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Lovely to read about your wedding both of you! Thanks for posting Nic, it's great to imagine you guys by your description. Makes me gushy... and cheers me up, lovely to read.

For the first and also my father... I can't remember exactly when. I answered 12 months or more in relation to the second sexual abuse. Though the nightmares were around long before. It's hard to answer, I have multiple trauma. The flashbacks of it were about a year after it ended though.

I never used to cry but am now a little better at it. Well I used to cry a lot as a young kid. But that only ever made things worse or no difference whatsoever. It definitely wasn't a good thing at home to cry, so I stopped. Had to relearn it a bit. It's commented that I don't "cry" though... I...

Doing my degree was a flipping nightmare in this respect. Absolutely hell. Nothing else... just the concentration to read!

I'm British so no, but if I had a license, I would. Currently making do with other stuff like my phone, my cat, an my snooker cue!

I live by lists!! I can't cope without them, wouldn't know where I was, what I should be doing without them. If I don't have a list, at least for things to do that day and when packing etc. to jot down things as I go along and remember by ticking them off... I get awfully anxious.

I'm always foetal. The only thing that varies is which side, depends on whether I'm massively hyprvigilant or not.

I have horrific nightmares and have suffered them since childhood. Better now in that it's not 6/7 nights a week, comes in phases and the intensity varies now again too, thankfully. I had an awful two years where it was most nights. I also have flashbacks. I would probably say I have them in...

Last born. Although I lived with my brothers, I was raised separately as if I was a single child though. I didn't have much to do with my brothers growing up at all (or now).

I think I probably originally voted no but I now have a kitten nearly a year old and she is amazing to have around... makes my day just a bit better and also provides me my ears in locating sounds.

I don't at the moment but if Buddhism counts then this is something I'm seriously considering.

Yep. Sometimes I feel like I lose my ability to speak at all - but not so much in writing. But in writing, i'll find myself struggling to pull sentences together so it affects me there too. Or alternatively, I cant focus at all and my mind is all over the place... words jumbled, missed words. I...

Me too! Sometimes I get a bit of a surprise for some reason. I sort of know it's not right but kind of go "Oh... Is that my legs?". As if it's questionable. I think it's related to numbness. If you can't feel yourself, how do you know it's you?? Or am I loopy loo? LOL

Additional to unanimous vote... Might be an idea to check out if he is actually qualified with his professional body?

To The Happy Couple! Dear The Happy Couple! Congratulations! Oh wow, your pic is great. Nic, Absolutely Stunning! Anthony, looking dapper too! You make a lovely pair, it looks like an amazing day and I'm so pleased for you both! Take care and best wishes, Lisa!

I was 23 (24 now) and it's since childhood.

LOL How weird... do you know I never actually associated quilting with your name 2quilt! Duhhh! :think::rofl:

I'm with everyone else. I had a therapist behave in a similar manner, in terms of telling me it was all my fault, I wanted to be this way, even telling me that some of his clients would be better off killing themselves and are just taking up money in this country! And a whole lot more... I...

I completely agree. Whilst 'experts' have tools they can use to help, and they have knowledge and experience in what they've seen others come through... they will never be the expert on being you, or I, and living with what you, or I, live with. Thank you for this... I will use that myself...

Wow. I'm so sorry that you have had such a hard time... and I know you've had to realise this the hard way... I feel similar to you, from different experiences. But same resulting philosophy. And you know what? GOOD FOR YOU! Some people go their whole lives being damaged by society and never...

:smile: Thanks! Always feels good when somebody tells you that you've been helpful... exactly what this forum is for! ... Best of luck! Let us know how it goes. Lisa.

Thank you so much for your replies. It is so good to feel that I am not the only one who finds it hard living with housemates. I don't think I can stay here. With my degree being a mess and feeling totally unable to have privacy in my home... I need to make changes. Not so immediately as I...

Fin speaks sense, I was going to say NICE guidelines too I saw a good psychiatrist recently (though I paid £400 for the hour), and he absolutely and categorically told me that in the NHS, I have to promise to shout LOUD for help. Unfortunately, this is actually my experience in the past...

For me it is motorbike riding... and everything in the biker culture! Riding a motorbike has helped me to learn practical anxiety management, as I suffered a lot of anxiety in getting on the bike and would have to make extra time so I could work on that. Over 3 months I went from needing 2...

Argh I haven't even got further than this point without needing to reply in disgust at this and everything before it! CONFESSION! No time or energy?! Try being us for a day!!! Chill out?! YOU'RE ruining your life?? :wall: Some people seeeeeriously need a dose of reality. Sometimes when...