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He was. I mean he did cut me off with no explanation for 3 months. I mentioned that, as he was acting like nothing had changed. I said: "You haven't talked to me in 3 months, you came here and didn't talk to me, why do you want to talk now?" That made him made and he just said "Whatever...

I'm sitting here a little dumbfounded tonight because my ex-friend pinged me on FB. I did respond, although I tried to keep my responses minimal. I wanted to see what was up, figuring he wants something. He didn't seem to want anything in particular, he just asked how I was doing and flirted...

This happened to me with my ex-friend. One day, he just acted like a jerk then cut off contact with no explanation, and that was following a period of rather intense contact when I stayed at his home for a week. That was over 2 months ago. I'll admit it was hard at first, but I've come to...

I'm sorry that you're going through this. It sounds to me like he may need more professional help with the PTSD than he's getting, and perhaps has other issues too (depression etc). My ex-friend with PTSD used to say the same things "I don't care about anyone but myself", and "I can't feel...

Wow. No, that is absolutely not creepy and weird, and what a jerky thing for him to say! I don't think you owe him any apologies, from what you've said here. Don't say you're sorry and beg for forgiveness when you haven't done anything wrong, that just devalues you and shows a lack of...

Today was better. I was less stressed and he didn't come near my area until the very end of the day. I'm feeling pretty good now, like, I got this! Also more sure than ever that he is not worth my time.

Yeah, he's "special". I've come to realize that he's a narcissist. He was probably that way before the PTSD hit. Maybe it made things worse, but I'm betting that he had narcissistic tendencies beforehand.

...and as expected, it's not been a lot of fun for me. Today was day 1, and it was super weird and awkward, at least for me. He walked over to my team's area a few times, said hi to everyone but me, and we pretty much ignored each other. I didn't even look at him directly, because I didn't...

Welcome to the forum! I'm so sorry this happened to you. Is he getting any treatment for his PTSD? If not then he may not be capable of a close, healthy relationship of any sort. He parties with his friends because those relationships are likely more casual and so they don't stress him out...

Good morning! :)

@Peach - I will be sure to update next week! I, too, hope there won't be a lot to say. @Sweetpea76 - I know, right?! You'd think it would stress him out. There doesn't seem to be a purpose, or if there is he hasn't told anyone. No one invited him here and he isn't needed for work, he just...

It's almost here...he'll be in the office Monday. I'm getting more and more stressed. Probably no one is watching this thread anymore, but I had to get this out. M told me today that he will be sitting about 4 rows down from me, I'll be between him and M, and I'm right on the aisle, meaning...

Ugh, mansplaining is the WORST. I'm a woman in tech and I get that a lot. It's condescending and disrespectful (even if they don't always realize they are doing it). Yes, I think he does owe you an apology if he says mean things and hurts your feelings. Or at the very least, an...

Speaking as someone who's also been blocked by a sufferer...it's most definitely not you! You sound like you have your head on straight and are handling things really well. I wish you the best, lots of hugs to you!

I would have thought that, but it was from a friend of mine whom I trust. He told her directly. They aren't really friends, but he used to have a crush on her, she mostly avoids talking to him but she said she questioned him since he mentioned applying for the job she knows I want. Idk why he...

I just had to update this as I got more news today and now I'm even more angry. That internal job I was applying for? I just found out he told someone we both know that he might apply for it too. The job is here in my city, NOT his, so if he got it he'd be moving here. Not to mention, if he...

Hi Glara, I'm so sorry that you feel this bad. I can relate somewhat My father also doesn't speak to me, over something stupid. I've come to realize though that if someone cuts you off like that, it's usually not about you. More than likely, it's some issue of his, and not really anything...

I agree with @Peach about your focus on physicality. Your body image sounds somewhat negative from what you've posted here. Like Peach said, the right person will think you are insanely attractive just as you are. I don't think there are any hard clues as to when you're ready for a...

You've been hurt pretty badly; it's completely understandable that you may feel differently now and that you may be unsure of letting him back in. I agree with Glara that you should consider this very carefully especially since you have young children. You might also consider discussing how...

@Peach, Yes he will get paid, he will basically working remotely, since he is based out of CA. He can just come into the office with his laptop and do his work here I guess. But yeah...it's weird. I'm not that surprised though as he is known to do weird stuff like that. When I visited him in...

Ok so this is really more of a stress rant than anything else, but I just need to vent a bit. My estranged friend with ptsd, who I haven't spoken to in about 6 weeks and who lives halfway across the country, is coming to town. We work for the same company so he will be coming to the office...

I agree with a couple of the statements above. First, it's human nature to want to spend more time discussing what's going wrong, rather than what's going right, especially on a support board like this one. Also, if the board were filled with people talking about how great their relationships...

@Glara, I'm so sorry you're going through this. I totally understand that feeling of being used and then cut off. My situation isn't exactly the same, as the person I was supporting was a close friend and not someone I was dating, but I was cut off by my friend as well after showing caring...

There's a text hotline called Crisis Text Line, it won't let me post links here unfortunately, but if you google Crisis Text Line it should come up. It's free. Hope this helps!

@The Albatross : It's alright. :) @Cashew : I'm glad to hear that you all watch out for each other's health. That's a really nice kind of "we're all in this together" type of feeling I would think. I do think my ex-friend is pretty isolated overall and probably doesn't have anyone watching...