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I mean you’re IN IT. You’re in the haze of the relationship and can’t see how damaging it is. You can read our words but you’re so caught up in the feelings... Once you leave her and give yourself the time to feel the fear and grieve a bit you will get this awesome clarity on the whole...

I told you the trick. You have to leave the relationship before you will realize how f*cked up it is. You can do this. Don’t discount your strength.

There are so many different styles. If you’re in the game of minimizing this could be incredibly good for you. She’s showing you what’s appropriate to feel given your history. That’s awesome. And not sure why you think it’s your responsibility to rebalance emotions?! Let her hold then for you...

Oh man. That’s such an icky situation to be in! Sounds like she’s a bit manipulative with telling you not to disclose your previous relationship with her and also guilting you in telling you she could lose her license. Is she in therapy herself? Cause it sounds like she really should be to...

You said you have some really close friends so I’m curious what THEY think of you being friends with your t? And have you ever all hung out together? And if not, why not? I think getting their take on the dynamic would be invaluable since they would have your best interests in mind.

Break the spell! It IS a spell. That illusion of NEEDING that person. Of being unable to make it on your own without her. And here’s the kicker, you won’t be able to see that you don’t need her UNTIL you end it! It’s true. Shitty but true. And it will take time. And then you’ll wake up and...

Yeah, this doesn’t seem like a weird thing to just ask her about directly next time. “Hi t! Hey, can you please take my money cause this is really giving me a lot of anxiety. Thanks!” Honestly that would give me some anxiety, too. I’m awkward with money. I just throw it on his desk when I walk...

I envied my last t. She would never share her struggles, just appeared to have an amazing life... I wanted so much to be like her. My current t self-discloses. I know he’s sick, I know he has problems with his son and I know he has a lot of insecurity. I do not envy him lol. But I do feel more...

How do you know he wouldn’t take it himself? Therapists are generally pretty damn good at self-care. You don’t think of he wasn’t doing his best work or having issues he wouldn’t lower his case load? I’m curious about why you think he wouldn’t take care of himself?

This is sorta related to the op. Ever notice when you ask your t how they are they talk for awhile? They never just say “fine” or “good”. They tell you what’s up for them. I’m guessing they are trying to model how it’s done???? I find it weird though because I only ask to be polite lol...

Pretty sure it was a suggestion and not a “you should do this...”. Therapists CAN give options. Especially because so many people struggle to realize there are alternatives.

Mine isn’t Buddhist (like no shaved head or robe) but he practices Buddhism. As do I. I freaken love it.

I usually say “never better” or “fantastic”. And it’s not that I’m NOT ok, I just don’t really feel anything most of the time. And that’s just fine. But “fine” is boring so I intensify it.

@Suzetig So thank you for your reply. I think I have been doing work there in some small degree but so much of what you wrote resonates. What I’ve decided to do is write out all my thoughts about why I’m so afraid to be without therapy and bring it to next session. I’ve mentioned it to him but...

I’m about to go to sleep but wanted to acknowledge this. So much of it is true and I really appreciate your honesty and thought in posting it. Gonna give it a lot of thought and reply later. <3

I was thinking today how I don’t say much about my week. Ever. Like to anyone. Work is always fine. So I’m gonna make an effort to open up about my week. Have the focus be on me for just small things. I think pressure has been such a killer. Thanks for sharing your experience; it’s to nice to...

It’s been months and I feel I still haven’t made up my mind about my t. I like him a lot but it’s the trust thing that can’t be rushed. Last session was our double session and was filled with anxiety and freak-out. Tonight it was so chill and small-talky and it feels like I’m getting to know...

I’ve been there! If she didn’t leave I would STILL be there. So I really get it. And I sabotage in my own ways as well. I’m sorry to hear about the miscarriages, that must’ve been so hard! I really understand the fear that comes from depending on your t to be there. I’m glad you plan to talk...

So you went from having a problem to resolving it to finding another problem? That’s impressive lol. Can you stop and enjoy the fact that you resolved things and be proud of yourself? I get being trapped in that worried mind but there’s nothing you can do to make her stay if she wants to leave...

I’m sure she said that trying to be helpful but that would piss me off, too. But there’s a reason they recommend talking about this stuff in session, right? So offenses can be mended right away. You definitely could skip the session and run off that energy or you could tell her it bothered you a...

I’ve had reiki sessions and done some yoga specifically for yoga as well as going to a body worker who can pull past emotions out of you really quickly. My stuff is really locked down cause none of that has worked for me but I do plan on doing somatic experiencing at some point. I think there’s...

Mindfulness simply means to be HERE. NOW. It is so not a fad. It’s rise in popularity is promising and good for all who do it. It’s not about “curing” anything, though. It is not a healing modality. It’s just a way of being with your experience; not trapped in the past and not longing for the...

Omg how cool!!! I’m SOOOO glad you told her all that!!!!

Aww thank you. So far I’m getting quite a bit out of working with him. And thanks for posting something that challenged. I find this forum so perfect for practicing my reactions. Cause I immediately blocked you cause that’s what I’ve always done when anyone has disagreed with me (like in...

Oooh! That would be cool to try! Oh but my dog sleeps under the covers, he would freak out lol!!