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It’s something he’s always had on, even before we were together! But, he did finally respond. He said he loves me a lot too and he’s not doing okay. Also said that he’s “doing a lot of rethinking about what he can do.” He’s had a realization that he can’t do Firefighting (because his body is...

My boyfriend and I haven't talked since Tuesday night. I had a feeling something was wrong, but he reassured me that night that he was all right. I know one has no control over PTSD and what happens, but he usually tells me that "hey, I'm not okay" and that's my cue to give him his space. I...

Definitely need more advice because I'm freaking out... My boyfriend just deleted all of his social media (which he doesn't do whenever he's in a rut). I'm honestly at a loss... I'm just concerned even more so now...

I'm in this same exact boat right now! And hearing that other people feel the same way is a bit reassuring...

I will definitely look at this thread! Thank you so much... Honestly, you're right. I gotta look after myself. It just seems selfish to do so when he's possibly in a rut. :-(

Thank you so much! He's said before that I don't bother him and that my texts do bring him back to reality, but I've lived my entire life being a burden and an annoyance to many people (including family), that it's a bit difficult to shake that feeling off and it's even more prominent when he...

Hi, everyone. I figured I would gain some insight as to how some of you deal with certain situations. I don't have many friends who can relate to the relationship I currently have with my boyfriend and in the past, many of you have shed some light and provided support for me when I needed it...

So, it wouldn’t be wise to let him know that I’m worried? I’ve just been sending him a good morning text with cute gifs of corgis (he loves those types of dogs), as well as letting him know that I’m still here and I love him...

You’re right. I’ll try and do that. I usually just send him a good morning text and then a good night text.

I suppose you are right. I’ve just grown accustomed to him telling me that something is wrong, so I back off.

It’s a bit odd because one minute, we’re really great and the next, this happens and I know I have no control over it. This past weekend, he’s admitted that I was the best thing to ever happen to him and it caught me off guard because he doesn’t usually say things like that. I started noticing...

It’s been two days.

Hi, everyone. So, I’ve had previous threads here before and it helped me a great deal. And yet again, I need some help and reassurance. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year. He is a former Marine who had done two tours overseas. He has had flashbacks where he isolates...

I think I will have to have a conversation with him about what steps that I could take when it happens again. We have had it briefly but that was early on in the relationship, so I think we may have to revisit it again. Thank you.

He ended up just replying with "good looks" (as in, good looking out since I said if he wanted to vent and have a listening ear, I would be there). I told him I loved him and that was it. I just hope he is okay and that what ever I told him (ie. how he's amazing, he did everything he could...

Hi. So, my boyfriend just told me that a Marine he trained had died and he shut down on me. I expected that he would shut me out, but he mentioned that he felt like a failure and that he's just really tired... He mentioned this about two weeks ago as well. I tried to make him feel better by...

Hi everyone! This past Saturday was a great day for me and my boyfriend. We spent the day with my family and he was bonding so much with them. Then, came the alcohol. It was a good buzz. We went back to my place and that’s when he finally admitted what was on his mind. He’s turning 29 soon...

Hi everyone. I've posted quite a lot in the past few days and it's helped a lot with the many great responses I've received. Anyway, my boyfriend has recently gotten a flashback. It took him about a day for him to tell me that he had a flashback and that he just "needs time to flush it out." I...

Thank you so much... I needed to hear all of this. I got extremely emotional while watching the documentary. I sent him a long text message saying that I watched it and that I appreciated him sending it to me... That I also admire his strength and courage to have to deal with the aftermath and...

Thank you everyone for responding. The thing is that my boyfriend doesn't like to talk much about his time when he was in the military. I learned not to push subjects that he isn't comfortable with and to allow him to come to me. I did end up sending him a message saying that if he wanted to...

Hey. My boyfriend is a former Marine who had a flashback a couple of days ago and had been distancing himself from me. I'm starting to understand that he needs his space and so I give it to him to allow him to deal with it on his own. Today, I decided to send him a message to remind him that...

Oh my goodness... Thank you so much!!! I really appreciate you giving me all the advice that I need to understand what I can do for next time. He really deserves the best of the best and I'm trying my hardest to abide his wishes. However, my boyfriend's never really had anything good in his...

Thank you so much. I needed to hear all of this. It's helped me realize that this isn't about me. I will definitely check out the stress cup model. Thank you again.

Gahh... Thank you for that. I do want to be with him long term, as he's also said that to me as well, but again, you are right. It makes complete sense. Thank you so much. I feel a lot better. I can't really talk to my close friends about this because none of them can really understand, but I...

Thank you. It's just tough to hear that he's struggling/hurting and I can't do anything to help him, you know? I told him I would respect his wishes to be alone and that I would be there for him. But you're right. He's gotta learn for himself to rely on me in a much healthier way.