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Great plan, chin up and keep doing you :hug:

@Grasshoppa Wooooo I know you're sad but this is honestly a positive and the whole 'I will call you later' is something my SO says ALL the time, but low and behold his memory is diabolical so I don't take that to heart. Does your SO have memory problems? I think it's a common problem with...

I know the first time my SO isolated I was so confused about what I should be doing. Sometimes when he isolates I test the waters and a few days in I send him one single kiss, if he doesn't reply I know he's not ready yet, if he responds with a kiss then I know he's doing better but I still...

@Grasshoppa Each sufferer is different in Isolation, I know some supporters on here have said that their sufferer have been glad of the messages when in Isolation even if they feel they can't reply. It's a case by case basis, you know your sufferer better than us. For me, I try a few days to...

Best wishes Florian, good luck on your journey and thank you for the support on here!!!

@Adm13 I completely get why you would be upset I would be to. I think it's one thing maybe not turning up because maybe the atmosphere or the crowds etc. would put him on edge but it wouldn't hurt to send a message before and after to wish you good luck and see how you got on!! I think it's...

Hey @Savasana, It's ok not to have the energy right now, I sometimes give myself some time to be in a rut. Like I'll take this week to be miserable as sin and stuff my face then next week the real work starts!! You can do this, hugs :hug:

I wouldn't even call mine a relationship, we never got off the ground really! We have never been official, so I feel like I've been in a friendship holding pattern for the past 6/7 months. The not being official doesn't necessarily bother me, in fact it definitely doesn't. He is committing to me...

Hugs to you :hug: I totally empathize with you, it's the worst that someone doesn't want to be with you for reasons that have absolutely nothing to do with you! However, when you love someone you should love them enough to let them do what they need to do. It's a shitter I know, I haven't been...

@Heidi Knott Hey there :) Like everyone above has said, it is common for sufferers of PTSD to isolate. If your sufferer is only isolating for a few days at a time then that is a good sign, takes a bit of patience but once you have understanding and knowledge it's a lot easier on both sides of...

No problem, I have had some issues of late that I haven't asked for support for from my sufferer but he could definitely sense my stress and unhappiness which impacted our friendship somewhat! I took a few days out and then when I came out of my hole he went into one! I'm glad your sufferer...

@Linzee In answer to your question ... you don't know and unless he communicates that to you then you won't know! I have the same situations sometimes with my SO, he isolated but doesn't tell me. This I am completely fine with, like you I can give him space and I know I'm doing the best thing...

I know I can imagine, I go off my rocker quite frequently but I am a silent sufferer so to speak. I don't verbalize my thoughts, I rather rant on here and give myself some time to calm down before I react. I'm the opposite in the sense that my sufferer doesn't verbally tell me he wants to be...

@Hojay I completely understand the big pool of confusion you're in right now because I've been in that every day since I met my SO. We've never been official so I am in that constant state of 'what does this mean, what do I need to do' when he isolates I am actually ok with it because I do know...

Hey @Hojay, Firstly ... hugs to you :hug: This is not me attacking you so please do not see it like that, however I don't think you're utilizing this break very well. I know it's easier said than done but during this break you should be working on yourself and doing all the things you love...

Anytime you want advice feel free to PM me as my name suggests I'm new to PTSD but I'd like to think I've moved up a few grades since then :) Trust me supporters on here have been there for me at some serious low points so feel free to message me as and when you need advice! Sounds like you...

Hi there and welcome to the supporters section :) I understand your frustration, if you've done a lot of research in the past few days you will understand the push and pull dynamic of a relationship with a sufferer of PTSD. It often comes hand in hand especially in the first stages/year of...

As far as I know he hasn't been married :tdown:

I often think he's seeing someone else but nothing he has done has really given clear indication he is ... that's just my own insecurities playing tricks on me. I am used to the push and pull, I just never know how to respond to those comments, I'm useless. @Savasana Ahhh I'm sorry to heat...

I find it hard because we're not together and don't see each other much at the moment so saying something like 'if I want someone else I'll find someone else' sparks him to feel that he's in a relationship and he's the only one I want. I don't know, I'm very confused at the moment as to what we...

Thank you @BlueOrange ... weird you mentioned the lonely comment because this weekend it stemmed from the fact I was a bit lonely. All my friends were busy and I was a bit in the dumps - I think he could sense this which prompted the whole 'you need to find yourself a boyfriend'. I told him I...

I haven't posted on here in a while but I was just wondering what people say to their SO's when they say 'you should find yourself a boyfriend' or 'go out and get yourself a boyfriend, you can't knock about with me forever' or 'you should go find yourself a lovely boy' .... He's said this so...

He is right, therapy makes things worse before it gets better. I know this from experience with my sufferer! It's at those times where I fully have to back off, I made the mistake the first time when he came back from a rehabilitation center for combat vets and I was super clingy because I...

You can't live your life around them. I did that before Christmas and ended up sacking off plans with friends to help him out when he needed me, now I know that in my heart I wouldn't be able to go out with my friends while he needed me I am enabling him, I am acting as the rescuer and it's not...

Hey There, I don't know if this is something you want to do but exercise really helps me. I haven't really started exercising until I started dating my friend with PTSD, now when times are hard and when he isolates I throw myself into exercise, swimming, running, gym classes. It helps because...