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@Sighs Same here. Good days are few and far between. Maybe it 's a rough patch for your vet. I hope things improve for you and him. : )

@Sighs that's exactly what I'm struggling with right now...how much is excusable. I don't even know if he sees what he's doing. I guess I'll see what tomorrow brings...if he changes his mind on the counseling and refuses to go I guess that 's where I need to draw my line.

@Sighs Thanks for the perspective. Sometimes it makes me feel like I'm in an abusive relationship. I know there's more to it than that with the PTSD/combat training but it's still not easy. It truly does help every time I get perspective or gain education on the matter. Thank you!

@FridayJones so yes, this does sound like Marine Corp and PTSD coming in to play?

No, he drove tanks for convoys. I think he brought a lot back with him though, I met him years after he served.

Thanks @Santa_Laurie we're supposed to go to counseling through the VA so I'm hoping to address these issues and set rules and guidelines up together...nervous he's going to try to get out of going though. I feel like he likes feeling like he's controlling me.

Thanks @Sighs . I know it's not me just wish it wasn't this lose lose situation everyday. I know I'm not an idiot but I think he likes to make me feel like I would be so helpless without him. No fun. : (

My fiancé has PTSD from serving overseas in the Marine Corp. we just got over a PTSD, hmm I don't know what you'd call it, episode I guess where he was going to end our relationship because of stress but now wants to do counseling. We used to have a good relationship, pretty normal, but with...

I have a son with my ex husband and one with my fiancé. We have been engaged two and a half years. I moved in when we got engaged and our son together is almost eighteen months. When we started dating my ex husband got very jealous and started making things difficult. My fiancé said that he knew...

What you said makes a lot of sense ,unfortunately I'm dealing with an unreasonable ex husband who's goal it is to make my life difficult and a fiancé who while is a wonderful man is also right now not in a reasonable state of mind. Which is the dilemma at hand. I have and his family has tried...

Agreed, that is the hardest part about this. My son doesn't remember a time without my fiancé and now he's going to lose him completely.

He now wants us to leave as soon as possible. Most of the time he is cold and ignores me, last night we had a conversation (started with a fight) and he ended up apologizing for being cold, he says he still lovers me and it's hard for him too but he has to put up that wall to be strong. We have...

@Recovery4Me no he is done with me and my son...he looks at the packaged deal as also including my ex husband . The trigger was my ex husband doing some updates on his house (I pay him child support which my fiancé hates) and my son making some cards for his dad. He feels my ex husband is...

I've posted a couple times on here already...been a couple weeks I think. My fiancé decided one day (about a month ago) he no longer could deal with my ex husband (father of my first son). We also have a son together . My fiancé served two tours in Iraq and has been diagnosed with PTSD. He's had...

He does tell me that he numbs his emotions. So Sunday he was happy and joking around for a while, did he decide to let go of the numbing for a while? I know you cAn only guess, just curious if that's what sometimes happens.

Thanks everyone for the advice and input. He is definetly not up for going to the VA or getting help so that's the task at hand but I spoke with someone at the VA today and do have some ideas. I'm just doing my best to avoid him for now and not talk to him since I know that's what he...

I have been with my fiancé for three years and he has always told me he has PTSD (served two tours in Iraq in the Marine Corp), but I've never really seen it. Looking back and after doing research he definitely displayed symptoms (alcohol abuse was his biggest symptom) but he at least always...

Hi Ashley, My fiancé of three years is doing the same thing. Says he can't handle everything and just needs to be alone. Says he's fine but clearly he's not. And NOBODY can get through to him. Maybe not as much back and forth as what you're going through, he just says he's done. We also have a...

Yes, I 'm only in the house when I have to be...I've been staying with friends and family 90% of the time but I'm begging to think he's not changing his mind and I may just need to move out permanently.

I have a question for you...I don't know if your situation is similar to what me and my (I guess former) fiancé are going through. I haven't done anything to him. I've always been a good fiancé and he knows I love him. He now blames me for his anxiety and stress because of my ex but I have no...

I'm glad things are going well for you! : ) Like you did I think I am coming to terms with the end and accepting it. He is taking what he feels is the easy road and wants to live alone because it's easier. Trying to change his mind will only push him further away and I can't keep living with...

No problem, sometimes you just need to do a lot of writing/talking to heal. I hope things are going better for you and thank you for sharing. : )

Thank you, I appreciate the feedback very much. : )

Thank you for the reply! I did read the stress cup it was incredibly helpful. I've kept myself busy researching PTSD and learned a ton. You're absolutely right, nobody except him knows what he's thinking and I don't even know that he is sure what he wants. Am I better off leaving him completely...

My fiancé just out of the blue told me he is done because he cannot deal with the stress of my ex husband which he has been very supportive of and helpful with in the past. In fact, the stress there is very minimal compared to what it used to be, but my fiancé now obsesses over it. And to be...