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My whatever he may be has combat PTSD. He broke up in March and said he needed space yet still is in daily contact with me. How is that space. I love him dearly so I love when he does text or call, but in so many ways it makes me so confused. If I even try to go one day ignoring him he will...

Yep. He's actively looking now and we are in Austin so he won't have a problem at all. It just makes me mad at his boss too bc he obviously doesn't know about the PTSD but this is making his stress cup back up to starting to spill over. And I believe it was starting to calm down finally. I am...

He just texts daily like things are normal. He's already called me twice today and texted in the middle of the night which we always would do when one of us was awake to see if the other was awake. This is the worst pain I've ever felt and I've lived through so much. I have PTSD too, but I...

@Keepingthefaith5 I can't offer much advice as I am going thru the same situation, but I can empathize with you. I've been thru this before and this time I believe it is time to walk away for my own sanity. I've lost myself this time around and I have to. Sometimes you hit a wall, or rock bottom...

So now my whatever you want to call him with combat PTSD is on a dating site, OKCupid. He did this the last time to after telling me he didn't want to be in a relationship and most recently saying he couldn't handle a relationship or dating right now. Last time when I found out, he said it was...

That is where I am now. I have to take a break for me because it has set off my PTSD to the worst point it's ever been and my anxiety is almost out of control. So now, I have no choice but to walk away or take a break, whatever it may be. Should he come back, I will tell him that he goes back to...

I've always told him I am here for him. Even if he shuts me off. He knows I'm there when he comes around. I love him that much to wait bc I care enough and understand it's a disease. And I would love to throat punch all my friends that don't get it and tell me to leave him. There are days I...

He is getting therapy and I would like to offer to go with him, not to be all in his therapy, but to offer to hold his hand and maybe the therapist can help me where he can't because he isn't so sure himself.

@owl1982 im in the same situation here and when he's not symptomatic he always comes to me. Even with his flashbacks or panic attack so or nightmares. At this point we text and he calls daily. I don't contact first bc I know it needs to be on his terms thru this. That being said, is there...

@JEKBreatheandBelieve i haven't. I don't want to push him bc he has already has said it causes more pressure and stress and anxiety so I just follow him. Calls and texts are up to him. But he did text earlier and ask if we could see eachother Sunday. I'm fine with that. Our therapist, who we...

My guy is back to pulling away after a great week. I'm coming unglued because I feel like I'm losing him again. I cried myself to sleep last night and since I woken today I've cried until I took a Xanax. Is it normal for them to be ok a few days and then pull away ago? It's ripping my heart...

@Tj0326 this is where you will see the envelope. Click on it.

@Tj0326 just as they have posted. Hope you find it

@Tj0326 i sent you a private message for more (personal) clarity. Would love if you could help me.

@Tj0326 Thank you. Hopefully he will have a few more good days. He's supposed to come over again to,or row and I may ask him depending on his demeanor. Again, I'm learning when to ask serious questions and when to back off. We went to dinner tonight and he asked and after sent a text saying it...

I need to remember that. I'm usually calm and let him get it out, but if he assumes my feelings and they are wrong I get upset. I've read so much about this being wrong. He's afraid to go back to our therapist so at a good peaceful moment bc he knows I'm always there is asking him if he would be...

Thank you all for responding. I guess the rules of how to get your bf back simply don't work in this case and I will not play games with his head!

Thank you so Much @Tj0326. That means a lot. We've been thru a lot and as he says, we always make it thru and end up together

Thank you all bc this is exactly what I needed. I don't want to "mess" with his head at al as he has enough junk going thru there. I just need him to know I'm here as support, even if we end up as friends going forward.

@Sweetpea76 Thank you also. A lot of times when he does I don't jump to the phone as I always have. Actually I have him on do not disturb so I don't hear when he texts. That way he knows I'm not at his beck & call. I waited 6 hours to read and reply and he must have been looking at his phone all...

@Tj0326 Thank you so much. We have always had a very loving relationship. The isolation starts in early March. Last year it lasted about 2 months. I just let him contact me as he wants bc then I'm not pressuring him but he knows I'm there. We actually went to dinner tonight and it was great...

@itsKismet Do you have any advice to give me since what I've read doesn't apply in the cases. I don't text or call him unless he intiates bc I want it to be on his terms so I don't catch him at s bad moment. But it is hard on me even though I am taking my time to work on me too.

@FridayJones thank you for your honesty. It wasn't so much to play mind games but bc I need to heal from this process as well and staying in contact with him is keeping me from me. But on the other hand he always contacts me. Even if I tell him to stop, like I'm putting out boundaries for me and...

@Sweetpea76 To make it make more sense, should I tell him I think it's time for me to have space since he originally said he needed it but has never stopped communication, but it's always on his terms, or just I just stop with no communication? I don't want to knock him down lower. Even though...

This is why I feel a week or so of just ignoring his texts and calls, however, I feel like as much as he's been hot & cold, up & down, I don't feel like he deserves a reason and I should just cut him off and let him off. @Sweetpea76, what are your thoughts on this. I know he's made excuses and...