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@GrayOwl go get em! :joyful:

Love the garden analogy and birds :chicken:. During my low times I spent entire weekends in bed and didn't answer my phone. Then had to have a serious word with myself and pull it together. You're right, its tough. But I hope that bluebird really appear @GrayOwl .

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I'm guessing that for a lot of us who have SO's in isolation, we miss that general day to day interaction. Someone to ask you how your day was and you ask them in return. So I thought I would reach out. Been pretty tough the last few weeks, having started a new job. Today I was getting a...

Sorry this is so tough right now for you hun. I don't think you did anything wrong and you shouldn't feel like you're treading on egg shells when around him and simply trying to show some affection. Good news is that he is clearly very fond of you, that's why he agrees to meeting with you. Bad...

@VikingGF Yours sounds like a classic case study situation. Which is actually good as most of us can help give you a general prediction of what may follow and help you out with the now too. Sadly, nothing out of the ordinary here. You will naturally need time to adjust from the regular...

@fletch24 This is absolutely the right way to go.

@Shallot03 You are NOT pathetic and have clearly come a long way in understanding how he copes with his PTSD as well getting yourself through at the same time without losing the plot. Not seen my SO in almost 2 months either. I care deeply for him but no longer look for his...

@TiffanyBlueandYou I am sorry to hear this pain you're going through. From what you say though, things do sound promising in as much as he recognises his need for help. And that whilst he's seeking this know's he can't be fully present in a relationship to give you what you deserve. I won't...

Well said. Hugs if you accept them. :hug: Well done! That's great to hear so glad you're feeling more at peace with it all. Its a lot to take on and understand.

Hi all, maybe its the fact that we've left winter (on my side of the world) and the sun's shining. But I'm feeling positive and upbeat. Not seen my SO sufferer for around 7 weeks now, contact has been minimal. May be 5 texts and 1 phone call in all that time. Last time we spoke we left things...

Firstly, welcome to the site its a great source of advice and support. Secondly, I think your issues are at least 2 fold. You both come together in as you describe, a 'whirlwind' romance. We all know how intense and exhilarating they are before you come back down to Earth. But you each bring...

I think I can sum this up in one word, 'BOUNDARIES'. I basically agree with what the others have said. You set out the goal posts and now you're moving them. I get that you're both keen to check in with each other and reconnect but by being the strong one to initially say "no, this isn't...

It sounds like you've kind of answered a lot of your own questions. Yes his PTSD isn't going anywhere. Therapy or not, you cannot erase a memory you can only find better ways of coping with it. I don't doubt you live him but if you decide to be in it for the long haul, you have to toughen your...

Hi all, I'll try and summarise if I can. So my SO apparently came out of isolation a couple of weeks ago when he reached out to me after 4 weeks. I was so elated I posted to let you all know. He apologised profusely for his radio silence and made arrangements for us to meet the following week...

Yep, definitely! Can't focus as much as I should. Had a tough training day this week and couldn't eat my lunch as my SO was on my mind. Kept feeling like I would walk out in tears, if one more person rushed me to do something. Not like me at all....

@Grasshoppa you come across as such a kind, sweet, caring person. Just want to send a hug your way and let you know you are not alone. I believe in the power of positivity and getting back from the universe what you put out. I'm sure he will be back soon. Like @TheMinsterman said I too know I...

I know how hard that is, its like torture when you really care about/ love someone. I wanted to add that ultimately I think you have to do what's right right for you. If its eating you up and depressing you that's not fair. Take care of yourself. :hug:

Hi @Grasshoppa didn't want to leave you hanging. I really feel for you, some days seem easier than others to get through don't they...my sufferer can only text at the moment but I realise how big a deal that is for him. Life can certainly be lonely as a supporter. If you had such a great...

Can I just say first off that I giggled reading your thread. I like your 'take no prisoners approach' and sense of humour. So easy to forget to have a sense of humour around this subject sometimes. I concur, its early days so I would give him the benefit of the doubt too. If you really like him...

@Newtoptsd you have done it again my friend! Absolutely taken the words out of my mouth. I agree with everything you just said and think its spot on advice! ;):tup:

I'll be honest. My take on this is that this all sounds like a lot for only having known each other 3 months. Meeting each others friends, wanting commitment, talking about moving/going on trips together...etc this would all be pretty fast moving in any "budding" relationship, never mind one...

Thank you @Grasshoppa I basically haven't changed my actions much since last week. Didn't go straight back to too much texting or talking and just allowing him time and space to initiate conversation and its working. I am relieved but am aware this will more than likely happen again so just...

Glad this helps you @Savasana it is a tough road for all involved. I can tell you, I took myself to some inner depths of belief and hope to get through this latest isolation and my SO is back and communicating. He says he's still dealing with stuff but realised it wasn't fair to shut me out and...

@TheMinsterman you are always a wealth of knowledge, experience and support to others (including me). I'm gutted you have had such a rough time of it recently, I can read and sense how utterly exhausted and spent you are! I haven't read all the books and am not a trained specialist. I do have...