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I'm sorry things are so hard right now. I have definitely been in that place where I am hypersensitive to every insult or perceived insult. It's very painful, but I also think it's normal given our upbringings. Parents are almost the gods of a child's world, and when a parent is abusive or...

Sorry @Solara, but noise is a trigger and a stressor for me, so it's hard for me to make a division between the two. I don't experience the same revulsion to porn as you appear to, finding it basically neutral, but I have a lot of triggers around noise so that's where I was coming from. I...

mytai - You didn't ruin his weekend. This is why he's the boss - he gets paid more for the added responsibility and employees can't always help it when things go wrong - especially when it involves health issues. Also, given that you're in ON, I think you have some protection/rights here.

Your partner shouldn't have made an agreement he couldn't stick to, he shouldn't have broken your agreements, and he shouldn't have lied to you. All of those things suck. But you can only control your own actions. Is his watching porn a dealbreaker for you? I know you said it was a trigger for...

@Solara - I hope you know that you trusting someone and them letting you down is their failure and stupidity and not yours.

There's lots of trauma all over the place on both sides of my family that manifests in a few different ways but I do believe I'm the first and only one to be diagnosed with anything, probably because I'm the first person to seek outside help for my mental health. I'm convinced that my mother has...

The moments, in retrospect, that I feel a sense of belonging in the world are moments when it's not even a question of belonging or wanting to belong. Those glorious moments are the moments when I stop questioning, doubting or defending my right to exist in the world, when I feel safe, when I...

Going for a walk outside really helps me. The change of scenery, the fresh air, the burning off of all that panicky energy (we need to discharge it somehow).

I am grateful for hours and hours of good sleep.

I spent all of Saturday afternoon and evening sleeping and now I feel well-rested and contented and peaceful. I'm really looking forward to going for a walk and starting my day in earnest.

@Solara - what about a journal and/or notepad on the computer? When I keep things inside, it's almost like they fester and grow worse, but a journal gives me a safe space to unburden all my feelings and usually gives me some clarity to boot.

I feel like belonging comes from within. It's when you stop questioning your right to exist in certain spaces and places/the world, when you believe that you're allowed to be who and what and where you are. I also think it's pretty high up on the hierarchy of needs in the sense that if you're...

I guess the place to start with is do you want to have another child? Do you want to take care of and raise another child? Do you feel capable of doing that? How does your partner feel? What do you mean "flagged as unstable"? Do you have a good support system? Do you share custody with your 4...

I think what your partner is indicating by his behaviour and attitude is that you are a very big and important part of his future. I'm guessing he's like my partner - the reason he works as hard as he does is because he wants to be able to take care of those he loves. Yes, you have privilege...

Why were you weaning off pot in the first place? Was/Is it the internalized scripts about marijuana and the shame of being a "pothead"? What actually is the difference to you between being a "pothead" and a a "Wellbutrin-head"? They're both medicine, both can be used to treat/manage PTSD...

Are you saying I provoked you? ;) I so, I'm glad! Good for you for accepting credit where credit's due! I can't find a clapping or cheering smileyface, but if I could I'd put it here =>

Do it! You're allowed to receive and enjoy compliments and you totally deserve to be complimented! I think I just consider walking away a boundary. Refusing to engage, only being willing to engage respectfully, taking time before responding - all healthy boundaries. To me, boundaries are the...

Rambo First Blood - I think that's a valid point. Most pop culture references to men with PTSD that I can think of are about a man with a gun or a knife threatening and/or terrifying people, including or especially his family. That is a hurdle. I am often uncomfortable answering the question...

I agree with you wholeheartedly. When someone tries to provoke us, we have to assert and defend/enforce our boundaries. Silly or not, I sometimes have the same problems with inanimate objects. It's really hard to take a deep breath sometimes. At least for me. I feel you on your whole post...

I dread confrontations too, CraftyCath. Maybe it would help to reframe it as a discussion about boundaries or as asserting your boundaries instead of a confrontation? Maybe this person will be able to hear and respect what you say without it escalating? I hope so.

MSMiller - it seems like it would be really painful to just push forward. What about your feelings and well-being? They matter.

How did it go wrong? I'm a sufferer with a(n undiagnosed) sufferer, and sometimes we snap at each other because we're stressed. I call him on it - he needs to be aware of himself and what he needs and I need him to not take his shit out on me. I'm willing to be understanding and supportive, but...

Also, her negative reactions or responses are on her. You are not responsible for them. You're responsible for your feelings and your boundaries and she's responsible for hers. Cancellations happen, and if she needs to be informed within a certain time frame, it's her duty to convey that time...

macca - Just explain that you aren't/do not feel safe enough for EMDR but you do need and want a regular session so that you can work on that safety. It's the truth, being aware and assertive of your boundaries is proactive and it's exactly the kind of progress I'd think a t would want their...

I'm guessing he was trying to do too much and none of it went according to plan, but in a way, that is setting himself up for hassle and argument. One of the most important things a sufferer can do for themselves and the people who love them is learn to manage themselves better. If he'd taken...