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It's astounding to me that someone can just lose hours at a time like that -- or more. And yet, there's something that seems so familiar to me in this. I don't lose hours like this now, in the present, but I think I was more prone to this sometime in the past.

Losing connections with people -- especially those we come to rely on for support, or who help us to validate ourselves -- can trigger all kinds of horrible feelings. Breaking-up with a girlfriend, a few years ago, was what finally convinced me that something beyond sadness over the breakup was...

Personally, I don't mind the debate, as long everyone accepts one basic idea -- that everyone has a right to their own perspective. I once had a debate with a European who believed that Hitler had been a good influence for Europe. Typically, I don't suffer Nazi's well (even my kids know that...

Quite true.

We are chameleons! I have so many damned, different personalities -- I pull them out of a hat like a magician. ;) This is not the worst thing, for me -- it's more about identifying likes and dislikes. I also believe that my identity is within me, somewhere, lurking. How to find it is the...

This in no way has any impact on Zimmerman's guilt or innocence regarding his altercation with Martin. However, it does support my belief that Zimmerman is a very troubled individual -- a wannabe cop, looking for attention, and a control freak that feels he has to dominate others. My ex-wife's...

Story of my life. :) I'm still much like this. Sometimes it's an advantage, because I can pick-up information on new subjects very easily, as I need to. But, it also makes for scattered focus. That's the question. More difficult, I know of some things I *think* I'd like, but this exists on...

Absolutely agree. Using such words towards a person that you're addressing is not acceptable in polite, public discourse. This goes beyond "bad manners".

What is "identity"? What constitutes identity? For a long time, I've had trouble identifying what I really like to do, what really makes me excited, motivated, etc., be it with regard to career, social activity, personal hobbies, etc. Nothing ever feels quite right. Sometimes, it's more a...

Really?! Wow. And, unfortunately, this is over a week ago -- did it happen yet? If I remember correctly, this was poorly handled by the company, and they had to do some damage control, right? Regardless, it doesn't matter what those bas***d's think. Wrong is wrong. You deserve your day in...

@Abstract, interesting point about listening to people swear at work. While, personally, I'm pretty foul-mouthed, I'm careful about who hears it, if anyone. Yet, having a bunch of people at work, who I'm not very familiar with, swearing away, without regard for who might be within earshot, is...

I'm actually surprised that any swearing is allowed here, because most public forums don't allow this. Personally, I often speak like a sailor when not around my kids, so it doesn't bother me at all, and I find it somewhat liberating to be able to come here and say what I need to say without...

I think it depends on where you're from. In some places, "escape" is not an option. There are things I'm not clear on. When did Martin see the gun, and is this even known? But, mostly, who confronted whom first? The latter is the real key to whether Zimmerman was in the wrong or not.

Objectively, I believe in justice for all. Emotionally, however, things are more cloudy. I have sympathy for those who've committed such crimes, because they are usually victims themselves, whose trauma was severe enough to limit their ability to control their own acting-out. However, when...

Agreed -- no justification for this. The trial was conducted properly, even if many believe (including me) that the prosecution overreached trying to get 2nd degree murder. The DOJ is likely just giving lip-service to the issue to appease the angry masses.

I agree with your assessment. Lots of stupidity here. As you said, Zimmerman should have stayed put. He wasn't qualified or competent to confront someone, either verbally or physically, and he was advised to stand down by the 911 operator. Regardless of anything that occurred thereafter...

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That I'll never learn what it means to be *really* connected. That I'll never really feel what it's like to be truly happy. That my personality will always be disintegrated. That I'll never really feel better.

Interesting reading about this. I went and did some research on Nathaniel Branden -- and realized that this is almost *exactly* the methodology my therapist has been using with me. I think I'll have some questions for her at my next session. ;) Not sure if I can join this group, due to time...

Turns-out that ADD can actually be from trauma-related issues. I was quite surprised by this, and only discovered this a few months ago. Talking to a professional would probably be really helpful for you -- you don't even need to get a "certified diagnosis". Many therapists hate diagnoses and...

I certainly understand; we're in this boat together. :) I like the expression you used -- "curly one". Never heard that before -- I need to remember it. :D

What you describe is very frightening, and corresponds to some of what I read about re-traumatization -- although your situation seems more dramatic that what I had envisioned this to be. I think, as everyone else suggested, that, if your mental state has deteriorated since that point, it's...

Thanks for your post, Saffy -- it was very helpful. :D I think that the same is true for me -- that I have always lived my life for someone else and/or to be what everyone else wants or expects me to be. I haven't been my authentic self since I was 5 years old, probably, if not before. I have...

This is another odd thing -- the many of us seemed to be fully functional adults, and then, after we started learning about our trauma, we started to lose our drive, ability to focus, etc. Maybe we were just kidding ourselves? I know to a large extent I was. But it is interesting how such a...

:D Makes sense to me. At least I'm not alone in disliking Facebook. I've had a few of these too. I just usually ignore them; that much I can usually handle. Come to think of it, I've ignored even people I probably would like to connect with. Yup, big problems for me. ;)