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I think I understand how you feel and what you have been doing through over the years. I can only explain why I understand by describing my own experiences. I also do the sort of things you describe (masturbate in private to thoughts and memories of my own childhood abuse). I re-create my...

I've been prescribed and started taking pregabalin. I'm experiencing some side effects, but it's very early days. I'd be grateful to hear from anyone who has taken it and if it helped with anxiety and panic attacks. Many thanks. Mit

I have complex trauma from childhood, which resulted in depression, anxiety attacks and self harming behaviour. Then six years ago I had another traumatic event. This second trauma made me even worse and I've not regained any ground since. I really try to help myself get better, but so far...

I can relate to that, very much. I have discussed my psychosexual problems at length and in detail with a number of therapists. Due to the nature of my problems, the generalist therapists have struggled with helping me, and have been honest about their lack of expertise. I paid privately to...

Hi Pinecone - I believe it is not uncommon to have sexual fantasises, (whether acted on or not) particularly in relation to sexual abuse. I do understand your feelings of guilt, although they are misplaced. My understanding is that sexual fantasises can be a way of coping with the trauma of...

About a month ago after a three year battle, I received my adoption records from social services. I knew virtually nothing before. My mother was 24 when she became pregnant with me, she was living at home with her parents and worked as a shop assistant. My father was a married man, age 42...

I was on Sertraline for three years, 200mg a day for the most of that time. I think it helped me get through a very difficult period in my life, although it didn't prevent me from taking an overdose. I eventually weaned myself off it over a period of six months as I became increasingly...

If I've got the gist of this thread, my emotions and inhibitions are connected in lots of ways. I fear people won't like me and I am desperate to be liked and wanted (fearful of abandonment) so I inhibit my natural tendencies, don't say what I'm really thinking, don't act myself, I try to be a...

I'm sorry you feel that way about yourself and I don't think you should. Not everybody wants or enjoys sex. We are all unique. I don't know how my libido compares to the 'average' but I don't particularly enjoy intercourse. It makes me feel self conscious, embarrassed, ashamed, pathetic...

My heart goes out to you. Sounds to me, that in spite of your own problems you're an awesome mum doing her level best for her child, and succeeding. Take a bow, you deserve to be honoured. From what I've read there are folk here with real insight and experience, so I don't think I can add...

It's an interesting experiment. I hope you'll feel able to update us on how it goes and any affects on you. I was adopted when I was five. My adoptive parents were and are good people. However there were significant 'gaps' in their parenting of me in that they were unable to recognise and...

I've just finished reading The Primal Wound by Nancy Verrier. It's about her belief that separation of the child from the birth mother causes a deep psychological wound, even in cases of adoption, where the adoptee was a baby and has no conscious memory of the events. She believes adoptees...

Keep going at it. Thinking of you.

I've a really bad cold and cough and am short of breath. Kill or cure, so I went to my usual north coast hidden beach for a swim Saturday and Sunday. I think it's kill. 3am and I'm up coughing and struggling to breathe, and writing this. Big waves Saturday, bigger waves Sunday, so diving...

Lost. You are a great communicator, insightful too. There are folk out there whose lives would be enriched by your friendship. I met my "longest serving" friend whilst at school. Our shared love of the outdoors, climbing, caving, took us around the world together. We've known each other for...

I went swimming in the sea on Tuesday, in a tiny cove at the extreme end of a long and popular beach. Had the the cove to myself. I had weird feelings, which I think were moments of contentment. Usually I don't feel anything emotionally but do these things because I know they are good for me...

I think I know what you mean. When I feel overwhelmed and exhausted emotionally I don't manage it, it manages me. Exercise is the only thing that helps me, no matter how tired I feel. It doesn't have to be energetic. Just a gentle walk helps. If you can manage energetic even better but...

The man who turned into a sofa. I've listened to this play before, about depression, but it was repeated last week and I think it's beautifully written. In case anybody else likes this sort of thing it's still available on the BBC Radio iplayer here: http://www.bbc.co.uk/programmes/b04gvw1t...

I've not been able to orgasm during intercourse for many years. My partner could never achieve orgasm during intercourse either, but she told me that had always been the case for her, with previous partners too. I had years of surgery on my bits which has left me with minimal sensation, which...

Thank you @Stickler I'm really grateful, it means a lot.

I went swimming in the sea this morning, at a very secret and secluded beach, only accessible to mountain goats and rock climbers. No wet suit, in fact nothing at all, nobody there to see me. The sea is still quite cold here, for me anyway so it took half an hour to work my way in, over coming...

I'm sorry this day should cause you distress. It's a thinly veiled commercial exercise in truth. But I'll be part of it, both as an adopted son and a dad. I know I have faults and issues and have made some big mistakes, but I do my best for my own to sons. I hope they can see that. It also...

I've read through al the responses, repeatedly over the last couple of weeks, trying to understand and relate to other peoples struggles, appreciating the courage, and building up my own. I re-create and act out scenes (on myself) and feelings of childhood psychosexual traumas / humiliating...

It is appalling that they did that to you. I am so sorry. You should have been loved and cherished by your parents. Their behaviour and explanations make no sense and are unjustifiable. I was given up at birth and adopted when I was five. I spent a lot of the first five years in hospital. I...

@Simply Simon It was strange reading your reference to rock climbing. I started rock climbing and caving in my teens and quickly became obsessed with it, and good at it. I travelled the world climbing and caving. I was rubbish at sports at school so I used my small stature to excel at these...