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Update for today: We spent the entire weekend apart. He was gone Thursday night and Friday night. He then stayed at the house Saturday and Sunday while I stayed at my parents with our daughter. The time apart was HELL but once I accepted that the space was what he NEEDED and not necessarily...

Thank you so much for your supportive words. Like I’ve told the others, I’m sorry you’re experiencing these things. I am glad to hear it’s not all bad and that there is hope. I think my husband would like to divorce me for the same reason, he thinks I’m better off without him. But I’m not...

Hey. I just want to say what the others have said and that is you are definitely not alone. I’m right there with you. My husband has had PTSD for years after serving 10 years in the USMC infantry - but it just recently flared up for the first time in our relationship. It came out of no where and...

I’m so sorry to hear that your relationship ended the way it did. That’s heartbreaking. I can’t imagine not being able to just talk to my husband and having to communicate through other people. It’s crazy how things can change. I too feel like you all - I hate the fighting. It serves...

I feel like you are really speaking my language. I am also having a really hard time setting boundaries. I will make a “rule” or something, but then when it’s broken I just ignore it to avoid confrontation. I let him do things that hurt me in order to keep things from escalating. And I keep my...

I’m so sorry that ptsd has played such a large role in your life. I’m only a few months in and I feel like I’m drowning... so props to you for being so strong. In regards to therapy - he has gone to a few individual appointments, I have gone to a few individual appointments and we have gone to...

There is no physical abuse. I’ve never felt threatened by him in the least. He will leave if he gets so angry that he fears that he will lose control of himself. I have so many reasons to leave but I just feel like I have so many reasons to stay too. Either way, I’m going to try to be more...

I should have mentioned that he has combat related PTSD. He served 10 years in the marines. Infantry. 4 deployments all for 7+ months - 2 to Iraq, 2 to Afghanistan. He is medically retired from the Marines due to being blown up on 8 separate occasions. Every doctor says they’re surprised he’s...

I haven’t posted here since my husband told me of his ptsd about two months ago. At the time, we were fighting nonstop. Huge blow outs. And we will still in our first year of marriage... but when he told me of his ptsd I thought “oh! This is why we have been fighting! I get it now!” We started...

I have seen the stress cup thing. It does make sense. I have done so much research on ptsd, tbi, etc. I do find myself making excuses for him... and blaming the PTSD on a lot of stuff. But I do know that he is still in there and he is still able to make legitimate decisions. I just have a hard...

When he leaves, I try to find out where he is but he typically won't tell me. One time when he left, I called him at 3am and he was trying to sleep in a Walmart parking lot. I know that the calmness exists, so I try to bother the hell out of him. I send him texts just saying "I love you"...

I'm so sorry you're going through something similar. I clearly don't know a lot of the answers either, but if you ever need to talk, feel free to shoot me a message :) Wishing you and your husband the best. I hope he gets help for both of yalls sake.

I keep telling myself over and over that it's not me. And I always knew it wasn't me because he's always reassured me that it was just his head. But last night, he said straight up it was me. Deep down I know it's not true... but it's still hard to hear. I'm sorry that you've experienced...

Thank you for your response. This site has been my saving grace. I feel like every thread I read is someone writing my story. It's nice to know what I'm going through is something a lot of people have experienced. Something comforting about knowing I'm not alone in this.

Which makes it so much more difficult :/

Just joined this site because I'm completely lost. Back story, I'm married to an infantry Marine veteran who was medically retired in 2014. We met and fell in love QUICK (I'm over 30 so I know it was real). We got pregnant a few months into our relationship and honestly, everything was...