Search results

Do you mind if I ask if you were actively pushing them away, or just withdrawn? I appreciate your reply here. I, too, am struggling with a man that isolates. I'm trying to understand right now what I need to do as well. I do try to approach things as you said here, and be supportive from a...

I'm waiting to schedule my in home study right now too.

I'm not upset, dear! I believe your trying to help. I agree with some of what you're saying, but have a different opinion about some other stuff. But that's the beauty of it. Even if I think differently, I'm very open to other ideas. Part of the reason, I think, is because as is my...

I don't know many people like that... mostly my kids, my sister, and him. Even though he leaves, he still tries to be supportive. But even with my parents, they're shitty ti me at times, but it's based in their misery, not me, if that makes sense. It hurts, and I have taken the dark things...

That makes sense. I had actually come to that conclusion too, lol! Great minds! There's a lot of stuff rattling around up there!

I guess I'm pulling your thread back up... like it or not! Did your husband ever pull away from you too, during these times? If he did, would you know he was just trying to figure his own stuff out or would you have written him off? What was the longest you shut him out? Are you always in...

It's hard to say if I genuinely like being told by others the good things about me or not. I think the reason I do like it, (except when I don't because I find it fake or creepy) is that somewhere in my mind I woukd like it to counteract all of the bad I've always been told. Like maybe it will...

I'm not sure exactly what to say except good for you for seeing this and being proactive! My mind feels a bit like jello right now, sorry I don't have more to offer

The person whose texts I was bringing about were from the guy my friends were trying to get me to go out with, not my fella. Yes, I do have PTSD too. That's part of what makes this complicated. I do relate with what you wrote especially: And so I draw this conclusion (only for myself)...

That's good to hear

I just wanted to pop in and note this is an excellent thread with many good ideas and thoughts...

I did give this guy my number earlier on, and I've noticed I don't get excited from getting texts from him. In fact, they make me cringe. I've already made alternate plans for this weekend so it's easier for me to tell the others I don't want to do this. I wish I knew that K is going to get...

Here it is (for the IFS website) Center for Self Leadership, IFS Therapy Training (Official Site) It had a lot of interesting stuff. I downloaded the book and printed it ot and ot it in a binder so I can make notes on it. Plus I also bought the audio book to listen and read at the same time...

Wow, I so relate! We're even the same age, lol! I'll be 44 in July. I'm also on a journey to make myself the center of my world. It's foreign. I am working on a book, "Conscious Living", by Gay Hendricks as well as "You Are the One You're Been Waiting For" by Richard Schwartz. He's the...

Thank you so much! I feel silly I considered being pushed into this. I mean, of course it's flattering to be asked out, but I'm obviously not ready. I'll wait to see how his therapy goes, and if he decides he really doesn't want us, there's nothing I can do about that. If in the distant...

I don't like the break ups, but I understand them. I think I asked the question in here because I need to counteract the noise from those "well meaning" people out here. I agree that time is what I need most. I've never had a bond with anyone on earth like with him. Even if we didn't get back...

As most of you know, we are in the middle of our annual break up. He's recently started therapy finally too, but says he's worried it isn't helping. But he deliberately is pushing me away harder than ever and is admittedly more angry. So it's been almost 2 months since this break. They...

So, I do have a diary in the supporter side. I'm trying to figure out if I should keto writing in there, even my "sufferer" stuff, or if I should start a second one in the sufferer side or what? It's so hard for me to figure out what or who I am. I'm not in control of me as well, I'm certainly...

I understand this, but also it is only true from one side. I don't need him to fight for me. He can fight for himself even if I'm around. I don't need him to fight for me, I would settle for him not fighting against me at this point. To stop blaming me. Really, many of us are willing ti help...

I've been trying to figure this out too. My answer is to observe my granddaughter and when I babysit her, we do literally anything "safe" she wants. We explore, we dance around while we clean up, I make her feel safe and loved by taking the time ti listen ti her needs and meet them. Some...

I don't think he even knows what to tell her. Our perspectives are so different sometimes that it makes me wonder if I'm crazy...but almost everyone else around us sees it too. I have never met or talked to any of his therapists, only the few times he tried couples therapy. But he's only...

Wow, good for you! So much of what you say resonates with me. I'm glad to hear you're doing well for yourself. You should be proud! Keep up the good work and keep working in your boundaries.

Yeah, I asked you so many questions on your thread because he's your long lost twin brother, lol! It's so funny to me that you understand his POV. Yeah, the rest of us don't think that way, not in as grand of a scale at least. I'm glad it can open a different perspective for you in the...

You're so very welcome, dear!

I have yet another neuro appointment on Monday. Then I've set up with a chiropractor and acupuncturist (my insurance is amazing and pays for all of it! ) I also will touch back with the T ti see what she has to say. I think I have a lot of work ahead... thank you for your continued support. You...