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My boyfriend (well he is an ex now as of a month ago) has Aspergers and the communication issues and his inability to see things from other people's points of view was really the reason I decided to end the relationship after 4 years. Despite his slower processing of emotions, he was brilliant...

Thank you so much for your support and comments. I reconnected with him last weekend and we talked for two and a half hours about the whole thing. Can't believe we spoke for so long but there was a lot to catch up on. He was really pleased to hear from me. He said I had hurt him back then and it...

Wow, that sounds difficult to deal with. It sounds like she hasn't processed her trauma properly and overshares with people because of it. Also that it has become her identity. Maybe research 'Woundology' - the definition of it is: 'Woundology is the tendency to insistently hold on to old...

Thank you so much Movingforward10 for your response. This is very true, you have described it perfectly. I also agree about not going into detail. There is a way of saying something without actually saying it if you know what I mean. This feels safer and less exposing.

I met a guy online and were long distance for three months to begin with. He was originally from the same city I live in but was finishing a university course in the north of the country. We really hit it off and it seemed like the perfect match. I helped him apply for a job and when he had his...

Whenever I was interrupted in conversation, the person would cut in while I was talking and my mind would go blank. I would struggle to think of what I had been saying and spend a while saying "erm, erm...what was I saying?" I would become anxious because I knew what was about to happen. The...

It is positive that you have identified this now and pieced together what triggered you back then. It is also very positive that he is an ex and this is not a current relationship. Hopefully you can take this time to heal and process it all perhaps in therapy. Sounds like your ex was overbearing...

Yes. I was triggered last year in my relationship big time and since then when we argue my go to emotion is anger. It is an intense anger that rises and my bf is on the autistic spectrum and can obsess over issues and like to take control of situations and therefore control me. He recognises...

I am not married to him. He told me to move in with him and we would get married. I moved in and he said marriage is just a piece of paper and he has changed his mind but said "we can still be together forever". I was hurt at the time but then focused on myself for 3 years and my career. I did...

I am so sorry you have experienced that Eve. You have done the right thing by ending it and it will take you a while to heal but please don't blame yourself for realising after 2 years that he was an abuser. Chances are you did notice red flags but gave him the benefit of the doubt. I am sure...

I have lived with my boyfriend for 3 years and we met 4 years ago. Earlier this week I arranged something for our 4th anniversary, I booked a table at a restaurant we really like and found a really good deal as it is usually expensive. All paid for and ready to go, I know that if I don't arrange...

I have just read about your experiences and really commend you for how supportive you have been of your girlfriend. You put yourself at risk and the situation caused you and your family stress. You clearly really care for her. I do agree that now you should focus on you and that sounds great...

I have dated in my 20s and met some strange characters, had some near misses and lucky escapes and met guys who were ok as people but didn't know what they wanted and tried to drag out the relationship and have me stick around. I was assertive throughout and ended situations if I saw genuine red...

I am training as a counsellor, so have had a lot of in-depth personal therapy as part of my training. My course is naturally triggering as we are constantly encouraged to self reflect, talk about life experiences, discuss our clients' experiences some of which may be triggering. It is a place...

Phoenix_Rising, first of all thank you for sharing. I am very sorry that you have had this experience. To answer you question, yes you were raped and your husband is very aware of his actions and the cause. You are obviously in a relationship with a man who is abusive in more ways than one...

I seem to be like a hamster on a wheel filling up my time with working and studying so that my mind is constantly busy. Today I acknowledged that I am not feeling well and I called in sick which is something I rarely do. I usually push through it and feel guilty if I take time off but today I...

This is a really interesting metaphor. I had not thought of it like this before but it makes sense. I wonder if the jacket that has become full of painful memories, symptoms and emotions can be emptied in any way. Whether you can free yourself of them, as it is a lot to carry. Of course, keeping...

Absolutely, it is really positive that you recognise that things are moving a bit too fast for you and communicating this to him is a very good idea as he probably has no idea at the moment and actually would appreciate you telling him how you feel. Perhaps the thought of the whole thing moving...

Welcome SimplySara :) To echo Freemartin, you most certainly are not alone and this forum is a great place to help you realise that. Very supportive members here :hug:

In the start of my relationship we had a lot of sex but I would sometimes zone out and to be honest sometimes did it because I thought it was what he expected. I guess by doing it I thought I would seem “normal”. I enjoyed it sometimes but most times it was just routine. Since living together...

I have lived with my boyfriend of two years for the past 11 months. It has been challenging being in a relationship, trust was an issue in the beginning. Sleeping in the same room as him was something that I have tried to get used to but even now, I am always on edge. It has nothing to do with...

I have only ever worked part time hours once but all my other jobs have been full time. From personal experience, the environments that I have worked in have been the main factor of how PTSD is affected but the hours have made a difference too. My idea before was to keep busy and work as much as...

I can relate. I pressured myself, telling myself I should stay on the course I'm doing. I told myself I need to do the masters because my dad who is very critical, will make a comment or put down if I don't. He'll tell me I'm getting closer to 30 and I "still don't have a Doctorate" and "how...

I first went on Citalopram five years ago, I can't remember the side effects from back then when I started, apart from a sudden alert feeling instead of the groggy depressing feeling I was living with. I came off the Citalopram two and a half months ago after five years on it because I felt...

It's really good that you know what you need and that you are thinking carefully about this, especially as your studies are going so well. It's great that your studies are giving you motivation and your future career is keeping you going. Absolutely, getting tested for any deficiencies etc and...