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I don't absorb other peoples anger. I try to understand why they are angry. ~Call it a gift from my childhood. :joyful: There is no need for anger if you have understanding of a situation.

Anger is a healthy tool in the healing process. Or it can be a destructive force. Everyone has that choice. I go straight to why angry people are acting out. Feeling anger doesn't occur to me. I am busy trying to determine how close they are to circling the drain on their way to the darkside...

Agreed. Having survived a very angry childhood environment. I see the expression of anger as very negative. I avoid anger and conflict like the plague. Not my circus not my monkeys. I was afraid to be angry. I was filled with terror. An important distinction. It allowed me to explore the "whys"...

I could tear down Mt. Everest in a single afternoon with my righteous anger. I instead prefer the view. :) IMO Anger can be helpful and healthy. Anger is pain from injustice. It helps us process pain without sadness. An excellent motivator. It gives us courage to deal with our pain. It opens the...

There is much hope for your life than you realize.:) It is sad Digger. At the end of the day that is what I see. Sadness. No anger. No hurt. Sadness. What I see... is sad human beings for whatever reason gave up on what life has to offer in exchange to destroy the lives of others. Our worth...

Humor. Humor heals a multitude of ills. :) Today I am celebrating in laughter! The many memories of my older brother dry humping my leg. His deep frusturation he couldn't bring me to an orgasm. I can see the veins protruding from his neck while he is screaming "come you c*nt...come." :roflmao...

You can wish them dead all you like. I see it as wasted time. Why bother? Nothing is going to change the fact they are stupid. :D

The other day,I was having a conversation with someone I respect. We were discussing emotions. As humans we have a range of emotions. All of which are acceptable to feel. Emotions are emotions we are free to feel them. They go on to say emotions are not the reason/cause anyone does anything...

At the end of the day abusers lack an important human factor. Love. Self love. In this beautiful thing called life they choose to walk through life abusing the innocent. They are cowards who cannot look in the mirror. You can Digger. You/me and everyone else can look in the mirror and see we are...

Try not to be hard on yourself. It reflects you are a compassionate human being. :)

Rihanna ~ Stay

My problem is my mind is in a state of hyper vigilance. I don't have a shame problem. I refused to be "their toxic brand of shameless. Hence, I responded by being a shameless little girl who refused their sexual abuse. In their world my fight...ok...war...to save my virginity translated to them...

Amen! :joyful:

Yes,being vulnerable is the human condition. Everyone is vulnerable. Finding a balance is key. Trauma survivors will have a different balance than non traumatized individuals. Why? Necessity. We have the gift and curse of knowing and having deep understanding of humanity. It's not shame based.

Fact. Children are vulnerable to the passing of toxic shame because of their reliance on their parents. In fact,this dependency is necessary to the internalization of shame:Shame can only be passed in significant relationships. For a child to believe the shaming criticisms and teachings they...

My therapist is great! She understands everyone heals in different manners due to the many different dynamics of abuse. At this point I have not shared my trauma in detail. Many child survivors of trauma feel a deep sense of shame while many do not. Suggesting Brene Brown's thoughts on...

OK. Out of all your sharky comments throughout this thread I like the one quoted above the best! LOL

Cherry pick all you like. You stated many activist are abuse survivors who channel their anger into worthy causes and go on to say people on this forum plan to channel their anger the same way. There are indeed many" activist." LOL I am trying to express not everyone feels that way. The...

Yes you did.

After we sort out our trauma issues with a trauma therapist first. There will be no need for BB!!! Do you understand dysfunctional families? "Allowing people to walk all over them?" There are no boundaries. That.is.the.problem. Not all children feel shame. I am one of those children...

None of the above is shame.

Thank you for the video Valentino! :) Hopefully what doesn't work for one will work for another. I was a child. I had no idea what I was doing at the time. I refused to drink their Kool-Aid. Looking back... I was fighting for my worthiness. That was the whole struggle! I am not trying to be...

My point about boundaries is, of course, I have boundaries. Everyone has boundaries. My theory is "creeps" will know when they've crossed mine after they cross them. LOL I have been around too many creeps. Therefore, I don't broadcast mine. I allow people to be who they are. Free rein baby! LOL...

:) ~I completely understand. :( Thank you Junebug! I was beginning to wonder if I was a minority within a minority! :( I can't find the proper words to describe how I managed..other than to say the dysfunction was blatant enough for a 5yr old to understand. I was blamed for everything...

There it is again. So now anger restores self worth?