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Hi - thanks for the information and messages. @Anarchy the book looks really interesting, I'd be glad to hear more as you work through it, if you have time. I was on an upswing, or so I felt for a couple of weeks, but I couldn't hold on to it. I'm not sure exactly sure why (and never have...

I hope you feel better very soon. I know the feelings you describe so vividly and painfully. I'll be thinking of you over the coming days and ready to give you all the support and encouragement I can offer.

Only my partner knows. I live some distance from my now elderly parents and brothers, they have no idea and I don't want them to know, especially because my parents unknowingly contributed to my problems. My partner is always supportive. She has suffered enormously because of me and yet still...

This is so true. For six months we did everything they said, no matter how awful or damaging it was to us and our children, none of this was subject to scrutiny by solicitors or the courts. But in the end we had to say no more, so they called a public law order meeting (precursor to care...

I'm not a good person to ask really, I'm just recovering from a very depressive episode and severe anxiety attacks lasting about three weeks. I couldn't do anything to help myself. I did do a mindfulness course years back which was the closest thing I've found that helps apart from medication...

There are breathing exercises on the home page and within that a link to mindfulness meditation. Hope this helps.

Heart felt thanks to you @Ms Spock, and take care of yourself too..

Thanks everyone for the support and guidance. Thank you. I hadn't though of it as a positive response in this way... That is a very hard question to answer objectively. My experience when severe anxiety attacks come is a feeling of total desperation and terror. I find it so hard to cope...

I've just started seeing an NHS therapist again, as of yesterday. It's normally limited to six sessions but I've been given this second lot of six sessions (because they think there is a risk of self harm). There's normally a mandatory 3 month gap between any subsequent lots of six sessions...

Years of surgery throughout my childhood has given me a high tolerance to pain. But I cannot bear the sight of blood, injuries, needles or medical treatment to any degree, it makes me feel ill and faint.

I missed out on having any self confidence and belief that I could be good at anything, or had any potential. I believed I was academically stupid and would never get a good job, because I missed so much school and was told I couldn't take any exams. I missed out on having girl friends because...

I think I can relate to this, but have to draw on my own life experiences in order to do so. Like you I question my PTSD diagnoses. Depression, absolutely and anxiety in spades, but PTSD, I'm still unconvinced. I don't consider my childhood experiences to be anywhere near as harmful as most...

Thanks for the thoughts. It's helpful to know other people have gone back on medication. It's in my nature to want to tough things out (I guess that in itself has contributed to my problems) and twist something that might be helpful into a sign of weakness on my part. I am fearful of the side...

I would be glad of anyone's thoughts or advice. I stopped taking anti depressants about two years ago. I stopped taking them because I didn't think it was actually making any difference and I thought it was the right thing to do after being on medication for three years. After stopping the...

I've been following this discussion with interest. After a while in therapy I am starting to understand (but not yet really believe) that I suffered from developmental trauma. As a child my response was to unknowingly develop ways of coping that later in life I just assumed were primarily...

I was about 10 years old, and in hospital for yet another operation. The hospital was at the top of a steep hill. My mum would get the bus into town to visit me, the bus stop was near the bottom of the hill so she had to walk up the hill to get to the hospital. She suffered very badly from...

Sorry, my previous post was intended to read "....one person or group can ask". not "can't". Smart phone yes, smart operator no!

I went to my son's parents evening at his school last night. It's the first time I've been on my own in years. My fear was seeing or being seen by former friends, who think the very worst about me. I spent the two hours walking through crowds of other parents and stood in queues waiting to...

The supposition that one person or group can't ask or tell another not to forgive is a bizarre concept. It's an entirely personal matter Isn't it? Other people might not be able to forgive, or share the view of those that can, but it's every individuals right to choose, in my opinion...

Usually hours but in the last six months days have become more common. @Fadeaway yes I get chest pains during and after, but also only over the last six months or so. It is uncomfortable and I am worried about my longer term health.

Anti-Deps certainly helped me, once I found meds that didn't make me feel worse due to side effects. My partner says that I am noticeable worse since I stopped all meds two years ago. But they are not a long term solution on their own. I agree that mindfulness has huge potential to be...

Thanks for the thoughts. It helps to hear I'm not necessarily a total loss. Because it was 'medical treatment' I was receiving as a child, I think assumptions are made that every care and concern will be made to minimise distress. I think some people would be surprised by some of the...

I've been thinking about this thread a lot recently. As there is something of a 'shared experience' amongst those that replied I thought it would be ok to post again here rather than start a new thread, which is a scarier option . I've been trying to stop my sexual acting out on and off for...

Hope you are doing ok.

Which makes no sense, for instance, when the vast majority of reported victims of CSA are female but the majority of offenders are male. I understand the perception of a link between being abused and going on to offend, but it clearly isn't the whole picture, not by a long way. I share your...