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So how did things change @leehalf?

Yes! Exactly how I feel in my situation.

Oh it's a pattern all right. And it will be for good one day except it will be me who won't be back.

P.S. I also think @Junebug is very wise and helpful.

There are a few things that keep me coming back, @TwilightDream . One, I truly feel like he is my soulmate. It's that kind of feeling, ya know? Two, I see him struggling, and I keep the hope that he can pull through and work with me. Three, I am at a place in my life (middle age and all that...

Hi there @TwilightDream, nice to meet you too! I started to read your diary but it was after midnight and I couldn't keep my eyes open! Well, it is not easy! But ultimately, if the other person isn't willing to talk and work things out, there really is no other option but to accept it. It...

@B.J. I know you are having such a hard time with this now. I see you really struggling and I am so sorry you are going through this. @Hojay's response to you really spoke to me because I do think this could be a break up. He said he needs time and you are forgiven, but I don't think that means...

How long does it take you guys to calm down @leehalf?

Can I ask what exactly is triggering him and causing him to panic? Do you know that?

Oh yes he would actually. Maybe I will do that after all! Good idea. Still would only have one bullet :)

Oh I am so in this place right now! I wish I could help. I can't even get to the bullet points stage although it would just be one - talk to me!!!

Why, what's going on?

This makes a lot of sense.

I also recommend reading "My PTSD Partner Left Me -Now What?" in the article section on this forum site. It is a quick read and informative introduction into many of the aspects that has come up on this thread. I have read it a few times and it is a great reminder to me now.

Agree whole heartedly. Try to get through this day.

Did you talk to people about him and his PTSD?

I started to think my sister has PTSD after coming on this site and learning a lot. I recently asked her if she does (we were in a conversation about it), and she said yes. I didn't ask her if she has been diagnosed because we ended up getting in a very nasty fight (not related to our PTSD...

Lesson learned. Don't beat yourself up over it. You can show him you learned the lesson and are doing what he suggested. Which is a good suggestion, I might add. You can continue to read and research on your own.

Ok, I have had success but I think it was success in spite of it rather than because of it. I do think there was the odd time that it was because of it in the beginning. Maybe it showed him I was serious in my feelings for him? Or maybe its because he truly feels for me the way i feel for him...

The value of open communication.

Air Force is great @Freida! I should have him Air Force. That's where the smart people are. Wow, 11 years. Now that puts it into perspective!

@B.J. I think that is a good question to anyone who has lost a relationship with someone they love and with someone they perhaps don't want to lose. It is a very hard thing to deal with! It takes time, of course. Number one is acceptance, I think. Acceptance that the relationship is over and...

Wow @Friday you're a Marine? Respect! Army here and I don't think I could have made it through marine boot camp. I was thinking about needs vs wants last night. Now in this case it is probably correct they need different things because @Chlowe Girl has said she wants (needs) babies and him...

Um, that is one of the oddest auto corrects I've seen. We don't wrestle any husbands :confused:

@Sweetpea76 That is the best! I was attracted to so many things right from the day we met. He is attentive, has the biggest heart and is so compassionate and sees the good in people even though he has seen the absolute worst of society. He is a great father too. He works hard and struggles a...