Relationship Is It His Ptsd Or Is He Just A Jerk? New Relationship With Someone With Ptsd.

[ArtsyYogi]

I am so sorry that this happened to you...especially with the friend getting involved the way she did.

He said for you to stop contacting him immediately and then he said he was blocking you on everything. Man, if it were me in this situation, I think I would just let it go and leave him alone. I don't think I would send him a letter to be honest. If you need closure for yourself, rewrite the letter and then rip it up or burnt it. I think it's one thing if they are isolating and they haven't told you to stay away and a whole other thing when they tell you to go away in uncertain terms. I'm not a sufferer...but if I told someone to stop contacting me immediately and then block them on everything, I would be pretty bent out of shape if they still attempted to get a hold of me even through a letter. (But that's me)

Who knows...he might come back and want to talk with you after he's had a chance to cool/calm down. And...he very well may not. If he opens up the lines of communications again, maybe then send a letter to him?

 

[Linzee]

@Newtoptsd you have done it again my friend! Absolutely taken the words out of my mouth. I agree with everything you just said and think its spot on advice! ;):tup:

 

[WonderWoman]

I'll be honest. My take on this is that this all sounds like a lot for only having known each other 3 mo...

I was wondering if him meeting my friends was too soon. But he seemed to have no problem with it and came to my place early to meet them. I would of understood if he said he didn't want to meet them and he could have came down later that night but he never communicated that would be an issue.

I was never the one to bring up the future and the vacation. It was all him. He even said "if we ever turned into something awesome" I could wait and go with him to get my MBA down south... this was him sober maybe a week before but I never said yes. I just smiled and said maybe. I knew it was too soon even for me to think about leaving my current life behind for a man I just met.

I also never pressured him into committing to me. I wanted a commitment eventually but knew it was too soon and was trying to just enjoy the moment and the time we spent together. That same meddling friend tried pushing me into having the "relationship talk" with him but I knew in my gut it was never something I would do with him. If we were to ever commit it would have to be organic.

 

[Freedomfighter]

I started seeing a PTSD sufferer about 3 months ago. He was very up front with his PTSD. He is on m...

Sounds complicated, the only thing I know is the fact that a strong foundation is needed when someone wants to really get together with a person that has PTSD. A solid footing is the only thing that can ensure success later on.

Another thing is that I would never ever allow anyone to know about an involvement that happens in my private life, I would never give info to relatives or so called people that imagine they are my friends.

Such things are only between the persons that are in a relationship.

I know that extreme haste can destroy anything and that really applies to personal relationships.

I myself was rather inexperienced in such matters, but now I totally understand that when a solid footing is put into place no wolf can blow down my house.