMLA is unpaid, it just guarntees your position or " a comprable position' within the company. You need to read your handbook, but 6 months turn around is unacceptable...

Something about the sudden disappearance/ avoidance/ no closure - good to gone- breaks you. Or, that's how it feels to me.

"Do you or anyone else on here have problems with clamming up in conversations? I actually have no idea how to keep this friendship going right now because I can't communicate with him at the moment. My whole life currently seems to be filled with my trauma (I have had several severely...

So precious!!

I wanna say, yay, go fo it, but... My ex was all you described in year one and then life got more stressful and he slowly started closing up. I don't remember, is your guy currently in therapy? If so, maybe another chance is possiblthe If not, I'd say be careful. PTSD seems to cycle for a lot...

If he actually said the words to break up with you, then I think you need to leave it alone. Just my opinion. You can text him, but no answer or a negative one would be pretty common with PTSD. Retreat or attack, fight or flight. Just my experience as someone who spent 2.5 years with a sufferer...

KyGirl- I'm sorry. I understand and I think you made the best choice you could given the situation. It's such a risk to trust someone once, but when they break it... I just think there is no going back. Sorry for how difficult it must have been for you. Hug.

Yes, slowly...

For those who know my story, you'll understand. For those of you going through a similar situation - you aren't alone. Christina Aguilera's new song "Say Something" Say something, I'm giving up on you. I'll be the one, if you want me to. Anywhere, I would've followed you. Say something, I'm...

I've been going to therapy lately after the final isolation and abandonment from my ex-sufferer and she said something that finally clicked to me. I was talking about I actually feel guilty when I feel anger at him considering what he is suffering, his PTSD. She looked at me and said, you're...

We have so few real icons these days of what people are capable of, can become, can represent. So sad.

Letting go of that hope is so hard. Yes, I call my ex-sufferer, my ex, but the hope clings. It makes the pain worse, that hope. Some days I think I've finally let it go, but it creeps back slowly. It just seems to intensifies the pain and my emotional rollercoaster starts again. I know...

Nope, neither of you are alone. Aj1 - so much of what you said is so familiar. ((hug))

That quote is so spot on to how I'm feeling right now.

In my experience, you worded that perfectly. That is exactly how I feel with my ex. Break-up by avoidance/ isolation/ retreat has made me question so much about the relationship, about him. I try not to, but it is human nature. It is the worst part, in my opinion. The fact that I could so...

I understand. One of my issues with just passively accepting the silence is that I don't want to be another person who just gives up on him. If I am wrong and it is more devisive in nature, and not just PTSD related, which just doesn't follow my 3 years of knowing him -- I don't know, for once...

I understand, my boyfriend of almost 3 years, or ex ,is long distance and just stopped responding about 5 months ago. No goodbye, get lost, or anything. It's really hard. Feels like a death and I don't know how to handle it. I try to leave him alone, but sometimes I text. He never responds. The...