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Oh I’m so sorry! I shook a little the first few times with this t but now I just take really deep breaths every so often. It’s embarrasing when he notices and takes the same deep breath. I don’t know why he does that. The shaking would be difficult!! Haha! Did you forget about the email for a...

What has happened that you guys have been like “omg no no no!”? For me, I wore a new sweatshirt because all my others had dog hair on them and the tag was still on which he pointed out. That sucked lol. Also I was really worried that I had bothered him with an email when I needed help...

Haha that’s awesome! There’s gotta be something to that!

I’m really good with eye contact when I’m making a joke or during small talk. I’m like a normal person. And the freaken minute it turns vulnerable I look away. So I intersperse the sessions with random stuff just so I’m not staring out the window or at the wall. I did ask him if he’d hang some...

Whoa! This is amazing! You didn’t even need to know any more about the t or the relationship at all to know EXACTLY what’s going on here! That’s incredible. And I’m positive your assumptions, as someone just reading this post and not knowing either party, are dead on. What’s my t thinking...

Thank you for sharing! That sounds like a powerful relationship you guys have! I told him about HOW I told my last t but not her reaction. But she was a really good t. Like she did everything by the book, you know? So I don’t doubt her technique. Although maybe I should? Maybe her reassuring...

Haha I don’t think he does a treatment plan cause we don’t set goals lol! I was really freaked out when he said that and questioned if he would be right for me. He said he’s willing to but that goals always change and we would know when our time together was up. I know MANY would run away from...

I guess my issue is that I already WAS vulnerable to the last t and that didn’t help. She wouldn’t even say anything after I said all the really hard bits. Just sat there. And it was good to just get out that stuff and have her not like run away or anything but I wouldn’t consider it healing. It...

How though? Like if I told my t some deep, dark shame stuff the only thing he could do is “accept me” and he’s PAID to do that so it isn’t really real. There’s nothing he could say about it. He can’t change the past for me. So I find that stuff really tricky.

Hahahaha!! Ok, that really helps! No, I definitely don’t want to dislike him. I just have a lifelong habit of fixating on mentor-like people. All parental transference people. I guess I just know what’s coming because of the last t. It doesn’t die down... I can fight it, hate it, wish it...

My last t didn’t share much. Some very basic stuff about her and her plans for the weekend but no vulnerable stuff and no insecurities. My new t shares his insecurities with me. I share some of mine, too. I think it may be the TYPE of therapy, though? (Humanistic/existential). He says he is...

Yeah. I don’t think he would tell a client his deepest vulnerabilities for sure but yeah, this would be a good topic. I really want to arm him, too. Been thinking of what I’d be comfortable sharing as my most vulnerable thing right now. Like something I could say and still be ok going back the...

I’m really good with the word “intimacy”. I don’t necessarily equate it to sex. Emotional intimacy is terrifying but very intriguing. I hope to open up more and explore my feelings with someone. I’ve never fully allowed that before.

I’ve been thinking lately about how my t is very open with me and arms me with his vulnerability. I’m guessing he is doing this occasionally to show how someone trusts since I have issues with that and letting anyone in. And while I feel positively about him telling me things that my last t...

Why do you wear so many masks? If I see someone with one on I move away because I figure they have some contagious disease so it’s best to stay far, far away. Have you told your t that you’d like to sit somewhere else? If the couch smells so bad, see if he will switch seats with you or if he...

Exact same, OP! Except mine is a guy t. But exact same! Hey, at least we aren’t alone in it!

Yeah! I think it’s that, if he knows I like him then he will know I’m hurt if he says or does something careless, you know? Like I can act like I’m not phased at all but he will know I am. I mean, I guess a careless act hurts anyone who is on the receiving end so I guess maybe no one is fooled...

I talked to my t about my attachment a little bit yesterday. Like my fear of it and that I see myself really wanting to cling but being ashamed to that. I have this fear of therapy ending and never want it to (which he knows) and I’m also ashamed of that. Like I shouldn’t want that. Anyway, he...

I read mine from my last t. She said they would be rather boring and really just notes for her to remind herself of things. They’re just notes they’d need to have for court, you know? So saying something personal just wouldn’t be appropriate. I remember reading that I “seemed happier today” and...

One thing I’ve learned that really helps me is that you don’t wait to get strong before you take action. You take action and then you get strong. You gotta do this the hard way but you’ll be rewarded once you go through it!

What are his thoughts about it? Does he feel it’s helping him or does he see a point to it?

You’ll get there when you’re ready. I hope you can be proud of yourself for questioning all this. That’s really good. And you’re very open to other people’s views and opinions. I think you’re in the process of allowing in alternative beliefs about the situation. Just keep doing you. You’re doing...

You’re not messed up. This is just you’re work. We all have work to do, right? And what’s extremely hard for person A is not as difficult for person B but we all have our mountains to climb. This is your work. And it’s your work to post here, to read more, to process your thoughts and feelings...

Well, my examples are a bit different so they may or may not help you. There was my last t and I had super strong maternal transference. I planned on staying there for forever. I tried to leave again and again because I hated how I felt but also felt like I wouldn’t make it without her. I...

Also I feel like any time we feel something intensely it’s usually not a present-day experience. That HUGE fear you have seems to be rooted in the past and is keeping you in this damaging relationship. I’m guessing you had events in the past where you were afraid to leave someone you depended on...