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This is a rant that must come out of my head. For 3 years I have been in a relationship with someone who suffers from combat-PTSD. I caught him in a few lies over the years - stupid lies. Lying about going for a takeout meal instead of cooking at home - truly stupid sh*t that doesn't even...

I wish you good things for your future CateM! You deserve to be happy! Take care! And if you can - please send some good vibes, juju, prayers or whatever you feel you can my way tonight when I speak to my vet. Thanks!

He rarely admits he has PTSD and refuses to seek help. That is a recipe for disaster. His angry outbursts are due to his unmanaged PTSD. This is not healthy for any of you. He needs to be a man, do the right thing for himself and his family and get the necessary help. And after a few bad...

He has not gone to the VFW much - if any. He doesn't really have any friends either, which sort of concerns me. He likes to garden a bit, but he can't do much because his back is a mess and it hurts him to bend over for very long. He has dogs, and I think that they are good for him as...

Cate, I totally understand what you are feeling and going through as I will be having a similar conversation tonight. My (ex) boyfriend and I have been broken up for 5 weeks now - we still talk, have seen each other and text and he hasn't gone out on any dates with other women yet. He claims...

Can you ask him to stop the online dating until the two of you figure out where you are going? I get that you are broken up and he is doing nothing wrong, but if he is only keeping you as an option then you need to decide what your needs/wants are. Its great he is working on himself. Its...

My (ex) boyfriend and I have been "broken up" for about 5 weeks now and its all because of his PTSD symptoms. He still responds to my texts, I have seen him a few times and we have spoken on the phone a few times too. But we aren't together. He is ____________, I'm not even sure what to call...

I could never do 3 or 4 months of no contact. The only reason I have still hung on to hope is that my guy does talk to me, does see me and does respond to me, even though the volume of contact is much lower. I do see that he is going through a stressful time - it is written all over his face...

My (ex) boyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago during a time when he was overwhelmed with stress - he needed to isolate a bit and chose to break-up instead of ask for space due to his own guilt. He felt guilty for not being able to hold up his end of the relationship. In those 4 weeks we have...

Why oh why are there so many of us with such similar stories? Why oh why did I think my relationship would be different? I think the hardest part for me at this point is the loss of power or the loss of control in my relationship. We were totally fine in the morning and in the evening that...

It's all so sad. I too am trying to move on from a 3 year relationship that recently imploded due to the good ole US Army & PTSD. I love this man with every fiber of my being and yet this is not enough. It will never be enough for him because some damn fool at the VA told him he could just take...

I am proud of you for making this decision for YOU and YOUR CHILDREN. Negativity and hopelessness can be contagious if you're on the receving end of the verbal vomit. Your kids need their mom to be happy and healthy for them. They will be fine as long as they feel secure and know that they...

I am reading this funny book right now called, "Maybe He's Just An Asshole". I downloaded it on my kindle because I needed some humor about my break-up. I'm trying to move on with my life and I am having a hard time because I had very little say so in the decision to break-up. He did talk to...

Update~ We talked in person and he is a mental mess right now. I asked him if he would consider more counseling......he said that counseling doesn't work on him. What?!? Not the right answer. He just wants to see the psychiatrist every 3 months and take his meds - he doesn't want to do the...

Barberian, you have not wasted any of my time ~ if anything you have been a blessing and a treasure to me. I read and research and do everything I can to understand but the bottom line is, I don't have PTSD. In hearing from you and learning your perspective (one that he cannot always share...

Hello Kacee129, I'm in the same place you are - angry but relieved. I did not realize how much stress it caused me until he broke up with me for the third time in 3 years. Communication is his downfall and I also think some non-PTSD issues are at play here too. I think he is slightly immature...

That is a great idea Barberian - psychiatrist for meds and psychologist for mental counseling. IF I ever talk to him again I will suggest this. I really think he could benefit a lot from additional counseling and he is not real hip on group. Then I also have to decide if I want to talk to him...

Thanks Barberian! He goes to his psych appointment every 3 months for his meds, but I think he could use some more therapy. He tried group therapy a few months ago but it was with a bunch of "newbies" he said and they hadn't even been through the VA system. I think he needs to explore some...

Apparently still venting.... We both even know why he is isolating - we both know this will pass. But in his depressive state he cannot see that right now. I've been through this before, I know what it is....but it still doesn't make it any easier. Bleh.

First off, I am so sorry you have to go through this. It’s just not fair! And you can't even be face to face right now, which to me makes it worse. If I recall correctly, he was diagnosed with mild PTSD prior to this deployment, but he isn't really in therapy or on meds. If this is the...

Thank you for all of your kind supportive words. I spent my weekend with my girlfriends - my kids were with their dad. It was nice to get out even though I had to force myself. If I would have stayed in I would have spent all of my time having a pity party for myself. I think most of what I...

I've known my boyfriend for 6 years and we've been in a serious relationship for 3 years - until yesterday. His PTSD is from military service in a combat zone. I say this because I think he thinks in a military style. Most of the time our relationship is perfectly normal - happy times, both...

I am not married to my sufferer, but we are in a committed long term relationship - together for 3 years. What I get out of the relationship with him is: 1) He is my best friend - we share our happy times, our sad times, our stressed times and whatever other times come our way. We are each...

Sarah, I met my sufferer almost 6 years ago. When we met it was amazing - an instant attraction and connection. We quickly became exclusive and dated for about a year and were so in love. We talked about a future together and I fell for that dream. In that time he told me about his PTSD...

Sometimes I forget about his symptoms because most of the time they are no big deal. We can't go places with large crowds; he hates loud places, etc. All the usual stuff, which I don't mind at all (I am not a fan of large crowds either). But right now he has a lot going on and is very close...