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A perspective that may help you, I hope, is to consider your daughter. In that, do you want her to live her life in fear, that she is not allowed to live a life of her own because you depend on her, your very life depends on her to be there for you instead? Do you want her to have to feel at...

Got it... thanks @Ayesha

I've said it before and mean it, I don't trust my judgement. I'm also contradictory...I can't stand when someone is complementary or too nice to me because they can't possibly mean it, on the flip,I get anxious when someone isn't complementary and nice to me, because it confirms I don't deserve...

I don't mean to be nosey, but what has happened to desiderata's account? Was it because of this thread and that some thoughts had to be edited out? More than anything, just wondering for future reference... I mean, when I hit a low like that, I will fold up and likely wont express it to anyone...

Haha..indeed. I do think having a dog to force me out of my apartment would be a great thing too...because I can sit in here for days never leaving. I think that just overall that would be a great addition to our family...kiddo is excited by the idea. I've been considering it more and more...

Don't feel bad @AqueousAndroid I am 37 with three serious relationships...my ex husband said he only married me because he felt sorry for me (I was pregnant when we met), the next ex laughed when I asked him about marriage (found out 5yrs later he was already married) and the last one after...

That is great to hear that you were able to tell your dad. He does sound loving and it seems like its a load off to be able to let him know, and now he can be fully supportive.

My goal is to wash the dishes...been saying that since last weekend but uhhh... But c'mon, it really is a pain not having a dishwasher! Anyone would hate to have to do them by hand, right?!

So sorry to hear about what you had to witness and have gone through! Others are right, from what I can tell anyway, minimizing and also the feeling that others deserve it more than one does personally is a pretty common feeling. There was a thread where we were discussing this recently..sorry...

You don't sound whiney at all... but maybe that's because I can see myself in that situation. I too have a way of sabotaging relationships. Even before things with PTSD got very rough, it still spilled out every so often and I just passed it off as me being infuriating (as my ex's would...

I do, sometimes kiddo feels bad because I'm a little startled, but usually I'm not, and just come out of it without an issue. On my own I will slide out of it too, and for the most part just confused because well...I've lost time and it takes me a moment to get my bearings. So having a pup...

Ohhh man I really appreciate that @Laura 2 ... after writing all that I felt like I was just blabbering on and not making much sense. Its true though, while there are so many similarities that we can relate to, but so many differences depending on how our experiences have shaped us and how we...

That really sums it up so well... All these years, I coped by tucking away every bad experience and negative emotion I had so that I could go on with my life and be someone people could enjoy being around. And now since that dam broke and it all become too overwhelming, my old coping skills...

Okay, I really have to start off by saying, I don't have any clue about your bf, what he's been through, how he's dealing with things, what he needs etc etc ..this is just my disclaimer that I am only speaking for myself and have no clue about your bf who could be on the totally opposite end of...

Goodness @SheilaKathy what a rude assumption to come to simply because two women become close friends! And in my world...who even *cares* if you were gay. How is that even fodder for gossip? Blah. I don't live in a small town, an extremely large city actually..but it's a small small world. My...

Yeah, thats where I would have to say you either trust him when he says he is into you and wants to be with you, trust that its not personal and you are not at the center of what he is going through... or accept that its going to be a lot to handle and decide for yourself if you will be able to...

Don't feel sick or twisted or any of those things.... Its not an unusual, or even unhealthy desire, I can promise you that. I know my desires come from a position of reliving / changing in my head events of the past, and that might not be so good... but in and of itself, its not a bad thing...

I wish you all the very best of luck, and also...just want to point out to you that you are extremely fortunate to have a strong support system, in that you were able to tell them and they have been able to help you. Unfortunately, there is still a stigma to mental illness, and even though...

A very broken system. Ive seen, and even know people who very well could work but are on disability. And its not a matter of me passing judgment, they are literally doing everything they did for a living, except now as a hobby, with jokes that they work more now than they did when they had a...

Don't take it personally @Lidia I promise you, if it was something he could help, he would probably love to just have you there and spend time together. For a bit of perspective, there are some days when kiddo wants to talk to me and tell me stuff or just hang about and I have to ask her to...

Oh Raj, you remind me of something funny... among the services there is a lot of ribbing, kind of like sibling rivalry I guess you can say. There is of course unified pride in being a service member, but then also the pride in the particular branch you joined, and we all have our jokes about...

It took me almost 15 years between the first time I tried going to therapy and last year when I tried again. And in all that time I completely swore off ever going to therapy again. So don't put pressure on yourself. I ended up back in therapy because it just reached a point where I completely...

That sounds so scary @NovemberStar I dont know what Id do with myself if I experienced flashbacks like that! That is sort of how I always considered them to be though, literally flashing back into a painful moment of time, like in the movie Jacob's Ladder. Mine are more like I dont see the...

Oh I can see that... I like and prefer big dogs. Tiny dogs make me anxious just looking at them lol either they are all wiry and all over the place, or just stand there shivering at you. Freaks me out hahah! oh boy. My place has a 30lb size limit, and I really wonder what sort of dog I can get...

LoL ChristianMingle... Whenever that commercial comes on I tell kiddo...maybe its time for me to get on there and find myself a good god fearing man, and we crack up. Take note, she is aware of my mother and why I feel the way I do, because she has witnessed my mothers outbursts first hand...