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Hi There, What you're experience at the moment is very typical behavior of someone with PTSD that has newly opened up to the idea of a relationship. I've experienced some of the behaviors you listed with my vet for the past 4 months. The fact of the matter is he probably does like you but he is...

@maddi You are very very welcome!! It is 100% NOT about you, please do not think this. What I try to do is put myself in their shoes for 5 minutes, imagine all these triggers and struggles which generate, fear, anger and feeling lost with everything in life and then add a stress of a...

Hi @tiredtexan I know you're probably right, If I'm being honest I know he's downloaded it again I just know. But I also think he has been paranoid about me and my whereabouts and he's made jokey comments about me being on a date etc. So I think he's probably done it as a response to his...

Hi @tiredtexan Just read your post and I admire you, you're a very strong person and it sounds like you really have given this a lot of thought. I am going through a bit of a rough one/confusing patch with my combat vet at the moment... As you know I have been dating my vet for 4 months, the...

Hi @maddi My heart goes out to your and your sufferer at this time, it really is a heartbreaking situation. The advice you're probably going to receive isn't the fairytale you are probably wishing for but you should really listen because people on here have a wealth of knowledge and advice...

@Jensen Yes always think positively, any little sign of progress is a good sign. An agreement to 1 on 1 therapy is great, let's cross all fingers that in the new year this happens :)

Thanks @Sweetpea76 youre right, no one gets it, some friends choose to be supportive and some don't. @Justmehere yes you're right, I felt sad after we had the discussion but the more I think about it the more I know she's not selfless enough to be with someone with PTSD, she's just a bit too...

One of my closest friends today gave me grief about my relationship with my combat vet. Things are going well but she gave me grief that I hadn't seen him in 1 and 1/2 weeks ... apparently that's not normal and I need to end it! Christ what do people do in long distance relationships? Should...

I think we are all very guilty of being insecure and that's not because of PTSD that's just who we all are and what we're programmed to be anxious about. I am the worst person for constantly checking social media and wondering and jumping to conclusions when it comes to my vet and women. The...

@Jensen I have those moments too do not worry, you're further on than me but I still know exactly where you're coming from! I got so overwhelmed at one point when my sufferer isolated from me for a few days I was becoming ill myself, this is when I really took some time out and thought about...

Hi @screen-name Thank you so much for your insight, intimacy has never been an issue that I've had to communicate with my vet so I can't currently comment on how or why it might be a hurdle in a relationship so thank you for giving some insight for @MelBB87 . How long have you been with your...

The fact he's said all these things is a good sign, it's more than I've had! I can't talk about futures right now with my vet, he got back from therapy and just needs some time to adjust and work on himself so the future is not to be discussed because it might push him away if he gets scared...

@tiredtexan Are you ok? Sorry I've only just caught up with this thread! I know some of these posts have been hard to hear so my thoughts go out to you. Chin up sending a virtual hug :hug:

@Jensen It's always nice to know there are success stories out there, I am 4 months in and I have a positive outlook and I'm hoping my friendship with my vet will appear on this thread in the future :) Think positively, chin up its a long old bumpy ride but bathe in the good times and ride...

Hi There, I have been dating my vet for four months now so I understand your confusion. There have been several times in the past 4 months that communication has taken a dip, he has pushed me away and isolated himself - only for two days but I know a lot of people on here who haven't had...

@PartTimeWarriorLover How are you getting on? Have you made any progress or had any thoughts on reading material? Sorry I've been quiet in replying had a busy 24hours at work. I hope you're ok!

@Dominik24 If there is one thing I have learned when my vet withdraws from me or isolates is that when I take care of myself and exercise, see friends, go shopping etc. then I am happier ... which my when my SO comes around from his downtime, he can see this which makes him happier. You may...

Gosh I know, well to some extent! I have pretty bad insecurities as I'm guessing most people do and because I haven't known my vet for very long I was initially very paranoid and needy about what he was up to and if he was seeing someone else. However he deleted his dating apps and told me and...

There are so many supporters on here going through the same thing, I am probably not the best person to give advice seen as though my sufferer really is doing well despite taking a few steps back in life (touching wood it continues). You are already caring a great deal if you put yourself on...

I know it was the same for me, the first month aside from a wobble here and there was lovely, and now we're in the fourth month we have taken a million steps back. From reading posts on here it seems that when someone first starts dating someone with PTSD they get wrapped up in the romance and...

@PartTimeWarriorLover I really do think that you shouldn't be in this relationship from all that you have said above. It is really hard for most people to wrap their head around certain behaviors or begin to handle behaviors which to some people deem as cold and calculating. Being in a...

That's good to hear, it wouldn't be nice if he was being verbally absuive!! It takes a pretty relaxed and strong person to get into a relationship with someone who suffers from PTSD, I am not allowed to label our relationship, I'm not allowed to call or ask him to be my boyfriend and I can't ask...

No I know what you mean, my sufferer kept Knives hidden around his flat ... or not so hidden sometimes and it did not frighten me at all. However the choking thing is a little concerning, just make sure that this won't happen in a very serious context in the future. You have to know that when...

One thing I have definitely realized is that when my vet is not doing well I cannot ask for support or expect it, he does not have the capacity to cope with himself and me and my issues. Like I said if this is an essential want and need from you from a relationship, being with someone with PTSD...

I can't say that I know if OCD is related or not, I don't think so I think that might just be an added diagnosis on top of PTSD. It sounds like he's probably struggling because of his health issues and being unable to drive. This is one of those situations that is not going to get better over...