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My boyfriend started therapy recently and it seems likely he has PTSD. I suspect he is going to need support as he starts his journey. This site has been so helpful to me and I thought about telling him about it. It might be awkward though, if we are both users. I have talked about him in my...

I've been following along (low on words), but I'll agree it sounds like you handled it well. And I would find the whole thing strange and unsettling if I was in your shoes.

I had the appointment with my surgeon today. I agreed to the spinal fusion. I don't know why, but I feel like melting down. Like now it's a reality. At the same time, the surgery isn't scheduled because I need insurance approval. And so I can't plan anything. And honestly, fusion scare the wits...

Completely understand where you are coming from. It's so hard and draining. Be gentle on yourself and try and find some good distractions.

I am so sorry you went through that. And I hope you can take on JoeyLittle's wise words. My father sexually abused me and I used to always do the comparing thing. It starts as a self-protection but it really interferes with healing. What matters is that harm was done to you. That someone in...

Thank you @Freddyt I really appreciate all the support you've given. I did manage to make a few more calls. So after the really crappy experience my last steroid injection, I told my doctor I wanted to see someone else. Which is a step for me instead of just accepting the orignal referral...

I am 51. Really just started getting into relationships about 5 or so years ago? And ... I will deny this later (haha) but my current relationship is on a completely different level. It's healthy, loving and becoming more serious. In past relationships I've kept a lot of my issues hidden. I'm...

I'm low on words but just wanted to say I am so sorry you went through that. It sounds truly horrible.

I swear to God this process is going to break me. my unregulated response is to say maybe I should just accept I'm meant to live like this. I should just stop trying to get my back fixed stop whining just be fine I know that's me being unregulated. I know I should keep making phone calls and...

Hi and welcome I am ftm/non-binary and have DID, so you aren't alone in that. I hope you find lots of support here.

The more I think about it, the more I expect that insurance will deny another steroid injection. So, that might change my plan a bit. Questions for my doctor Why do you recommend fusion over something like a discectomy? Since you've recommended spinal fusion, does this mean my spine is...

hehe, this actually makes me giggle a bit. Rather to the point. Yes. Definitely keep flipping into avoidance mode. Of course :P /// Been having a lot of doubts about if fusion is the right surgery. Guess I have a plan of sorts. Wait and see if the steroid injection helps at all. Because that...

You are dealing with a lot of really hard things. I am sorry you are struggling so much. It's not surprising. Posting here and journalling can help. Are there any support groups for refuges where you are at? That might be something else you can try. It's going to take time to feel safe again.

Guess the doctor's appointment has upset us? That combined with our guinea pig being sick is too much maybe. We kind of shutdown or something. The news is what we feared and suspected. He thinks a fusion is what I need. As much as I don't want that, it's a big, freaking surgery, I am sort of...

In a way, it doesn't matter if it was abuse or not. It was harmful to you and that's what matters. Processing through that harm is what will put you on the path to healing. A therapist would best help you sort out what parts of your experience were abusive. It was clearly unhealthy and...

Tomorrow is my appointment with my surgeon. I didn't ask my friend to come with me. I don't know. She didn't offer so I didn't ask. Now I'm getting nervous. I feel like I should have planned out questions but that never seems to work for me. I'm getting nervous for the appointment.

As far as why you are having the dreams, that's hard to say for sure. And probably something to keep working on with your therapist. Something that my old therapist had me do, to help make dreams less traumatizing is to rework them. Like after you wake up, change the dream. So imagine yourself...

Well, my guinea pig got super sick. Got home about 4am last night from the emergency vet. Headed there after work yesterday. (She's doing ok). I'm putting a positive spin on it. Thank goodness it happened now, not just after surgery. I just sat down after doing stuff and thought, "I am not in...

It worked!! I left a message with his staff and I now have an appointment for Thursday! I can't even express how relieved I am. And also pleased with myself. I actually did it. Interesting. I don't really think of the things I'm not getting done as burdens. But if I think about getting help...

Ok Friday, thanks for that. (And oof). Ok, first- called the Surgeon's office and left a message with his assistant. See if I can get in sooner. If not, well, I'll try calling regularly to see if there's any cancellations. (They don't have a cancel list). It seems incredibly needy and wrong to...

Congrats on being sober. That is a huge success. I am also a huge fawner. And I get very angry with myself over it. I can relate so much to this. I guess the way to look at it, is that you went to those personality traits. Not everyone who has trauma is kind and considerate or jovial. Some...