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I think a lot of people (with and without PTSD) are emo-unavailable to some degree. My sufferer has trouble when things progress emotionally or it becomes "too serious". I can also shut down emotionally whenever something happens that reminds me a certain person has the power to hurt me. I...

I understand and I have the long distance situation also. Happy for you!

Nurse, can you explain the difference? I see the type of distancing we are talking about all over the forum. My understanding is that it is connected to sufferers depression issues.

I understand. What you describe is pretty common on the forum. The distancing is really hard. t's been 4 weeks since I have talked to the man I have been with for almost 3 years. It's very hard. Welcome! You are not alone. If you ever need/want to talk, just let me know.

I understand the anger, it comes and goes for me. Growing lately. Distancing goes against everything most of us know about someone caring about you. We want the people we care about to show us they want to be around us, to want to talk to us, to want to know how we are... We want to feel...

I know that my sufferer does have trouble when his PTSD issues affect me. If it's other things, we can discuss then and there and it seems like no big deal. If I'm upset over his distancing or that he forgot something he said he would do he tends to take it very hard. Especially if I'm hurt, not...

It's now been 4 weeks. Still strangely calm about it. Sad, but calmer. No crying, no more worrying for his safety. Doing stuff, filling my days, reading the forum. But every once in awhile I forget and think, I need to tell X about this or maybe X and I can go do this... Being stuck in Limbo is...

That's so familiar. And, I'm a big worrier, when it comes to those close to me. I'm one of those that always says, "text me when you get home so I know you made it ok". One of my little issues. That won't go away, in my experience. It's now been 4 weeks since this episode of distancing with my...

Oh, have lawyer request a copy of your medical records from hospital right away. Or do it yourself. Just a thought.

Wow. I'm speechless also. But, I'd say get a better lawyer. I'd start action to sue the deputy personally as well as the department. Wish I had more to offer. Hope it works out for you

I'm so sorry. It does sound like cutting off all communication would be best for you. I know that's hard. I really do, but it sounds like he's a child pointing at the other child saying she did it. If he can't take ownership and accountability of his issues, then you should cut him off. There...

You cannot accept the blame for his PTSD. Maybe we don't always respond as a therapist would, but that's because we aren't therapists. There is no freaking how-to book on the right or wrong way to deal with these situations. We can simply try to do our best. The fact is he wouldn't get help. So...

KyGirl, I agree with being treated well. The man I am with goes out of his way to touch me and hug me and cuddle with me in an attempt to soften when he is distant. He has never berated me or talked down to me or raised a hand to me. I do believe he tries, but the distancing happens. He has...

I understand exactly how you feel. I hope you do not mind me saying this, but I almost wish there were other issues besides the distancing and intimacy issues. It's just the constant push/pull. No black and white issues. I think it would make it easier to leave. Not that it is ever easy. And, I...

I have been with a man for almost 3 years who has ptsd - he's never told me that he loves me, he pushes me away every time we get through a difficult time and should be moving toward, he socially isolates, but he knows cheating is an automatic end. He knows this. The one thing I know for sure is...

I guess only time will tell. Thank you. Everyone on this forum has helped me so much.

I have been with a man for almost three years who still hasn't told me he loves me, just that he does care about me.He says he doeant really feel emotions. Where did you find this term, soul wound? And welcome

Yea, got a text Monday, "I'm alive. No service". No sorry I worried you or I miss you, no sorry period. At least I don't have to worry he's been hurt or worse, but it kind of made me slap myself. I don't know what's gonna happen with him, but right now I'm done. Focusing on myself and those...

I appreciate that, thank you.

I am a supporter, I have been with this man for 3 years and have gone through fairly short episodes and one that last 7 weeks in which he still communicated every few days in text. We are long distance which makes these harder for me. During the 7 weeks episode, we talked on the phone only once...

Thank you, that's kind of how I think of it in my head.

Well, first I would say that dreams are not literal. Dreams are completely subjective, what a dream might mean to me might be completely different for you. It's what they represent for the one having the dream and although the action in th edream is huge, it could represent something small or...

So, I have been reading a lot of posts and doing a lot of thinking. I am going to try to ignore me abandonment issues and just wait for him. I feel bad because I sent him a letter how I felt, MY issues. Trying, in my mind, to take a lot of the credit for my issues and how insecure I can get. Now...

As a supporter, I want to understand what triggers my guy better, but sometimes, from what he used to tell me, its normal stress. Something that won't get to him one day, will the next. Unfortunately, most of us supporters want to let our sufferer talk about it and PTSD 101 is that when you...

I wish I could help...