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@tiredtexan Yeah I do sometimes just talk to myself and breathe and just switch off, usually helps to keep myself busy! The thing is I haven't ever been in a serious relationship so in terms of being independent .... I am the height of independence my friends would say. I have never needed or...

@tlc you have no idea how much this relates to me. If I ask him if he's dated another girl or if he's been on a dating website that's when I get pushed away .... it's becoming a pattern. As soon as I do that he end it's with me, is it the same with you?

@tiredtexan this is fantastic that he's initiated it :) Take some comfort in the fact he's given it some thought. Baby steps but brilliant steps.

@tiredtexan Can you spell it out for me? Haha I need someone to tell me so it kicks me up the backside as I'm not listening to myself rationally at the moment!!

@WhyAnon Mine has never promised me anything, from day one he said he doesn't get close to people, that he can never be my boyfriend yet he has allowed himself to get close to me. So close I am his go to for support when he drinks and the after affects take hold and he has panic attacks and...

I feel as though what you wrote above was my words .... I did try to move on for one day and then he ended up leaning on me the day after he went out drinking and now I'm back to being confused and I don't know what to do from now on. How long have you been dating your sufferer? I know it's a...

Sorry yes I was wondering what the alternative for hard was, I meant it as in it doesn't have to be as drastic as ending the relationship. Not soft as in you can go against your boundaries at any point, otherwise they would be pointless.

It's all dependent on the person @PartTimeWarriorLover however the behaviour you're expressing is not to be tolerated even if it has been onset by PTSD! I've mentioned it before but when these situations arise you have to set boundaries, in this case you could say 'if you continue to converse...

If you don't want to give him that pass then don't, get out and leave!! It seems to me like you actually don't want to and that's what I'm struggling with, I'm finding it hard to give you advice when you're posting that you're open for business and over and done and then saying you're not...

@PartTimeWarriorLover You are entitled to post whatever you like on here, just like other supporters and sufferers ... sometimes we just need to take a deep breath!

It's NOT OK at all .... and if you are not ok with it then just end it!!! PTSD is not an excuse to be an a**ehole ... the problem a lot of us have on here is that we come here to find comfort and sound advice from people, it's hard to read your post as you are not seeking advice or support. It...

I second @Fadeaway .... sometimes what you write on these forums can really affect sufferers and their vision of self-worth and the notions of being able to be loved. Be careful how you word some things, sometimes it may help to type your thoughts out or write them down in order to vent and...

@alli86 He must be struggling as he has gone from a higher level of care to a lower level and no medication. This really is something he needs to re-focus back on and only he can do it! In terms of what he's saying, this is a tough one for me because my combat vet just last week told me he...

@PartTimeWarriorLover You might want to look more on the Supporters Relationship forums, these posts are for sufferers to rant and write down their thoughts, whether you think these thoughts to be correct or not you have to let sufferers have their say and not be judgmental. Be careful of...

Hey There, I may not be the best person to give you any advice seen as though I am neither married nor currently in a relationship with a combat vet (He split with me last week) however, your husband really needs help. Is he in therapy or on medication? First and foremost he needs to get...

Woah guys were here to give advice and be a source of support, not to throw stones at each other!! People are going to give advice and sometimes it's not what you want to hear or they might not phrase things right, please don't take anything to heart just try to read the posts and take a...

This is the hardest thing anyone can ask you to do but you have to try ....please try not to go over and over analyse everything he's ever said or done, doing this drives you insane. When these thoughts come about try to shut them out! Have you done research on PTSD? I read a fair few books...

This thread has really made me think .... it's been four months, the first month was a dream and now we're in the fourth we are no longer together!! I think the inherent nature is that for a glimour of time our sufferers feel that they might be able to do it - they've found someone amazing and...

I completely agree, he stayed the night for fear of being on his own! He's left now and I need to just get back to being me, I am still looking at this situation as if we are over as we agreed on Thursday. I don't think it would be healthy right now to live in any kind of hope that this might...

@Mag Welcome to the world of PTSD!! It's great that he communicated and I know the feeling of being ridiculously excited from feeling so low. I was hesitant to reply to your recent messages for fear of offending you. What's you've been experiencing - the highs and lows is only going to...

The problem is he keeps kissing me and I've just seen some messages from an Amy on his phone, sounds like he definitely met this girl last night!! I don't know what to do, this is all so confusing!!

Feeling confused today, he messaged and asked if I would look after him as he caved and went out on the sauce last night! I was supposed to have a Christmas night out with the girls but I know what he's like when he's hungover and I couldn't not be there for him. I came home, he's had a fair...

Thank you @tlc and @Sweetpea76 :) @tlc I hear you however as much as a part of me wants to cling onto hope I can't have that mentality right now as that wouldn't be healthy. I will continue to be his friend but I think we both need a few weeks apart with no contact for the time being. He...

After a wonderful yet bumpy four months it's over .... my heart hurts but it was a fairly amicable conversation. He said he never wants to be in a relationship and he shouldn't have allowed himself to get too close to me, I've tried to fight for it several times and this time I'm really not...

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