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Also want to say I watched that series and missed this term, but the series is very good. I recommend a lot.

Omg @Sighs I just looked up amygdala hijacks and this is so helpful to know! It explains so much to me!! :woot:

Oops...I misunderstood the original post and missed you were asking about his triggers....duh! Sorry for my lame response!

@tobunika I had something very similar happen to me recently and I spent a lot of time thinking about it. :) too much time! I think it has to do with feeling like they are broken and feeling like something is wrong with them. Also maybe discomfort talking about anything that has to do with...

:hug: I'll have a mojito! :D

:hug: I hear ya! @tiredtexan what happened with the couple's counseling? Did that ever happen?

You're welcome @boodle . Thanks for your return hug. I needed it too! :)

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@boodle I don't know if it's helpful, but yes, this happens to me too. for me, not super critical...well, for me it is but not as much as I've read here in other situations. But the turning things around on me and blaming me for doing something that I have not done, but that he has actually...

@Drizzle this won't allow me to paste the link here. If you go to the forums page on this site and go to the military and emergency services forum page, the link is there. It's mycombatptsd. I hope you can see it. Link Removed [Mod edit to include link]

@PartTimeWarriorLover I'm glad things are better for you guys. I know you were having a rough time of it. I read your diary :) Things are good for me too. Only I've been thinking today what I will do or how I will handle things next time things get sticky. It may be unrealistic of me to think...

@scout86 I really like what you say here. I think it explains why someone (not just a sufferer) "shuts out" very well. I have learned this is what is happening in my relationship when a shut out is going on. It took me a while to figure out! It also highlights how people feel differently about...

There is a forum on here for combat vets. It's a closed group. Maybe you could check it out and see if that's helpful. I know the VA has issues and depending on where you are, some are better than others. There are a couple in my location that are very good. I hope where you are there are good...

@Drizzle I'm so sorry to hear your struggle. You're seeing a doc, are you in therapy as well? Actually seeing a therapist to talk to and group therapy as well. There are lots of programs at VA too - like mindfulness therapy and the like that I hear is very helpful for some. Are you just seeing a...

We'll everything sounds pretty good for you...I'm happy to hear it! Things are going well for me too. Family situation much better and back on with my guy after Christmas. We worked through some of our kinks, but moment by moment, right? For now, it's great, though! So happy to hear you're...

I figured that out when I looked for your post. Haha! Eggshells is much more clever. :)

Sorry @Glara . I got mixed up from the different threads I was writing on last night!

@Newtoptsd how are you? Sounds like things are kind of ok with your guy? Communicating at least. Any news?

hahaha! I'll check them out.

Oh I see. I was mistaken and thought you haven't met in person yet. It also sounds like he's in therapy? So that's a good thing. When is the therapy over? This strict program? @Glara I'm sorry to hear you've got these health issues, but happy to hear your vet is supporting you well.

Seems like he was asking for you to tell him that you really like him and you don't have bad taste. Have you seen pictures of him? It doesn't sound like you're in a shut out. If it were me, I would not try to get him to say that he likes you and misses you. It seems like he wants to be sure...

@ldj I'm glad you liked that thread. Yes, many thanks to this forum! :) What's your situation now? how long has there been no contact and what precipitated it? If you want to share, that is! :hug:

@tobunika my post here is two shutouts ago! Well, really only a little one recently. But yeah, the one from this posting lasted five weeks. Not easy! And like @Glara I think it always may be the last time. I also thought he was really done but I just didn't want to give up. I will say for my...

It sounds like your text was a good thing. I hope you're doing well with your family this holiday weekend! Thanks for your well wishes. Things for me and my family are actually much better over the past week or so. I am now missing him and wanting to reach out to him now! But I won't. It...

Forgot to add...the nature of our break ups usually have to do with him shutting me out for several weeks. It takes him a long time to process and cool off and I guess also decide if he wants to get back with me. During these times I text a lot. The last time I realized I needed to stop being...