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Thanks. Won't this just push them away and make them appear in another fashion?

That makes sense to me! Fingers crossed it all goes well. Rooting for you.

I don't know man. If he's not willing to adapt to DD language to make you feel comfortable, there'll always be this gap between you and him. Your gut is trying to tell you something. Listen to it.

As a sufferer of C-PTSD, most of my gap years are due to being irresponsible and homeless. How do I justify that in an interview?

I'm currently in college but (certification or not) I'd like to return to work starting next year. What are your advices on how to return to work given I'll have 4 years gap in my CV?

I keep having these over in a while wet dreams involving my mother. Last night I dreamt of sneaking into her room while she was asleep and grabbed her by her breast waking her up moaning just for her to realize what's happening and be repulsed by all of it. When I had my mental...

I listened to the podcast episode and the issue he brings up is that nowadays everything is claimed to be "evidence-based". He has an issue with these type of practices where there isn't a focus on long term healing but on a quick fix. So I guess that's what he meant by putting in quotation...

By the way, have you seen this resource? It might be useful:

Just to clarify. There are two therapists. 1 that said I would become anti social/a psychopath and the second (trauma therapist) I saw afterwards who said I've still "left a bit" in there. Yes, though, this being afraid of the consequences is not because I fear or realize the consequences...

Theft. And some drug use like alcohol (although I'm not sure it was really drugs besides the alcohol - I was probably tricked into thinking it was). I also abused my dog (beaten him once by striking over his nose to the point he bled and threw him on the ground - both when he was little). They...

See answers to @Weemie 's questions below. Yes, in my childhood and teenage years - though, uncaught. Not so much, no. Yes. I act out *sometimes* (very rarely) - most of the time I act *in*. I.e. I push it away in a self harm manner All my friends deserted me. At college I can't speak with...

So it sounds like an attempt at repair is worthwhile and if that fails seek a better therapist once you're in better shape?

Ok. He did not go on a rampage (my bad). He was calm during the entire conversation. And he grounded you for the extra 20 minutes. That's good. However, this does not rule out the fact that you felt invalidated. And I think you've a good point. I too would expect my trauma therapist to be open...

Giving what op wrote (see quote above), it's clear that the therapist: A) may have trauma himself B) got triggered by op's attempt at sharing what might work for her (therapist read this as a dangerous challenge to his status as a therapist) C) was experiencing countertransference and...

To me, it's useful. Knowing my score and health outcomes as per research is important. So far, they've lined up. Though it may be there are folks who don't find it useful which is ok.

Fair enough. It should be for any age.

If you processed that encounter with that child as abuse, then yes, it matters.

Honestly, in my opinion the therapist did a bad job. He should've said: it is not my specialty and I disagree with what's said in the video. This means it is up to you to decide whether you'd like to seek a new therapist or continue our work because you know yourself best. Instead he went on a...

That sucks. To me he sounds like a therapist who doesn't know how to deal with countertransference. Is he a trauma therapist?

I've had encounters with a girl and my therapist said it was ok. I had another encounter with a guy and that, I think, was molestation. So age difference does matter.

Just being alive. I had a really bad day. I'm almost at the end of it (1 hour left of studying), but man from morning till now it has been non stop negatives.

Well, to take on your examples, if you were sexually abused and you were separated it's more of a betrayal. And you have to grieve that. If the caregiver went to jail it's still a betrayal (the caregiver wasn't responsible towards you). Either way you'll have to grieve. Albeit, I personally...

For some of us it's enough to have one ACE. Don't beat yourself up. The tests are just for guidance, it's not a be all and end all.

What the research has shown is that trauma is very, *very* common. We used to think (or people in developed countries used to think) that trauma is rare when in fact we now know it's a part of our daily reality. People cope in different ways. It might be that we still have to go a bit to...

Depends on the situation. The other caregiver you'd be attached to would send you the message (anxiety/distress coming from mother) or if you would be put in foster care you'd later find out (by researching on your biological parents). Either way it will come out and when it will, it'll be a...