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That's absolutely true. But it sure would be nice to be treated with a little respect, or at least like a person, after an intimate relationship comes to an end. Especially if there wasn't any infidelity, indecency, or any other misdeeds committed by the supporter. After my ex and I broke up I...

Yes, that all sounds very familiar. As you browse through this forum and read other's stories you will find a lot of similarities. For those that are well versed in PTSD, or perhaps even a sufferer themselves, what they might overlook is how shocking it is to have someone be madly in love with...

It is very sad and very confusing. There is a tough love/get over it school of thought that seems to be the go-to approach on here, not really sure where it comes from, but I think more often than not the advice is given with the best of intentions.

I think you make valid points, scout. It's also a very clinical way to look at it. What I will say is -- I'm not sure if you're a supporter or sufferer -- when your emotions are cranked to 11, it's hard or impossible to think of things clinically. When a relationship has just ended, you can't...

1confused, in response to your post - yes, now is the time to give space. If he does have PTSD, talking about the past with you could have triggered something, could have filled his stress cup (search this forum for "stress cup" if you haven't read about the concept already). When in the throws...

Eve, I'm really not happy with your word choice here. "Stalked." That's wholly inappropriate. 1confusedgirl is clearly hurting, she was in a relationship for 2 years, living with this person, she has furniture and personal belongings in the house, and now her whole life has been turned upside...

Thank you, Sighs. And you're right - it is hard to get one's head around.

Thanks for your reply, Simon. In regards to your question... Certainly. And I'm sure I have pulled the trigger a few or more times. But with age and (hopefully) maturity and wisdom has come an increase in empathy. I'm not saying I won't make decisions that are in my best interest just to...

@anthony I'm resurrecting this old thread so I can ask you a follow up on your post. First, thank you for sharing the extreme lengths that you have gone to in the past to push people away. I'm wondering why, at the time, you felt like you had to sleep with someone else within days just to ensure...

Cath, I'm so sorry you are going through this. It's clear by the way you are making an effort to understand this man that you have a big heart. If he is already acting this way so early into the relationship, I do personally think it stands to reason that it won't get better as time goes along...

I think this can be very confusing for supporters/others trying to understand PTSD. I'm not saying this is the case here, but as non-sufferers we read so much about how when a sufferer is symptomatic that all of their emotional resources are taken up trying to save their own life that other...

With all due respect man, I came here to talk about the illness, not have my relationship analyzed. If you don't think it's PTSD or feel it's impossible to know or feel like I should just f*ck off and only come back once I know I am dealing with someone with PTSD, then just say that. I know...

It's normal to emotionally withdraw overnight and break things off without warning or discussion? It's normal to tell someone you love them one day and the very next say you don't feel anything anymore? It's normal to have a close bond with someone (regardless of circumstances) and then to talk...

And yes, this is entirely possibly and I've spent a lot of time thinking about it. I'm sure that's a normal thing that happens with a lot of people. What's not normal is all the behaviors I listed above that accompanied it. If I was just some rebound and a mistake, she would bail, sure, but she...

Thanks, joey. I can only imagine how ignorant I come off, posting on a PTSD forum in regards to someone who doesn't have a PTSD diagnosis. It must almost seem like when someone is having a bad day and they say "I'm so depressed!" while in the company of someone who has actual clinical...

I posted earlier about my ex-girlfriend who I believe suffered some kind of terrible trauma in her past (she has made reference to this but refuses to talk about it). Our close mutual friend fears it may have been a sexual assault. As I discussed in the other thread, something has happened...

Thanks for the reply, QB. As this is my first time ever experiencing something like this, I don't really have a gut instinct or know what is best. Before this I think I understood, conceptually, that the brain could shut parts of itself down in order to protect itself, but I've never witnessed...

Hi, everyone. First time poster. I'm glad forums like these exist -- makes me feel like I'm not crazy. Out of respect for your time, I'll try to condense this saga into something more succinct (edit: just reading my now-written post, I'm not sure if I know what succinct is). I'd appreciate...