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@Ms Spock you can indeed work on it. Replacing distorted and wrong messages with the truth...that you are good enough, and worthy of a great life that you enjoy. This is what I wish for you most.

Anxious, exhausted...so , so tired. Upset and sad, dreading going into work again feeling this way and dreading working tomorrow. Feeling like I just want to go on the disability pension and paint for months and months to soothe my soul. It's what I really need and I'm so sad that my life is now...

We seem to be in synch in this respect. I've been feeling really ugly the last couple of days as well, and I hear a voice telling me I am ugly now and then, which I sometimes have trouble fighting. I also find that being around other women who express hatred for their bodies is hard because it...

I have had the need to have someone stroke my hair for so long now. I think I even projected it onto someone on this forum at one point, when she was struggling, and it came across as creepy. To me, having my hair stroked would give me the feeling of total security. My mother used to give me...

Yeah, I think the actual Dark Ages would have been a whole lot worse personally, if you were a pleb, but I wasn't there in the 50's. I have a serbian friend who grew up in a war zone in the last 20 years. Imagine being African in the 50's. There are all kinds of things that can be thought of to...

I can really relate to this right now. I realised this morning that I felt the same, so it's interesting timing to be reading this now. It's a shame your mothers boyfriend wasn't able to connect on an emotional level with you...that would have been helpful I think. I also don't feel like I have...

Naps are also a great way to recharge, though some people don't like taking them (don't understand that one myself? :D ) but they can really restore your soul and energy if you feel depleted. It can be a challenge to overcome the guilt society imposes upon nappers, but hey, even corporations...

Yeah, I have trouble accepting this line as well. It's like my mother telling me that back then they were all told smoking was harmless. Was it really that hard to think that inhaling smoke into lungs was really a bad idea? There were books on anatomy. It seemed that there was just a general...

True dat. Yes, and I was good at staying away for ages. I had hardly any friends as a result because so many people in this town take drugs or drink excessively. I was trying to find a happy medium where I could indulge now and then and have some fun, but not get roped into the...

I hadn't quite realised that at the time, but you're totally right about that. I was still under the impression that she was a friend and actually cared. Yep and she really dug into me. I could see that was what was happening, so happily I did not buy into it, but I still was affected by the...

This is good advice. I do sometimes get sucked into all that. I never wanted to join in the first place, but I do have some good friends who I enjoy messing around with on there now, I just need to get better at the things you mentioned. Thanks. :)

The interaction consisted of me bringing the subject up in a round about way, like "hey, that situation with xyz was pretty full on". She then said "I think you are placing too much focus on xyz. By the way, I think you are taking the hospitality of this house for granted...I'm telling you this...

A part of me thinks this way as well. It was an important issue and she tried to avoid it by turning the focus around and placing it on my 'bad behaviour'...which my mother used to do a lot when I was younger and lived with them. It triggered that memory in me. She went on to tell me that I...

That's about the size and shape of it, except I didn't bum the weed, it was offered to me and I accepted the offer about 4 times over the time span of 4 weeks. I don't smoke weed regularly and would have been perfectly happy just hanging out with them and not smoking it. Yes, this. This is...

Thanks, I guess in this case calling her out on her stupidity, lack of care and irresponibility was more important than the friendship. Up until that point I had no idea of how callous and careless she could be. Of course I can be careless at times, when it comes to making decisions and...

I've met some like minded people, as I mentioned earlier. I don't write all people from that generation off, even if I generalize in the way I put it. Obviously not all people from the 50's were raging narcissists and that's something that has probably been around for a very long time throughout...

Well, that's possible. I don't really bear a grudge anymore. Back when I was a teenager I did and we were still learning about perspective, evolution and the way things are, and to accept that and get on with it. Young people do not have the emotional maturity to not react to being blamed for...

Gosh, that's a good way to put it. I hated her at first. She not only made me out to be a moocher but then turned around and told me I was someone SHE didn't need in her life, for "harassing" her, by asking questions about her statement! I felt her hostility and a week later her housemate...

It did feel crazymaking, and both of them do have issues with drinking...the woman in particular. She has admitted to being alcoholic. The other guy is just a grumpy older guy who parties too much and gets in bad moods sometimes, so it has been more peaceful since I disengaged. I'm pretty sure...

It has been brought to my attention recently, that I, at times, seem to have issues with respecting boundaries with people whom I feel are not listening to me, or wilfully manipulating me. An example of this is recently, I experienced having a 'friendship' end over a situation that occurred...

It may be a waste of time and energy or not. I think it is important to speak the truth about these things...especially when one lot of people are blaming another for the way things turned out...i.e, the baby boomers. You cannot expect a generation of young people to not react to being made to...

I don't think the baby boomers got a bad deal at all. The economy at the time made it so they could buy a HOUSE for the cheapest amount in the entire history of the world. I don't feel bad for them. They basically paved the way for society to be the way it is right now, and then blamed my...

I realise I have joined the conversation a bit late in the show, but I wanted to add my two cents worth, even if you've moved on because hey, I already did and THEN went and read the rest of the thread. :D By the way, I don't find your avatar "scary as f*ck" everyone knows the Hulk was out of...

It goes back a bit further than the 50's. The punishment and reward system has been the parenting style since the middle ages, as I was just watching on a fascinating you tube video about emotional connection and how to wake up to our emotions that have, for the most part, been invalidated for...

I've had fantasies about getting up to say something about him, and everyone expecting me to waffle on about how nice he was and just lay the truth on them, and not stop, even if I'm removed...which is part of my fantasy. In reality I do not even want to get up and say something, and the anxiety...